Dr Psych Mom
@drpsychmom1.bsky.social
Dr Samantha Rodman Whiten is a clinical psychologist, author, podcaster, wife and mom! Bestlifebehavioralhealth.com / drpsychmom.com / podcast: https://shorturl.at/KC8bK
Many women with low sex drives do have sex for the sake of the marriage, which seems generous in theory... But not if it's unenthusiastic.
drpsychmom.com/women-sex-is-a-way-to-work-on-your-marriage-but-not-if-you-phone-it-in/
drpsychmom.com/women-sex-is-a-way-to-work-on-your-marriage-but-not-if-you-phone-it-in/
May 20, 2025 at 4:48 PM
Many women with low sex drives do have sex for the sake of the marriage, which seems generous in theory... But not if it's unenthusiastic.
drpsychmom.com/women-sex-is-a-way-to-work-on-your-marriage-but-not-if-you-phone-it-in/
drpsychmom.com/women-sex-is-a-way-to-work-on-your-marriage-but-not-if-you-phone-it-in/
Having kids hugely changes self concept and marriage!
May 17, 2025 at 1:03 PM
Having kids hugely changes self concept and marriage!
It's the weekend!!!
May 2, 2025 at 12:04 PM
It's the weekend!!!
If you're used to the initiation style that women use in porn, and don't have much non-honeymoon stage experience with other women, you may well miss the signals that your wife is open to having sex.
open.spotify.com/episode/5ozK...
open.spotify.com/episode/5ozK...
April 26, 2025 at 7:48 PM
If you're used to the initiation style that women use in porn, and don't have much non-honeymoon stage experience with other women, you may well miss the signals that your wife is open to having sex.
open.spotify.com/episode/5ozK...
open.spotify.com/episode/5ozK...
I work with many couples who met in high school or college. These couples have a set of unique challenges, which need to be acknowledged if the couple wants to deal productively with issues that emerge over the years.
www.drpsychmom.com/unique-chall...
www.drpsychmom.com/unique-chall...
April 22, 2025 at 6:15 PM
I work with many couples who met in high school or college. These couples have a set of unique challenges, which need to be acknowledged if the couple wants to deal productively with issues that emerge over the years.
www.drpsychmom.com/unique-chall...
www.drpsychmom.com/unique-chall...
When you don't think you deserve better
April 18, 2025 at 3:21 PM
When you don't think you deserve better
This is what happens when you think that romantic closeness must just be for "other people."
www.drpsychmom.com/when-you-cho...
www.drpsychmom.com/when-you-cho...
April 15, 2025 at 11:42 PM
This is what happens when you think that romantic closeness must just be for "other people."
www.drpsychmom.com/when-you-cho...
www.drpsychmom.com/when-you-cho...
If you take out all the middlemen of masturbation, porn, or vibrators and are intimate more frequently, you grow more attuned to each other’s bodily needs and cycles. For example, a man will grow aware of the woman’s different arousal levels over the course of the menstrual cycle.
March 28, 2025 at 2:54 PM
If you take out all the middlemen of masturbation, porn, or vibrators and are intimate more frequently, you grow more attuned to each other’s bodily needs and cycles. For example, a man will grow aware of the woman’s different arousal levels over the course of the menstrual cycle.
Remember that the happy couples you see all have their own issues too!! There are no PERFECT couples or perfect anything. Understanding that everyone has struggles can be a huge step in your own growth.
February 25, 2025 at 5:54 PM
Remember that the happy couples you see all have their own issues too!! There are no PERFECT couples or perfect anything. Understanding that everyone has struggles can be a huge step in your own growth.
If you are still very defensive, saying that the issues were all your partner’s, rather than an unhealthy interface between two people and their individual issues, this could mean two things: (a) you are still very emotionally caught up in the marriage, and (b) your divorce will be bitter.
February 20, 2025 at 11:33 AM
If you are still very defensive, saying that the issues were all your partner’s, rather than an unhealthy interface between two people and their individual issues, this could mean two things: (a) you are still very emotionally caught up in the marriage, and (b) your divorce will be bitter.
This is why education and therapy are so key. Without those, partners deeply misunderstand the impact and consequences of abuse. The survivor AND the partner need to learn and grow.
www.drpsychmom.com/understand-p...
www.drpsychmom.com/understand-p...
February 8, 2025 at 8:55 PM
This is why education and therapy are so key. Without those, partners deeply misunderstand the impact and consequences of abuse. The survivor AND the partner need to learn and grow.
www.drpsychmom.com/understand-p...
www.drpsychmom.com/understand-p...
The disparity between what turns a woman on psychologically and erotically and what she requires in order to orgasm doesn’t seem to have a direct parallel in men.
www.drpsychmom.com/superstitiou...
www.drpsychmom.com/superstitiou...
February 7, 2025 at 1:44 PM
The disparity between what turns a woman on psychologically and erotically and what she requires in order to orgasm doesn’t seem to have a direct parallel in men.
www.drpsychmom.com/superstitiou...
www.drpsychmom.com/superstitiou...
4.You may have no safety net, so you feel trapped and anxious. It cannot be overstated how helpful it is to know that, if you really needed them, your parents would be there for you.
www.drpsychmom.com/5-ways-that-...
www.drpsychmom.com/5-ways-that-...
February 6, 2025 at 1:09 PM
4.You may have no safety net, so you feel trapped and anxious. It cannot be overstated how helpful it is to know that, if you really needed them, your parents would be there for you.
www.drpsychmom.com/5-ways-that-...
www.drpsychmom.com/5-ways-that-...
In a disconnected relationship, sex doesn't feel connecting. Working on the sex part without working on the relationship is a mistake. No matter the frequency of sex, if the couple doesn't feel close, it will feel like parallel play.
February 5, 2025 at 11:33 AM
In a disconnected relationship, sex doesn't feel connecting. Working on the sex part without working on the relationship is a mistake. No matter the frequency of sex, if the couple doesn't feel close, it will feel like parallel play.
Avoidant partner red flags
February 4, 2025 at 1:53 AM
Avoidant partner red flags
"I do (think I still) love her but I have been feeling very distant and I don’t know if this is something others struggle with or if I am alone. Is the marriage doomed to fail if I feel this way?"
www.drpsychmom.com/i-am-ashamed...
www.drpsychmom.com/i-am-ashamed...
February 1, 2025 at 1:23 PM
"I do (think I still) love her but I have been feeling very distant and I don’t know if this is something others struggle with or if I am alone. Is the marriage doomed to fail if I feel this way?"
www.drpsychmom.com/i-am-ashamed...
www.drpsychmom.com/i-am-ashamed...
Do you minimize your stressful childhood with trying to protect your kids from the same kinds of things you experienced?
January 30, 2025 at 7:30 PM
Do you minimize your stressful childhood with trying to protect your kids from the same kinds of things you experienced?
Many men I see in practice!
January 28, 2025 at 8:58 PM
Many men I see in practice!
Common misconception!!
January 28, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Common misconception!!
Anxiety = staying in comfort zone no matter what
January 27, 2025 at 9:33 PM
Anxiety = staying in comfort zone no matter what
In the large majority of cases the relationship itself feels cold to her and the sex feels cold to you. and this is because of overall lack of closeness and connection!
January 27, 2025 at 6:09 PM
In the large majority of cases the relationship itself feels cold to her and the sex feels cold to you. and this is because of overall lack of closeness and connection!