My first ‘MAGA essay’ is live. I looked at the MAGA movement through a trauma-informed lens and saw the same patterns I see in codependency, fear-based systems, and nervous-system survival. Politics isn’t just political—it’s personal.
www.elephantjournal.com/2025/11/when...

What happens when care crosses into self-abandonment?

My latest in Psychotherapy Networker explores the therapist’s double bind—how over-functioning masquerades as compassion, and why saying “no” can be the truest act of care.
www.psychotherapynetworker.org/article/cari...

Ever notice how people’s harshest judgments reveal more about them than you?

My new Tiny Buddha piece explores the hidden wisdom in projection—
how learning to see it clearly can help you stop over-owning pain that was never yours.

tinybuddha.com/blog/the-hid...

The most healing conversations don’t fix the ache—
they bear witness.

The sacred ones hold not just your light, but also face the dark with you. 🌑✨

I’m lucky to have two of those gems. This piece is about one of them: www.elephantjournal.com/2025/05/the-...

Avoidance isn’t peace. Sometimes peace means going to war first.

I learned that at a trauma-healing retreat. Speaking up cost me acceptance but gave me self-trust. Find out more in my recent article:

www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/real...

Some thrive on the surface: safety, routine.

Others feel the quiet cost of pretending we’re fine. We crave depth, the unsaid, the truth beneath.

Neither is better. But we all need to be known—by someone, and most of all, by ourselves.
www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/what...

It’s clear how trauma shows up in how we write reality. We can repair by turning inward or re-enact by aligning with false power—fear outside us that mirrors the ego within. The twist at the end? The “child” isn’t who you think.
www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/trau...

We’re watching the world split down the middle. The shouting matches between left and right. The shaming, the finger-pointing, the certainty that we are right and they are wrong and we hold the key to truth. But we are both/and. Labels don't humanize.

www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/the-...

I think this is timely given what’s happening in the world as more and more wake up.

Nobody really talks about the ugly side of healing. About how it doesn’t immediately make your life easier. Sometimes it makes you lonelier.
www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/grow...

“I just published my first Substack essay ✨
Writing has become my way of belonging to myself, expressing what’s real, and no longer hiding.
open.substack.com/pub/onbeingr...

At a therapy retreat this past year, I spoke up when the dynamic in the room felt unsafe. Instead of being met with curiosity, I became the outsider. And for once, I honored my own boundary I walked away. Sometimes healing doesn't look how we think it will.
www.elephantjournal.com/2025/09/real...

We’re taught so often how we should feel, instead of honoring how we actually do feel. But “should” is just an argument with reality — and reality always wins.

Pretending it’s different doesn’t change it. Real healing starts with accepting the truth.

tinybuddha.com/blog/the-lie...

To the Parents Waiting for the System to Catch Up
It’s about what it means to raise a disabled child in a world that too often lags behind their needs.

If you read, I hope it makes you feel a little less alone. www.elephantjournal.com/2025/08/to-t...