Debbie Butler
@debsahoy.bsky.social
Psychologist & Mentor | Working with Martin Butler’s Realism Philosophy | Helping You Drop Illusions & Live with Clarity
You don’t harm people because you’re cruel.
You harm them because you’re certain.
Certainty feels like truth
—but it’s often just nervous system relief.
And it escalates quietly.
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You harm them because you’re certain.
Certainty feels like truth
—but it’s often just nervous system relief.
And it escalates quietly.
Substack zurl.co/WwKWy
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/hJZnL
January 6, 2026 at 12:01 PM
You don’t harm people because you’re cruel.
You harm them because you’re certain.
Certainty feels like truth
—but it’s often just nervous system relief.
And it escalates quietly.
Substack zurl.co/WwKWy
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/hJZnL
You harm them because you’re certain.
Certainty feels like truth
—but it’s often just nervous system relief.
And it escalates quietly.
Substack zurl.co/WwKWy
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/hJZnL
Going back to work after Christmas isn’t a motivation problem
It’s your nervous system recognizing constraint
Resentment isn’t weakness
It’s accuracy:
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It’s your nervous system recognizing constraint
Resentment isn’t weakness
It’s accuracy:
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January 5, 2026 at 6:45 AM
Going back to work after Christmas isn’t a motivation problem
It’s your nervous system recognizing constraint
Resentment isn’t weakness
It’s accuracy:
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Patreon: zurl.co/1Z7ME
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/C3dcs
It’s your nervous system recognizing constraint
Resentment isn’t weakness
It’s accuracy:
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Patreon: zurl.co/1Z7ME
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/C3dcs
You didn’t choose your goals.
You noticed them once they were already installed—by culture, status, fear, and imitation.
Believing otherwise is how the illusion survives.
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You noticed them once they were already installed—by culture, status, fear, and imitation.
Believing otherwise is how the illusion survives.
Read More on Patreon: zurl.co/muvdw
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/PBe0c
January 4, 2026 at 12:02 PM
You didn’t choose your goals.
You noticed them once they were already installed—by culture, status, fear, and imitation.
Believing otherwise is how the illusion survives.
Read More on Patreon: zurl.co/muvdw
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/PBe0c
You noticed them once they were already installed—by culture, status, fear, and imitation.
Believing otherwise is how the illusion survives.
Read More on Patreon: zurl.co/muvdw
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/PBe0c
You didn’t choose your goals
You absorbed them — from culture, status, fear, and imitation
Choice comes later, as a story the mind tells to protect identity
This essay dismantles that illusion
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Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/U6pNZ
You absorbed them — from culture, status, fear, and imitation
Choice comes later, as a story the mind tells to protect identity
This essay dismantles that illusion
Patreon: zurl.co/9uQI5
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/U6pNZ
January 3, 2026 at 12:16 PM
You didn’t choose your goals
You absorbed them — from culture, status, fear, and imitation
Choice comes later, as a story the mind tells to protect identity
This essay dismantles that illusion
Patreon: zurl.co/9uQI5
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/U6pNZ
You absorbed them — from culture, status, fear, and imitation
Choice comes later, as a story the mind tells to protect identity
This essay dismantles that illusion
Patreon: zurl.co/9uQI5
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/U6pNZ
Motivation isn’t missing. It’s refusing.
Your body already decided—your mind tells the story after.
This article dismantles willpower, discipline, and the fantasy of control.
Why is motivation a lie? zurl.co/mW7mj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/RA55g
Your body already decided—your mind tells the story after.
This article dismantles willpower, discipline, and the fantasy of control.
Why is motivation a lie? zurl.co/mW7mj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/RA55g
January 2, 2026 at 12:01 AM
Motivation isn’t missing. It’s refusing.
Your body already decided—your mind tells the story after.
This article dismantles willpower, discipline, and the fantasy of control.
Why is motivation a lie? zurl.co/mW7mj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/RA55g
Your body already decided—your mind tells the story after.
This article dismantles willpower, discipline, and the fantasy of control.
Why is motivation a lie? zurl.co/mW7mj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/RA55g
January isn’t a fresh start.
It’s a ritual that lets you ignore causation and blame yourself later.
If dates changed behavior, your life would look different by now.
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It’s a ritual that lets you ignore causation and blame yourself later.
If dates changed behavior, your life would look different by now.
Patreon: zurl.co/JB0oj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/19eYw
January 1, 2026 at 12:01 AM
January isn’t a fresh start.
It’s a ritual that lets you ignore causation and blame yourself later.
If dates changed behavior, your life would look different by now.
Patreon: zurl.co/JB0oj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/19eYw
It’s a ritual that lets you ignore causation and blame yourself later.
If dates changed behavior, your life would look different by now.
Patreon: zurl.co/JB0oj
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/19eYw
Your New Year’s resolutions fail for the same reason they always have: nothing causal changed.
Calendars don’t rewrite psychology.
Fantasy isn’t agency—it’s denial with good lighting.
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Calendars don’t rewrite psychology.
Fantasy isn’t agency—it’s denial with good lighting.
Patreon: zurl.co/lpo39
Martin Butler: zurl.co/wYUdq
December 31, 2025 at 12:03 PM
Your New Year’s resolutions fail for the same reason they always have: nothing causal changed.
Calendars don’t rewrite psychology.
Fantasy isn’t agency—it’s denial with good lighting.
Patreon: zurl.co/lpo39
Martin Butler: zurl.co/wYUdq
Calendars don’t rewrite psychology.
Fantasy isn’t agency—it’s denial with good lighting.
Patreon: zurl.co/lpo39
Martin Butler: zurl.co/wYUdq
Shocking Holiday Truth: Your Emotions Between Christmas & New Year Exposed! 😱 Brutal Breakdown:
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Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler
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Patreon: zurl.co/hawnG
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler
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December 30, 2025 at 12:01 PM
Shocking Holiday Truth: Your Emotions Between Christmas & New Year Exposed! 😱 Brutal Breakdown:
Substack: zurl.co/rvECi
Patreon: zurl.co/hawnG
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/R6IvM
Substack: zurl.co/8x715
Substack: zurl.co/rvECi
Patreon: zurl.co/hawnG
Negative Philosophy & Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/R6IvM
Substack: zurl.co/8x715
Suicide doesn’t prove a hidden wish for death. It proves that life was overpowered. The death drive is a comforting myth that keeps responsibility safely inside the individual psyche.
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December 29, 2025 at 12:31 PM
Suicide doesn’t prove a hidden wish for death. It proves that life was overpowered. The death drive is a comforting myth that keeps responsibility safely inside the individual psyche.
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Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/9udq5
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Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/9udq5
People aren’t honest because they value truth.
They’re honest because lying becomes costly.
Remove consequences, and morality evaporates.
That isn’t cynicism. It’s realism: zurl.co/t5vUo
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They’re honest because lying becomes costly.
Remove consequences, and morality evaporates.
That isn’t cynicism. It’s realism: zurl.co/t5vUo
Patreon: zurl.co/KcnU6
Martin Butler: zurl.co/VXL2Y
December 28, 2025 at 12:27 PM
People aren’t honest because they value truth.
They’re honest because lying becomes costly.
Remove consequences, and morality evaporates.
That isn’t cynicism. It’s realism: zurl.co/t5vUo
Patreon: zurl.co/KcnU6
Martin Butler: zurl.co/VXL2Y
They’re honest because lying becomes costly.
Remove consequences, and morality evaporates.
That isn’t cynicism. It’s realism: zurl.co/t5vUo
Patreon: zurl.co/KcnU6
Martin Butler: zurl.co/VXL2Y
Life doesn’t resolve
It leaves leftovers
Cold turkey
Burnout
Unsaid things
We call it failure, but it’s necessity
The demand that it mean more is violence
Read Leftovers: zurl.co/fnagZ
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Martin Butler
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It leaves leftovers
Cold turkey
Burnout
Unsaid things
We call it failure, but it’s necessity
The demand that it mean more is violence
Read Leftovers: zurl.co/fnagZ
Patreon: zurl.co/0WQo6
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/NTrIv
December 27, 2025 at 12:19 PM
Life doesn’t resolve
It leaves leftovers
Cold turkey
Burnout
Unsaid things
We call it failure, but it’s necessity
The demand that it mean more is violence
Read Leftovers: zurl.co/fnagZ
Patreon: zurl.co/0WQo6
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/NTrIv
It leaves leftovers
Cold turkey
Burnout
Unsaid things
We call it failure, but it’s necessity
The demand that it mean more is violence
Read Leftovers: zurl.co/fnagZ
Patreon: zurl.co/0WQo6
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/NTrIv
Boxing Day isn’t a hangover from Christmas
It’s the collapse of borrowed power
Decorations, gifts, music — all still there
You?
Flat. Honest. And if you see it, you start to grow.
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Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/MKtGi
It’s the collapse of borrowed power
Decorations, gifts, music — all still there
You?
Flat. Honest. And if you see it, you start to grow.
Patreon: zurl.co/GiOE3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/MKtGi
December 26, 2025 at 1:01 PM
Boxing Day isn’t a hangover from Christmas
It’s the collapse of borrowed power
Decorations, gifts, music — all still there
You?
Flat. Honest. And if you see it, you start to grow.
Patreon: zurl.co/GiOE3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/MKtGi
It’s the collapse of borrowed power
Decorations, gifts, music — all still there
You?
Flat. Honest. And if you see it, you start to grow.
Patreon: zurl.co/GiOE3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/MKtGi
Today is no special day if you're listening to this alone nothing's gone wrong
there's no role to play today, no mood to manufacture
just the body breathing the day unfolding
enjoy your surroundings, do what you desire do what motivates you
that's enough
there's no role to play today, no mood to manufacture
just the body breathing the day unfolding
enjoy your surroundings, do what you desire do what motivates you
that's enough
December 25, 2025 at 9:36 AM
Today is no special day if you're listening to this alone nothing's gone wrong
there's no role to play today, no mood to manufacture
just the body breathing the day unfolding
enjoy your surroundings, do what you desire do what motivates you
that's enough
there's no role to play today, no mood to manufacture
just the body breathing the day unfolding
enjoy your surroundings, do what you desire do what motivates you
that's enough
Christmas Eve: Frozen turkeys, family feuds, debt raining like snow. Martin Butler says it’s all meaningless bullshit. Read: ‘The Night Before the Nightmare.’
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Martin Butler:
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Martin Butler:
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December 25, 2025 at 9:36 AM
Christmas Eve: Frozen turkeys, family feuds, debt raining like snow. Martin Butler says it’s all meaningless bullshit. Read: ‘The Night Before the Nightmare.’
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Patreon: zurl.co/8PAmE
Martin Butler:
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Patreon: zurl.co/8PAmE
Martin Butler:
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Christmas isn’t joy. It’s a collision between your imagination and reality. Every expectation inflates disappointment. Every fantasy self collapses. Notice it. See it clearly.
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Martin Butler
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Patreon: zurl.co/GQm6A
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/1sWLa
December 25, 2025 at 8:16 AM
Christmas isn’t joy. It’s a collision between your imagination and reality. Every expectation inflates disappointment. Every fantasy self collapses. Notice it. See it clearly.
Patreon: zurl.co/GQm6A
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/1sWLa
Patreon: zurl.co/GQm6A
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/1sWLa
You didn’t grow out of your childhood. You carried it forward in your nervous system. What you call “personality” is survival.
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Martin Butler
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Patreon: zurl.co/1Wsls
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/tSRfJ
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December 23, 2025 at 12:36 PM
You didn’t grow out of your childhood. You carried it forward in your nervous system. What you call “personality” is survival.
Substack: zurl.co/GAgcu
Patreon: zurl.co/1Wsls
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/tSRfJ
Substack: zurl.co/LE0Q4
Substack: zurl.co/GAgcu
Patreon: zurl.co/1Wsls
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/tSRfJ
Substack: zurl.co/LE0Q4
Do you get absolutely hammered every Christmas?
Spinoza says it’s just passive affects
Martin Butler says none of it matters anyway
New essay for everyone who dreads Dec 25th.
Patreon: zurl.co/WbeZQ
Spinoza says it’s just passive affects
Martin Butler says none of it matters anyway
New essay for everyone who dreads Dec 25th.
Patreon: zurl.co/WbeZQ
December 22, 2025 at 5:02 PM
Do you get absolutely hammered every Christmas?
Spinoza says it’s just passive affects
Martin Butler says none of it matters anyway
New essay for everyone who dreads Dec 25th.
Patreon: zurl.co/WbeZQ
Spinoza says it’s just passive affects
Martin Butler says none of it matters anyway
New essay for everyone who dreads Dec 25th.
Patreon: zurl.co/WbeZQ
“When the illusion drops, you don’t become someone new — you become what’s left.”
- Conversations with Jelly, a novel by Martin Butler
Most people are suffering.
Explore Conversations with Jelly.
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- Conversations with Jelly, a novel by Martin Butler
Most people are suffering.
Explore Conversations with Jelly.
Book zurl.co/buvqj
Substack Short Article zurl.co/N4jDv
December 21, 2025 at 2:45 PM
“When the illusion drops, you don’t become someone new — you become what’s left.”
- Conversations with Jelly, a novel by Martin Butler
Most people are suffering.
Explore Conversations with Jelly.
Book zurl.co/buvqj
Substack Short Article zurl.co/N4jDv
- Conversations with Jelly, a novel by Martin Butler
Most people are suffering.
Explore Conversations with Jelly.
Book zurl.co/buvqj
Substack Short Article zurl.co/N4jDv
Christmas "responsibility" is deterministic bondage—chains of guilt, culture, causes
Spinoza says no free will, just illusion.
Wake up: compassion over blame. Read my article & sub!
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Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/8koUu
Spinoza says no free will, just illusion.
Wake up: compassion over blame. Read my article & sub!
Patreon: zurl.co/nunma
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/8koUu
December 21, 2025 at 2:18 PM
Christmas "responsibility" is deterministic bondage—chains of guilt, culture, causes
Spinoza says no free will, just illusion.
Wake up: compassion over blame. Read my article & sub!
Patreon: zurl.co/nunma
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/8koUu
Spinoza says no free will, just illusion.
Wake up: compassion over blame. Read my article & sub!
Patreon: zurl.co/nunma
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/8koUu
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/eXLiA
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ycwoE
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/eXLiA
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ycwoE
December 20, 2025 at 12:05 PM
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/eXLiA
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ycwoE
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/eXLiA
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ycwoE
Secret Santa isn’t about gifts. It’s about anonymous judgement and fantasy identity collapse. Your reaction isn’t weakness — it’s biology. Spinoza explained it. Psychology proved it. Read the piece.
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Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/5Bv4i
Patreon: zurl.co/uSss1
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/5Bv4i
December 19, 2025 at 2:00 PM
Secret Santa isn’t about gifts. It’s about anonymous judgement and fantasy identity collapse. Your reaction isn’t weakness — it’s biology. Spinoza explained it. Psychology proved it. Read the piece.
Patreon: zurl.co/uSss1
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/5Bv4i
Patreon: zurl.co/uSss1
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/5Bv4i
Estrangement doesn’t just remove people
The empty chair at your table isn’t sentimental—it’s structural
This isn’t a comforting article
It’s a truthful one
Read it if you’re ready.
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Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ioPDg
The empty chair at your table isn’t sentimental—it’s structural
This isn’t a comforting article
It’s a truthful one
Read it if you’re ready.
Substack: zurl.co/Xayw3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ioPDg
December 18, 2025 at 12:11 PM
Estrangement doesn’t just remove people
The empty chair at your table isn’t sentimental—it’s structural
This isn’t a comforting article
It’s a truthful one
Read it if you’re ready.
Substack: zurl.co/Xayw3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ioPDg
The empty chair at your table isn’t sentimental—it’s structural
This isn’t a comforting article
It’s a truthful one
Read it if you’re ready.
Substack: zurl.co/Xayw3
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ioPDg
You don’t choose how you feel at work
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
December 17, 2025 at 1:27 PM
You don’t choose how you feel at work
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Your environment chooses first
Christmas music isn’t festive — it’s affect regulation by force
Spinoza explained it. Psychology proves it
Read the article.
Patreon: zurl.co/PcUSh
Martin Butler
Patreon: zurl.co/ysdCu
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
December 17, 2025 at 12:01 AM
Christmas is an emotional Ponzi scheme:
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
hope, guilt, nostalgia, envy, resentment all skyrocket while real joy flatlines
Spinoza saw the affective slavery 350 years ago
Essay to rip the tinsel off
Substack: zurl.co/fkebW
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/Xlnqk
Spinoza meets luxury Advent madness. I examine the difference between affect and effect through the £47M farce of Arabella & Hugo. Psychology bites harder when wrapped in ribbon.
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
December 16, 2025 at 12:27 AM
Spinoza meets luxury Advent madness. I examine the difference between affect and effect through the £47M farce of Arabella & Hugo. Psychology bites harder when wrapped in ribbon.
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd
My Patreon: zurl.co/2MMjO
Martin Butler Patreon: zurl.co/ZfrGd