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D_Unusual Lady
@ddlovewrites.bsky.social
Poet, zinester, madwoman in the attic
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Hosting: Clinically Polyamorous, Naturally Black on YT
**Currently querying**
Writer, artist, LMSW/Therapist and amazon
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You aren't alone. It's a very special book that gets me past 250 pages. I used to be able to read 300 a week but it's so hard to stick with unless it truly resonates (and beats my ADHD)
November 14, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Before they ever stop to interrogate why they feel that they don't need to do certain things after it's explained to them. Because those individuals will utilize neurodivergence the same way they utilize intelligence by claiming they're too smart/spicy to care.
November 14, 2025 at 5:24 AM
Absolutely we can explain things, and I will break things down. And certainly not all neurodivergence is the same. But we are raised in the patriarchy that celebrates willful incompetence and unfortunately as part of a wonderful wave of awareness there's people weaponizing neurodivergence
November 14, 2025 at 5:22 AM
And the result can be devastating to those men. I am a realistic. I think a lot of social justice has been co-opted into feel good untenable speak. And I think those men need to be treated and told they will be judged like everyone else. And that's what I say to my partner
November 14, 2025 at 5:21 AM
As a neurospice woman, that behavior would be unacceptable and when I did have hygiene issues it was not allowed to be ok. If I had stained clothes those same neurospice men would react negatively like everyone else. I have seen those men don't.
November 14, 2025 at 5:20 AM
They're shocked and angry that they have to do work women and racial minorities have always had to do. One of my partners gets upset when people point shit out sometimes, and he will either treat everyone else like they're crazy, say it doesn't matter, or mention neurodivergence
November 14, 2025 at 5:17 AM
As a neurodivergent woman and a black woman, hygiene wasn't an option. I learned at a young age how to present myself for success. Yet I have had to tell grown men that they will be judged on wearing stained khakis to work or on dates
November 14, 2025 at 5:13 AM
As someone who has tended to attract neurodivergent light ppl, being seen as white and intelligent definitely shapes how people treat you and how you learn to treat other people. There's things that they don't know because they chose to ignore it
November 14, 2025 at 5:10 AM
The "why didn't you just tell me" line hits different when someone's neurospicy because it can be weaponized and still true... And I hear about it all the time specially in alt nerdy spaces
November 14, 2025 at 5:08 AM
That's a hell of a way to think about that. Can't say it's wrong
November 13, 2025 at 3:16 AM
I think this happens for a multitude of reasons but I do think there is one cause of it which is the fact that so many things only galvanize people through framing them as relative concerns to them.

I hate to say it but the left has to do it more when I think that's the way to policy change
November 11, 2025 at 8:44 PM
I'm always willing to experiment with different books and read new stuff. I'll check those out! Right now Crash by J.G Ballard, and The Hellbound Heart by Clive Barker are my inspo. But Toni Morrison and Octavia Butler always influence my style.

Where do your inspirations come from
November 10, 2025 at 4:08 AM
Anxiety, jealousy, and failure exist in those spaces BECAUSE of Humanity, bc we're just like everyone else. And that can be taken advantage of. In "Her Dark Pleasures" being the #polyamorous or #queer isn't the horror.

Denying our feelings so we score moral points and selfishness is the horror.
November 10, 2025 at 4:03 AM
Writing about #lgbtq #polyam is great, but some folks will be angry if you don't give the "right" representation.

To me the right representation is being human. #wip #writesky #writelife #booksky
November 10, 2025 at 3:58 AM
The #nsfw #WIP is grotesque and it's about the anxiety of failing at being understanding, or having a hole only a God or a dangerous dominate #kinkster could help you fill...and it's the most sexy and violent thing I have been apart of. And it does make me worry but I love it. #booksky #amwriting
November 10, 2025 at 3:52 AM
Oh this up my alley. Can't wait to read these stories!!!
November 10, 2025 at 3:39 AM