Vincent James
@coffeepizzaandwine.bsky.social
Writer 📚
Never give up hope ☕️
Never give up hope ☕️
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When I listen to my parents describe my grandparents to my sister’s kids who either never met them (because they died before they were born) or don’t remember them, I notice how their attentiveness fades as though they were sitting through an uninteresting subject in history class.
#life #legacy
#life #legacy
Who Will Remember You in 150 Years?
No matter who you are, I believe your legacy will include your “energy imprint”
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January 12, 2026 at 4:23 PM
With “a grounded life” you incorporate elements of a “soft life” in your everyday life simply by changing your breathing when you’re angry or anxious, and slowing down to fully focus solely on the activity you are engaged in.
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#softlife #selfcare
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#softlife #selfcare
The Ultimate “Soft Life” is "A Grounded Life”
Stay grounded as the chaos erupts around you
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January 12, 2026 at 5:21 AM
When I think of “partner,” I also think of someone who may choose to be a “silent partner” in a business. I think of the spouse or date who is willing to not be included in social media posts and photos to help the brand of their partner by letting them be perceived as a single person.
#love
#love
Like it or not, “Partner” is a More Accurate Way to Describe Couples Today
I wouldn’t use it to describe my relationship, but I have no problem with others using it.
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January 11, 2026 at 10:30 PM
When I think of “partner,” I also think of someone who may choose to be a “silent partner” in a business. I think of the spouse or date who is willing to not be included in social media posts and photos to help the brand of their partner by letting them be perceived as a single person.
#love
#love
There is a lack of communication between Americans under the age of 45 that has manifested into a passive-aggressive civil war between men and women in this country, with both sides complaining there are “no good options.”
For me, the solution is empathy— to “be kind.”
For me, the solution is empathy— to “be kind.”
January 7, 2026 at 2:56 PM
There is a lack of communication between Americans under the age of 45 that has manifested into a passive-aggressive civil war between men and women in this country, with both sides complaining there are “no good options.”
For me, the solution is empathy— to “be kind.”
For me, the solution is empathy— to “be kind.”
You don’t have to play the game of dating to win at relationships. Dating can come naturally from your other healthy relationships. Be yourself in social settings and let the people you meet naturally gravitate toward you (and you to them).
#dating #love #relationships
#dating #love #relationships
“Change Your Sense of Humor if You Want to Keep Dating Me”
You don’t have to play the game of dating to win at relationships.
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January 4, 2026 at 8:33 PM
You don’t have to play the game of dating to win at relationships. Dating can come naturally from your other healthy relationships. Be yourself in social settings and let the people you meet naturally gravitate toward you (and you to them).
#dating #love #relationships
#dating #love #relationships
“If you aren’t thinking about owning a stock for 10 years, don’t even think about owning it for 10 minutes.” – Warren Buffett
Acknowledging that you are making a long-term commitment and not just expecting the immediate rewards is fundamental to whether you will succeed.
#selfcare #motivation
Acknowledging that you are making a long-term commitment and not just expecting the immediate rewards is fundamental to whether you will succeed.
#selfcare #motivation
Think of Every Major Life Decision as a Long-Term Investment
A mentality that will prepare you for anything.
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January 3, 2026 at 8:19 PM
“If you aren’t thinking about owning a stock for 10 years, don’t even think about owning it for 10 minutes.” – Warren Buffett
Acknowledging that you are making a long-term commitment and not just expecting the immediate rewards is fundamental to whether you will succeed.
#selfcare #motivation
Acknowledging that you are making a long-term commitment and not just expecting the immediate rewards is fundamental to whether you will succeed.
#selfcare #motivation
We talk about how much you can learn about a person by how they handle adversity.
But I also think you can learn a lot about a person based on what they choose to celebrate and how they choose to celebrate.
#newyear2026 #motivation #selfcare
But I also think you can learn a lot about a person based on what they choose to celebrate and how they choose to celebrate.
#newyear2026 #motivation #selfcare
How You Celebrate Reveals So Much About You
Do you ever think about why you celebrate holidays and achievements the way you do?
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January 2, 2026 at 3:49 AM
We talk about how much you can learn about a person by how they handle adversity.
But I also think you can learn a lot about a person based on what they choose to celebrate and how they choose to celebrate.
#newyear2026 #motivation #selfcare
But I also think you can learn a lot about a person based on what they choose to celebrate and how they choose to celebrate.
#newyear2026 #motivation #selfcare
of all the billions of stars in the sky,
yours may not always be the brightest,
yours can’t always be seen,
yours may not always be the highest,
yours can be obscured by stars in-between,
but among all stars, yours is the strongest,
as reflected by the twinkle in your eye
#poetry #motivation
yours may not always be the brightest,
yours can’t always be seen,
yours may not always be the highest,
yours can be obscured by stars in-between,
but among all stars, yours is the strongest,
as reflected by the twinkle in your eye
#poetry #motivation
December 28, 2025 at 4:38 PM
of all the billions of stars in the sky,
yours may not always be the brightest,
yours can’t always be seen,
yours may not always be the highest,
yours can be obscured by stars in-between,
but among all stars, yours is the strongest,
as reflected by the twinkle in your eye
#poetry #motivation
yours may not always be the brightest,
yours can’t always be seen,
yours may not always be the highest,
yours can be obscured by stars in-between,
but among all stars, yours is the strongest,
as reflected by the twinkle in your eye
#poetry #motivation
“This is a moment-capturing device that enables you to take a positive interaction with any individual in your life in the real world and freeze that interaction you had with that person so that you leave a lasting positive impression…”
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#books
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#books
December 27, 2025 at 2:36 PM
“This is a moment-capturing device that enables you to take a positive interaction with any individual in your life in the real world and freeze that interaction you had with that person so that you leave a lasting positive impression…”
(Link to the rest of the excerpt in comments below)
#books
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#books
December 20, 2025 at 7:06 PM
December 20, 2025 at 2:51 AM
You are born into expectations.
You aren’t born with a blank slate.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t reinvent yourself.
#motivation #positivity #selfcare
You aren’t born with a blank slate.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t reinvent yourself.
#motivation #positivity #selfcare
How To Separate Your “Original Ideal Self” From What You Really Want In Life
You are born into expectations, you aren’t born with a blank slate, I call these expectations “your original ideal self"
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December 18, 2025 at 3:25 PM
You are born into expectations.
You aren’t born with a blank slate.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t reinvent yourself.
#motivation #positivity #selfcare
You aren’t born with a blank slate.
But that doesn’t mean you can’t reinvent yourself.
#motivation #positivity #selfcare
December 12, 2025 at 12:45 AM
no matter who you are, you always matter,
someone may be trying to find love within themselves
because they see the love in you,
someone may have stopped living a lie
because they see how strong you are by always being true…
#poetry #inspiration #selfcare
someone may be trying to find love within themselves
because they see the love in you,
someone may have stopped living a lie
because they see how strong you are by always being true…
#poetry #inspiration #selfcare
No Matter Who You Are, You Always Matter
A poem for a bad day
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December 8, 2025 at 12:58 AM
no matter who you are, you always matter,
someone may be trying to find love within themselves
because they see the love in you,
someone may have stopped living a lie
because they see how strong you are by always being true…
#poetry #inspiration #selfcare
someone may be trying to find love within themselves
because they see the love in you,
someone may have stopped living a lie
because they see how strong you are by always being true…
#poetry #inspiration #selfcare
December 6, 2025 at 6:44 PM
“The earlier in life that you accept who you are, the earlier you’ll receive the peace of mind you deserve…”
#spirituality #life #grief
#spirituality #life #grief
“Your Relationship With Someone Close to You can Continue to Evolve within Your Heart and Your Soul Long After You Have Stopped Interacting with Them”
(An excerpt from my novel "Waiting on Autumn")
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December 5, 2025 at 4:46 PM
“The earlier in life that you accept who you are, the earlier you’ll receive the peace of mind you deserve…”
#spirituality #life #grief
#spirituality #life #grief
December 4, 2025 at 2:19 PM
The Probability of Life
A short story about the temptation of “The Non-Existence Lounge.”
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December 3, 2025 at 3:47 AM
“The Hidden Mistake” we make in relationships has two sides to it and isn’t limited to just romantic relationships. It can be applied to any form of a relationship and often is.
#relationships #love #dating
#relationships #love #dating
“The Hidden Mistake” We Make in Relationships
How identifying whether another person’s “reality” is compatible with yours can help you avoid the hidden mistake
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November 29, 2025 at 11:10 PM
“The Hidden Mistake” we make in relationships has two sides to it and isn’t limited to just romantic relationships. It can be applied to any form of a relationship and often is.
#relationships #love #dating
#relationships #love #dating
More than anything, men are looking for someone who will “be present” for them.
In a world where we ghost people on text messages, block people on social media, and cancel people from groups, the value of being present for someone when they need you has been greater than ever.
#men #mentalhealth
In a world where we ghost people on text messages, block people on social media, and cancel people from groups, the value of being present for someone when they need you has been greater than ever.
#men #mentalhealth
“Being Present” for Men who have Misplaced Individuality
How to “Be Present” in a World of Ghosting
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November 26, 2025 at 11:28 PM
More than anything, men are looking for someone who will “be present” for them.
In a world where we ghost people on text messages, block people on social media, and cancel people from groups, the value of being present for someone when they need you has been greater than ever.
#men #mentalhealth
In a world where we ghost people on text messages, block people on social media, and cancel people from groups, the value of being present for someone when they need you has been greater than ever.
#men #mentalhealth
What I refer to as “Repurposing Your Dark Side” involves acknowledging that you have one and accepting it will always be there. In doing so, you “work with” your dark side, even as you are also continuously working against it.
#faith #motivation #love
#faith #motivation #love
How My Faith Inspired Me to Learn from My Narcissistic Traits to Help Others
“Repurposing your Dark Side” can leverage your flaws to enhance your strengths.
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November 26, 2025 at 4:32 AM
What I refer to as “Repurposing Your Dark Side” involves acknowledging that you have one and accepting it will always be there. In doing so, you “work with” your dark side, even as you are also continuously working against it.
#faith #motivation #love
#faith #motivation #love
If the people in your life knew everything you did when nobody’s watching, would they still think the same of you?
Would your friends still want to be your friends? Would your spouse still be married to you or living with you? Would your job keep you employed?
#selfimprovement #selfcare
Would your friends still want to be your friends? Would your spouse still be married to you or living with you? Would your job keep you employed?
#selfimprovement #selfcare
What is Your Life Like When Nobody is Watching You?
How solving “The Rewinding Puzzle” helps you understand how you act when you’re alone.
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November 25, 2025 at 3:48 AM
If the people in your life knew everything you did when nobody’s watching, would they still think the same of you?
Would your friends still want to be your friends? Would your spouse still be married to you or living with you? Would your job keep you employed?
#selfimprovement #selfcare
Would your friends still want to be your friends? Would your spouse still be married to you or living with you? Would your job keep you employed?
#selfimprovement #selfcare