Dr Kate - Psychologist
@dr-kate-psych.bsky.social
🖤 Trauma-Informed Registered Psychologist.
🌱 For anyone seeking a Compassionate Approach.
🌱 For anyone seeking a Compassionate Approach.
This combination= internal conflict = anxiety, depression & urges to escape through addictive behaviours.
Sensitive but validated = less internal conflict.
Less sensitive & invalidated = you may not have noticed the latter = may have escaped more unscathed.
Inspired by Amy Yandel Grabowski
5/5
Sensitive but validated = less internal conflict.
Less sensitive & invalidated = you may not have noticed the latter = may have escaped more unscathed.
Inspired by Amy Yandel Grabowski
5/5
January 26, 2025 at 8:47 PM
This combination= internal conflict = anxiety, depression & urges to escape through addictive behaviours.
Sensitive but validated = less internal conflict.
Less sensitive & invalidated = you may not have noticed the latter = may have escaped more unscathed.
Inspired by Amy Yandel Grabowski
5/5
Sensitive but validated = less internal conflict.
Less sensitive & invalidated = you may not have noticed the latter = may have escaped more unscathed.
Inspired by Amy Yandel Grabowski
5/5
Sensitive people are also better at sensing danger, and often have a strong sense of justice and need to advocate and speak up.
They will be the ones telling the emperor he has no clothes on. This is not always welcomed in families, or society, which adds to sense of invalidation.
4/5
They will be the ones telling the emperor he has no clothes on. This is not always welcomed in families, or society, which adds to sense of invalidation.
4/5
January 26, 2025 at 8:45 PM
Sensitive people are also better at sensing danger, and often have a strong sense of justice and need to advocate and speak up.
They will be the ones telling the emperor he has no clothes on. This is not always welcomed in families, or society, which adds to sense of invalidation.
4/5
They will be the ones telling the emperor he has no clothes on. This is not always welcomed in families, or society, which adds to sense of invalidation.
4/5
Through these experiences, we pick up messages about ourselves e.g., not good enough, not important, bad, unlovable, broken, powerless, which become self-fulfilling prophecies & shape how we see experiences.
Add to this, sensitivity, some people are just more intuitive & empathetic than others
3/5
Add to this, sensitivity, some people are just more intuitive & empathetic than others
3/5
January 26, 2025 at 8:44 PM
Through these experiences, we pick up messages about ourselves e.g., not good enough, not important, bad, unlovable, broken, powerless, which become self-fulfilling prophecies & shape how we see experiences.
Add to this, sensitivity, some people are just more intuitive & empathetic than others
3/5
Add to this, sensitivity, some people are just more intuitive & empathetic than others
3/5
Invalidation:
-Personal invalidation (don’t look like you look, or talk/ think/ feel that thing)
-Criticism (e.g., you’ll never get a boyfriend looking like that)
-Cultural invalidation (we’re X, we don’t waste time with that).
-Medical invalidation (e.g., being told you were ‘fine’).
2/5
-Personal invalidation (don’t look like you look, or talk/ think/ feel that thing)
-Criticism (e.g., you’ll never get a boyfriend looking like that)
-Cultural invalidation (we’re X, we don’t waste time with that).
-Medical invalidation (e.g., being told you were ‘fine’).
2/5
January 26, 2025 at 8:42 PM
Invalidation:
-Personal invalidation (don’t look like you look, or talk/ think/ feel that thing)
-Criticism (e.g., you’ll never get a boyfriend looking like that)
-Cultural invalidation (we’re X, we don’t waste time with that).
-Medical invalidation (e.g., being told you were ‘fine’).
2/5
-Personal invalidation (don’t look like you look, or talk/ think/ feel that thing)
-Criticism (e.g., you’ll never get a boyfriend looking like that)
-Cultural invalidation (we’re X, we don’t waste time with that).
-Medical invalidation (e.g., being told you were ‘fine’).
2/5
The uncertainty is so stressful...all we can do is wait and see right now
January 19, 2025 at 7:36 PM
The uncertainty is so stressful...all we can do is wait and see right now
Jfc. It feels like we're in a boat heading toward the brink of a waterfall.
January 19, 2025 at 2:35 PM
Jfc. It feels like we're in a boat heading toward the brink of a waterfall.
...So, what happens is these neurodivergent kids become scapegoated.
They become designated to carry the shame and blame by the narcissistic parent, who has to pretend to be perfect.”
~ Rabbi Shais Taub
Sharing in case these words are helpful to anyone else.
#traumahealing
They become designated to carry the shame and blame by the narcissistic parent, who has to pretend to be perfect.”
~ Rabbi Shais Taub
Sharing in case these words are helpful to anyone else.
#traumahealing
January 18, 2025 at 11:54 PM
...So, what happens is these neurodivergent kids become scapegoated.
They become designated to carry the shame and blame by the narcissistic parent, who has to pretend to be perfect.”
~ Rabbi Shais Taub
Sharing in case these words are helpful to anyone else.
#traumahealing
They become designated to carry the shame and blame by the narcissistic parent, who has to pretend to be perfect.”
~ Rabbi Shais Taub
Sharing in case these words are helpful to anyone else.
#traumahealing
because the narcissistic parent thrives on the lie that they are perfect, and the neurodivergent child can’t help themselves from saying the truth.
Not maliciously. The neurodivergent kid is not trying to bust anyone or shame them. ⏬️
Not maliciously. The neurodivergent kid is not trying to bust anyone or shame them. ⏬️
January 18, 2025 at 11:53 PM
because the narcissistic parent thrives on the lie that they are perfect, and the neurodivergent child can’t help themselves from saying the truth.
Not maliciously. The neurodivergent kid is not trying to bust anyone or shame them. ⏬️
Not maliciously. The neurodivergent kid is not trying to bust anyone or shame them. ⏬️
They don’t know that they’re saying anything wrong, they’re just: ‘I was just telling the truth’.
If you have in that same family and a narcissistic parent, then that truthteller child will be scapegoated ⏬️
If you have in that same family and a narcissistic parent, then that truthteller child will be scapegoated ⏬️
January 18, 2025 at 11:51 PM
They don’t know that they’re saying anything wrong, they’re just: ‘I was just telling the truth’.
If you have in that same family and a narcissistic parent, then that truthteller child will be scapegoated ⏬️
If you have in that same family and a narcissistic parent, then that truthteller child will be scapegoated ⏬️
Hey, good to see you over here, too!
January 18, 2025 at 11:22 PM
Hey, good to see you over here, too!
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 10 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 5 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 1 trauma memory.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 5 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 1 trauma memory.
January 18, 2025 at 11:16 AM
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 10 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 5 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 1 trauma memory.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 5 trauma memories.
10 good memories DOES NOT compensate for 1 trauma memory.