I don't blame the other veterans who only felt like they were standing up for one of their own, but they should be aware that, tonight, Vicky abused the camaraderie among veterans for her own bigoted reasons.

She had no other response except to call other veterans up from the ground floor as bouncers, demanding we be thrown out.

When I told her that she alienated people with her choice and that my transgender friends were offended, she stated "Well shame on your friends." I asked her how she dared to cast shame on my friends, whom we invited to celebrate a major life event of ours.

We took it down as the space was, again, privately reserved, and Vicky threatened to shut everything down and eject us over this. At the end of the night, Vicky offered us excuses, sob stories, and non-apologies for her decision.