and, if I'm allowed to be cynical and self serving, you should listen to Friends at the Table we're doing exactly what you're asking for while also being funny (:

In school I would always joke that my type was lesbians. Then I realized I actually was one, and everyone was much happier and less confused. Not only should you call yourself a lesbian, you should be proud. Being gay rules. Loving women rules. Being a woman rules. & I’m glad ur here doin you