@benderhead.bsky.social
Child psychologist here. I co-sign this SO hard!! The word “manipulative” gives me a visceral reaction at this point. (I realize this doesn’t sound sympathetic to how damn hard it is to parent, but if it helps, I am also a single parent of a toddler. I promise I get it)
December 22, 2025 at 6:49 PM
Child psychologist here. I co-sign this SO hard!! The word “manipulative” gives me a visceral reaction at this point. (I realize this doesn’t sound sympathetic to how damn hard it is to parent, but if it helps, I am also a single parent of a toddler. I promise I get it)
Amazing!! Congratulations!
December 9, 2025 at 6:55 PM
Amazing!! Congratulations!
In case it helps you to know you’re helping others, please know that I will be borrowing “a sad mom is better than a dead mom” for myself.
November 25, 2025 at 4:03 PM
In case it helps you to know you’re helping others, please know that I will be borrowing “a sad mom is better than a dead mom” for myself.
Small drops of water will erode an entire rock face. (Cheesy, I know. But I find it helpful in those times, so sharing anyway)
November 11, 2025 at 1:44 PM
Small drops of water will erode an entire rock face. (Cheesy, I know. But I find it helpful in those times, so sharing anyway)
We have had the emotional support plastic cup (a very specific cup) and emotional support pie pumpkin. To its credit, the pumpkin lasted a shockingly long time for produce.
November 6, 2025 at 2:07 PM
We have had the emotional support plastic cup (a very specific cup) and emotional support pie pumpkin. To its credit, the pumpkin lasted a shockingly long time for produce.
And yes, you do look pretty! Both your ring and your lip color rock.
October 23, 2025 at 2:38 PM
And yes, you do look pretty! Both your ring and your lip color rock.
Here is one of my favorite poems for those days, in case you find it helpful too. Sometimes I need the permission to not be okay, ya know?
October 23, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Here is one of my favorite poems for those days, in case you find it helpful too. Sometimes I need the permission to not be okay, ya know?
Fun fact - it’s also one of the first things I learned in grad school for clinical psych (well, for mentally switching but/and more so than writing it, but same idea). Works wonders on how you think about the world. I find I hardly ever even say the word “but” anymore.
October 13, 2025 at 12:44 PM
Fun fact - it’s also one of the first things I learned in grad school for clinical psych (well, for mentally switching but/and more so than writing it, but same idea). Works wonders on how you think about the world. I find I hardly ever even say the word “but” anymore.
One of the best parts of finding a long lost home video from 30+ years ago was getting to hear not only my grandmother’s voice, but her classic and beautiful southern accent that just sounds so different than southern accents now.
September 24, 2025 at 1:35 PM
One of the best parts of finding a long lost home video from 30+ years ago was getting to hear not only my grandmother’s voice, but her classic and beautiful southern accent that just sounds so different than southern accents now.
That once happened to me and then all three of us got a bath 😢 I swear the dog smelled like sour milk for days.
September 18, 2025 at 7:39 PM
That once happened to me and then all three of us got a bath 😢 I swear the dog smelled like sour milk for days.
September 11, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I am one of those folks and am so appreciative of your honesty about the struggles of being an early career woman/mother in academia!
August 6, 2025 at 3:38 PM
I am one of those folks and am so appreciative of your honesty about the struggles of being an early career woman/mother in academia!
The Mustard Museum in Madison, WI is fantastic!
August 2, 2025 at 3:03 AM
The Mustard Museum in Madison, WI is fantastic!
Chacos are also excellent for this exact purpose
July 10, 2025 at 11:26 PM
Chacos are also excellent for this exact purpose
Always amazed at how much a 20 min nap does to help me be (at least closer to) the mom I want to be. I can actually parent based on my values instead of just surviving the day. Just in case you want to reframe “lazy” to something kinder and without any negative connotations ;)
June 1, 2025 at 8:13 PM
Always amazed at how much a 20 min nap does to help me be (at least closer to) the mom I want to be. I can actually parent based on my values instead of just surviving the day. Just in case you want to reframe “lazy” to something kinder and without any negative connotations ;)
I (Lindsey) once taught a course with a TA (Lynzee) and a cohort mate (Lindsay). Poor students never knew who to email.
May 15, 2025 at 12:41 PM
I (Lindsey) once taught a course with a TA (Lynzee) and a cohort mate (Lindsay). Poor students never knew who to email.
Has anybody tagged @hankgreen.bsky.social in this yet?
May 3, 2025 at 12:58 PM
Has anybody tagged @hankgreen.bsky.social in this yet?
I actually first started following you because I am also a (single) mom and early career academic. Not entirely sure which is harder, but this shit is hard!! We need community. We are both going to make that percentage just a smidgen higher though.
April 10, 2025 at 2:07 AM
I actually first started following you because I am also a (single) mom and early career academic. Not entirely sure which is harder, but this shit is hard!! We need community. We are both going to make that percentage just a smidgen higher though.
I would super love a gift link!
March 29, 2025 at 9:28 PM
I would super love a gift link!
Ha! I bribed my 2 year old to run errands with me by promising him a car wash at the end. Seriously considering one of those monthly memberships… truly never imagined myself saying that prior to parenthood.
March 23, 2025 at 1:27 AM
Ha! I bribed my 2 year old to run errands with me by promising him a car wash at the end. Seriously considering one of those monthly memberships… truly never imagined myself saying that prior to parenthood.
As a single mother of a toddler, this post gives me hope 💜
March 12, 2025 at 11:42 PM
As a single mother of a toddler, this post gives me hope 💜
Currently read this book on repeat with my 2 year old and laugh just as much every time.
Perfect. No notes.
Perfect. No notes.
March 6, 2025 at 6:13 PM
Currently read this book on repeat with my 2 year old and laugh just as much every time.
Perfect. No notes.
Perfect. No notes.