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Elizabeth Snow
@elizabeth-snow.bsky.social
Call me Ez, any/ae/aer (like air), a baiman (not woman or man but both) dealing with chronic illness, mental health, ADHD, faith, & parenthood. Writer. Queer. Story and character nerd. Freelance editor.
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Expressing my frustration helps me see where I'm justified & where my anger is masking anxiety. I probably shouldn't vent here, but it's better than yelling at them until I work it out, which is where I started 20yrs ago. I'm just tired.
December 5, 2025 at 8:30 PM
It's all good. I'd probably assume the same if my friend had to vent like this. I just process things better out loud sometimes, and I grew up with people who did consistently invalidate my feelings, which is one reason I over react-preemptive self defense, so I have to reflect on my reactions
December 5, 2025 at 8:30 PM
That's the goal!
December 5, 2025 at 8:12 PM
The difficulty is balancing the double act of learning self-regulation & offering patient accountability with the double act of requesting reasonable accommodation for myself & accepting due responsibility. We're both flawed & growing & damaged & healing

The ones who -aren't- trying don't get gifts
December 5, 2025 at 8:11 PM
In many relationships. In this instance, it really is just bc I happen to be healthier in this particular regard, not because they are being manipulative. I mean, yeah, they expect too much & more than they are able to give themselves, but they're growing & better than they've been.
December 5, 2025 at 8:11 PM
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December 5, 2025 at 7:43 PM
It's just the physics of that universe. Stars are sentient, the soul/consciousness is made of light that permeates the body, & ambient light is a tangible substance beyond solid, liquid, gas, or plasma
December 5, 2025 at 7:01 PM
Even more delicate work like gender affirmation or neurological repair is possible, but very few people are desperate enough to risk having it done (especially since there is very limited liability on the magistaire for freely sought procedures)

All why Alstair's services are so significant
December 5, 2025 at 6:45 PM
the reaction to being found attractive, whether it's disbelief, gratification, or something else. But all of that is done through tiny things like the warmth of a blush or the hitch of a breath or the stopping of thought. Even 1st sight infatuation is a flood of sensations that can be shared
December 5, 2025 at 6:26 PM
That may be the best thing I've read in a long time
December 5, 2025 at 2:57 PM
Go forth and be hot!
December 5, 2025 at 2:13 PM
Wow. Their life must be a ride.
December 5, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Oxblood & eucalyptus leaf give me the most holiday vibes from that selection, though the blue at the bottom is nice for winter in general
December 5, 2025 at 1:44 PM
It's not labeled for me!
December 5, 2025 at 1:32 PM
Being an adult w/personal buying power automatically makes you difficult to buy gifts for. Being less than expressive, doesn't collect anything, does -not- want fandom merch, & is admittedly picky about games & aesthetics makes you a fucking nightmare. If that hurts your feelings? Try the other side
December 5, 2025 at 1:30 PM
You don't get to be irrepressibly picky & judgemental AND get your feelings hurt when someone observes that you're difficult to shop for!

You don't get to complain about the gifts you've been given & then act confused when someone is anxious about giving you the wrong gifts.
December 5, 2025 at 1:30 PM
You don't get to claim to like random weird shit & be baffled as to why someone got you that campy looking record.

It's not fair to reject gimmicky 'useless'/decorative gifts as wasteful & annoying & then get irritated when asked what you actually want.
December 5, 2025 at 1:30 PM
Are we supposed to listen to your criticism of Christmas lists & then go use yours anyway without assuming you'll be disappointed to 'just get something off a list because we don't know you well enough to pick something out'? Is that conflict so difficult to understand?
December 5, 2025 at 1:30 PM