But for me, what I am saying is this: I’m drawn to a particular current—and I want to find someone who rides that same wave. I shouldn't need to apologize for it or have it be up for moral debate.

Of course, HOW someone says it matters. I don’t co-sign on degrading language or bios that shut people down before they’ve even said hello.

What bothers me is when men are made to feel guilty for naming what they’re into, as if attraction is some kind of political decision. It’s not. It’s instinct. And I think we should be able to speak that truth without being painted as cruel or closed-minded.

what makes your dick hard vs what doesn't

Me and the hubs circa 2013