@eblu you can shoot my a fq on discord if you want... at least with that dynamic whenever someone sends me one I come up with a convo starter before I accept it. (tbc I also wanna talk ,I just don't wanna force you and I'm slightly shy )

also that's fully fair. it can be hard as hell

I wonder if this may stem from how at least mastodon updates live, to the point that DMs are really just posts.

on bluesky it isn't so live and DMs on there are terrible, and friending someone on another platform is a more intimate act that needs more trust. so thus the two-phase thing I've […]

@eblu this is how I've felt about with my experience with the fediverse for a long time so you're not alone there...

i dunno if this would be weird to offer but I'm down to talk with ya if you want (if that is what you mean ...?)

@Rairii it's like they tried to make it look like a chat bot