to attraction, but sometimes we need to recognize the social context in which they were formed? I am wondering if this is a common experience. And even if I can't get an answer, I wanted to let this out somewhere.

I try to convince myself it could be a result of sexual attraction. A degree of objectification might be inevitable from that. But when they mentioned illustrations with 'deliberately enlarged breast and hips, as features specific to black women', I kind of can't? We cannot assign morality

Honestly, as East Asian who faced consistent racial fetishizing since leaving my country, I really felt my heart drop when they first told me about their feed. I genuinely question their search history.

I— I get 'history of socialist resistance in morocco', 'historical embracement of queers in the global south', and again, 'decolonizing beauty standards'. I mean, sure, I do get more black beauty influencers on the feed too, but...

It is likely just due to the racial tropes and how racism against black people, especially black women, maybe focuses on hypersexualization.

...Now, I also got a black partner. Yes, I am polyamorous, and my partners know about each other. But that's not important to this story.

They were getting explicit oversexualized images of black women. Now, the closest I got to that were influencers flexing their face cards with captions about rejecting colonial beauty standards? Well, first, we were confused.

The phrase 'get out' did flash by in my mind, but we concluded that

forget which Asian I am. And they responded, 'Oh, I get that too, dating a black girl.' I thought they must be getting something similar. Decolonization and makeup ideas maybe, or advertisements of makeup and hair products that they can't use.

No.

Stand-up comedies with Urdu or hindi puns, some Ramadan related jokes during March, showing off traditional clothing, decolonizing taboos, songs, love poems, British colonial jokes, Islam and feminism, cosplaying with hijab and whatnot. So I told my 'friend' about how my algorithm seems to

(Yes, I did shave off his beard. I won't get him to do that irl, so that's the only option left innit 🤫)