I went in thinking I could talk to him and he would understand my thought process, but it ended up backfiring in my face.

So now I just feel like I was right to not trust him with my thoughts/feelings. His reaction obviously makes me feel horrible and I’m trying not to internalize it fully. I know I’m responsible for not communicating that he wasn’t going to be needed, but I’m still just confused.

The things I said included “I’m sorry that this weekend didn’t work out like you had hoped. On top of everything else, the logistics of having myself and baby work from your house 30 minutes away was too much. So I decided it wasn’t worth it. It was my weekend anyways.”

I had him on standby, even though it was my weekend, because I had something going on for work. It was hard, but I managed without needing ex to take over.

He is upset about that, and when I tried to explain that it was my weekend to begin with, he got even more angry.

Our relationship imploded because I was afraid to bring up my issues/concerns. He has since said that I should view him as a safe place to share all of my thoughts, so yesterday I tried that.

He told me he was feeling angry because he was upset that he didn’t get to see baby this weekend.

Ex and I have been coparenting for a few months. Besides the court hearings, our relationship has been improving. We’ve both been going to therapy and have felt we’ve grown and healed in our own ways.

I had a conversation with ex yesterday that has me confused.

Also, I have an almost 10 month old son, and the newborn bubble was…traumatic for me. I love my son, but I never, ever want to go through that again.

Yes, I have been treated for PPD. That isn’t the point of this post.