That also doesn't mean forgiveness for forgiveness sake, forgetting, or giving the transgressors of our past a free pass. Being present for today doesn't mean yesterday is suddenly ok. But instead of the constant rehashing, we can ask ourselves how we can begin today anew.

And of course some of us have more trauma on our plate than others, and if that's you, that's ok too. But for many of us, talking about everything ad nauseam is a pointless endeavor and stunts the progress we make in our day to day toward our joy and/or goals.

😂😂😂😂 the gif!!

From the moment Jay got shot, i think they became inseparable.

Jake would literally wet himself if he saw this

Hahaha so accurate

I still sometimes cringe at the ways I would seek out external validation 🥴😂

Yes same. I used to feel I needed to talk about it and wanted people to understand it the way I felt it. Once I stopped, it was like my whole inner world rebalanced.

I go into more detail in the YouTube video I just uploaded, but if you don't watch it, know this: you deserve peace, freedom and protection.

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Sending strength and support! 💋

youtu.be/vuGBnSe1Rc0

Q: how do you deal with the shame and guilt?
A: shame and guilt is normal. The shame you carry was given to you by someone else. You just got used to carrying it. Pull up mental receipts and let the anger, pain, etc come and cleanse you of your guilt. You're allowed to let it go.

Q: they won't leave me alone! What do I do?
A: if they're not a threat, tighten up your points of access. Block online, change your phone number, email, socials, etc. If your wellbeing IS being threatened, talk to NO ONE about ANYTHING, move, and/or file police reports. And also the other things.

Q: but what about toxic kids? Why is it always the parents who have to take responsibility?
A: parents whose kids are actually toxic don't feel offended by my videos. They don't leave comments because it doesn't apply to their situation. A hit dog will holler.

Q: can you speak on when your family knows someone is manipulative, but they choose to side with them anyway?
A: either they're doing it intentionally because they're abusers themselves; or unintentionally because they are abuse apologists and lying to themselves. Either way, BLOCK.

Q: I cut them off and they were nice all of a sudden. Do I give them a second chance? Am I trippin?
A: no, you're not. It's a lot to consider... ask yourself if you feel it's real, and if you can move past the pain if it is. But my opinion is they didn't just change overnight. You need proof.