Cishetero randos at the park don't know any better so I'm not even mad when they misgender me, and I wouldn't have to commute to the damn suburbs for an affinity group that's just as bad. Food for thought if you run a gay mens rec sports group!

Lost energy to come up with a punchy end to this drunk rant so everyone just be nice to trans ppl I beg xoxo Kiran

To which I say gender non-conformity is part of the human experience eat shit and die, we do things we don't understand sometimes for ppl we love, why not do this? I swear it will stop feeling weird sooner than you think and we understand things for each other that others wouldnt all the time

And you could say ohhh trans ppl u think ur special life is hard and ur confusing, gender non-conformity is bourgeois

But what they DONT TELL YOU is that dysphoria hits the same when you don't pass, considerably more even! But it's fucking embarrassing to ask people not to misgender you so you just say it doesn't matter and feel like shit

All this to say I understand separatist shit, because you can try to communicate the bone deep horror of dysphoria but they don't understand and they don't care and trying to explain is fucking humiliating

Everyone in my life knows I'm taking hormones and amputating my fucking breasts in a month why would I enjoy you referring to me as a woman to my face

I wish I could tell some people that it actually does hurt when they constantly misgender me despite knowing full well what my deal is, with regular updates about my medical transition. But again, humiliation.

All this 2 say I sincerely admire people who stand up for themselves in these scenarios. I cannot. I wish I could.

Scenario 3. At work: Hello supervisor et al, I'm transmasc now he/they!

She oh uhh sorry they? Or uhh *coworkers who remember my pronouns look at me with pity*

*Apologizes and wishes lab meeting wasn't being held up by people accommodating me out of obligation*

Scenario 2. Amongst straight allies: I'm actually transmasc, he/they!

Oh my God I'm so sorry I'm just the worst next time I misgender you just hit me!!!

*Apologizes and reassures that it's no big deal just try your best no need to apologize I'm not sensitive I'm a chill one!!*

Scenario 1. at a gay bar: I'm actually transmasc, he/they!

Oh wow ok cool! So sorry it's just like you mentioned lesbians so I assumed but I'm SO sorry I'm like sooo dumb-

*Apologizes and clarifies that I haven't even been on T that long so there's no way to tell, I'm now comforting her*