are not the police and to do them imperfectly and try to make it get better. I feel like it's hard for me when people are just like, "This doesn't work," because I'm just like... "Then what?" I think those of us who are anti-police don't get to give up on trying to resolve conflict together.

supported a survivor at all, instead of completely denying their experience- we're better than we were when we just called the cops. The bar is so low for how terribly we all treat each other. Can we not decide whether it works or not? Ee have no choice but to do things, to try to respond that...

In my travels around, talking to people over the last 20 years that Transformative Justice has been more common, people are often like, "It doesn't work. We try it here and it doesn't work." And I'm always like: What's our evaluation method? I'm like, "If nobody got arrested- if some people...

Can we appreciate that we’re all learning about how to say no, and how to hear others say no, and be as generous as possible in these difficult moments?

Listen to the whole episode wherever you get your podcasts, or watch on YouTube.

This can happen when someone says no to us, especially if we aren’t used to direct communication, or if they were in a heightened state when they said it and it came out a bit harshly. Can we give each other a little forgiveness for this?

We all get into these life-or-death feeling states, even about small stuff, because sometimes something just gets under your skin.

In the new episode of Love in a F*cked Up World, Morgan Bassichis and I go deep into these questions, including talking about how to know when to keep trying to convince people of your perspective and when to move on.

Yes, they are all being posted here: www.deanspade.net/2024/11/15/u...