Under that pressure you begin to hate yourself because of your apparent inability to fit in. No matter what you do, people who don't know you, insist you don't belong, but can't give you any other options. Do you think maybe being constantly gaslighted like that would affect your mental health?

Consider that instead of a gender/sex assigned at birth, you're just given a list of things people expect you to like, and guidelines for how you should act outside of following the rules. Every time you push back or say, "No, I don't like this," everyone around you tells you how wrong you are.