8. This victim mentality and entitlement of our attention pushes a misogynistic blame. Why is our autonomy to choose suddenly selfishness? Do you know how much objectification and lewd messages we have to sift through? It’s exhausting.

7. Interpreting women’s choices as personal rejections rather than independent decisions means you’re projecting your own insecurities.

6. The complaints often shift responsibility for men’s frustrations onto women, rather than addressing systemic issues like how apps encourage quantity over quality or fail to educate users on respectful engagement.

5. Historically, women were often “chosen” by men in courtship rituals. Now, the roles are more equal, and some men struggle with being rejected because they aren’t used to being in a less dominant position.

4. Why are you, as a man complaining about how we have “too much freedom”? is it the desire to reassert control?

3. Dating isn’t transactional anymore. Why is it unfair if we exercise our choice to NOT respond? We’re not obliged to reply and fuck the nice guy trope.

2. Dating often places a heavy emotional labor burden on women. We’re flooded w messages. Complaints about women not responding ignore this imbalance, dismissing the sheer volume of effort required on their part.

1. The ability for women to have autonomy, especially in dating, is relatively new and hard-won. Complaints about women having “too much freedom” reflect discomfort with this shift in dynamics, where women are no longer obliged to entertain male attention out of necessity or societal pressure.