Freak calleth unto freak.

I bring a sort of "je nais se quois" vibe to the art that knowers don't really like

The passion of lovers is for death, said she

Decadence can be read less as an outright rejection of both Realism and Romanticism and more as a "correction" of what Decadent and Decadent-adjacent writers saw as the follies of the two movements. You can almost see it as a synthesis of Romanticism's fantastique with Realism's weariness.