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Heather Cook 🦓🖖Autistic Life Coach
@autismchrysalis.bsky.social
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#ActuallyAutistic life coaching for #latediagnosis #Autistic humans to break a lifetime of shoulds and be free.

#AuDHD #ND #EDS #Disabled, she/her, and happy

Find me: https://www.autismchrysalis.com
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Many Autistics, and many ADHDers, need more rest for our nervous systems to be able to process the sensory information that we’re taking in, the social information we’re taking in, to be able to regulate, and to really actually feel rested.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
November 30, 2025 at 2:49 PM
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When you hate being perceived, and are #Autistic, here’s what might be going on:

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
When You Hate Being Perceived
A transcript is available at: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2023/12/09/when-you-hate-being-perceived/ Here's what might be going on if you hate being perceived, if it feels bad or awful,…
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November 28, 2025 at 5:54 PM
autismchrysalis.bsky.social
Instead of, “I can’t take the plunge without absolute certainty it will work out,” what if it’s “I must take the plunge?” What if accepting uncertainty is why I must do it, because I need that personal growth?

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity #AskingAutistics
November 29, 2025 at 1:58 PM
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When you hate being perceived, and are #Autistic, here’s what might be going on:

youtube.com/watch?v=k6Ao...

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD
When You Hate Being Perceived
A transcript is available at: https://www.autismchrysalis.com/2023/12/09/when-you-hate-being-perceived/ Here's what might be going on if you hate being perceived, if it feels bad or awful,…
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November 28, 2025 at 5:54 PM
autismchrysalis.bsky.social
If you want some neurodivergent and neuro-positive book recommendations, here are my favorites, ranging from fiction, to sensory advice, to autobiographies, to ways to dissolve internalized ableism.

You can find all of them at: buff.ly/txLTwqA

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity
November 28, 2025 at 5:19 PM
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Physical sensations and thought always go together. We may not always pay attention to both of those, but we can connect them. When we notice one of them, we can look for the information from the other.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Interoception #Sensory
November 28, 2025 at 1:55 PM
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Other people trying to meet our needs is good. It’s wonderful when they can do that, when they can be supportive in that way. But it’s not always possible. And if it’s not possible, that doesn’t mean that they don’t love us.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
November 27, 2025 at 1:12 PM
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My thoughts on Accountability Partners

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity #lifecoaching
November 26, 2025 at 7:27 PM
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What Everyone Gets Wrong About Autistics and Social Events

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
What Everyone Gets Wrong About Autistics and Social Events
Here’s the rest of the video: https://youtu.be/L6NxYEI-M3A?si=boFvhZEbVkVYWLDtFor more help on dealing with holiday stress as an autistic person, check out m...
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November 26, 2025 at 6:04 PM
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For many of us, it’s really hard to know what we want, or even acknowledge that we have wants (especially when wanting has been very thoroughly trained out of us), but I guarantee you that you have wants.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Neurospicy #Neurodivergent #ND
November 26, 2025 at 2:31 PM
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Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room? Or opts out, instead of being with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? Is it showing acceptance and accommodation? And how do you explain it to family members? Here are my thoughts on these ideas.

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Is it rude for Autistics to spend holidays in their room?
Is it rude if an Autistic child or adult spends holiday gatherings in their room, or opt out, instead of with the family? Is it promoting bad behavior? Is it showing acceptance and accommodation? And…
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November 25, 2025 at 7:17 PM
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When we try to just “get over it”, we don’t learn how to deal with our own internal reactions to things in a more positive, useful way. All of the intensity just gets stored up and we brace ourselves against it.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD #unmasking #AutisticMasking #Sensory
November 25, 2025 at 1:27 PM
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You have decades of information stored in your body about what’s okay and what’s not.

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #AuDHD #Neurodivergent #Interoception
November 24, 2025 at 2:28 PM
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Dissolving Internalized Ableism

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AutismAcceptance #Acceptance
November 23, 2025 at 7:52 PM
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Holiday people pleasing leads to sticky situations  #audhd #holidaystress #peoplepleasing

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #AutisticTwitter #Neurospicy #ND
Holiday people pleasing leads to sticky situations  #audhd #holidaystress #peoplepleasing
For more help on dealing with holiday stress as an autistic person, check out my workshop: Dealing with Holiday Stress Design your game plan to deal with str...
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November 23, 2025 at 5:01 PM
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Self-acceptance is a big part of building self-trust again.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #BurnoutRecovery
November 23, 2025 at 2:27 PM
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What growth edge are you ready for, that may seem scary, but also intriguing and exciting?

#AskingAutistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Neurodiversity
November 22, 2025 at 2:49 PM
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Miscommunications Aren't Always Your Fault

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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurodiversity #healthycommunication #healthyrelationships
November 21, 2025 at 8:46 PM
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A lot of us have been conditioned, often unintentionally but still very heavily, to deny aspects of our own experience.

#AutisticMasking #ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Neurodiversity #AuDHD
November 21, 2025 at 1:33 PM
autismchrysalis.bsky.social
Agreed. This is related to what I was talking about in my recent video on why finding your autistic community didn't fix your loneliness.

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by Dr. Mozelle Martin | Nov 13, 2025 | Addiction, CPTSD, CPTSD and PTSD, Guest Contributor, Mental Health Professional | 0 comments
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November 20, 2025 at 10:15 PM
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All humans want. We come into this world wanting.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic #Neurospicy #Neurodiversity
November 20, 2025 at 1:46 PM
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If you haven't seen this recent video yet, it's about the uncomfortable situation where you find a group of #Autistic and #AuDHD humans, and still don't feel comfortable around them, and/or there's just as much drama as among NT groups. Here's my take on why that happens.

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November 20, 2025 at 2:02 AM
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Today the soap in a public bathroom made my hands smell like stale Play-Doh for hours. Ugh. I could smell it strongly even with my hands stretched far away from me. Sensory nightmare.

Had to wash several times when I got home to get most of the smell off. 
November 20, 2025 at 1:44 AM
autismchrysalis.bsky.social
Getting to where you are now took a long time, and lots of different kinds of experiences (both negative and positive), which means that there are a bunch of different parts of you that are crying out to be heard and to be treated with respect and compassion.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Autistic
November 19, 2025 at 2:09 PM
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November 18, 2025 at 6:20 PM