That’s what being “single” has taught me - how to be loved by many many people. If I ever find a partner again that’s what I want from love because that’s what I want from life - to grow, to learn, to feel connected, to feel whole.

I feel so much more love now that I see the whole picture of what love can be instead of thinking I had to fit it into a single relationship.

Love should expand your life. Love should make you grow. Love should feel so expansive that you don’t know where it ends and where it begins.

I love being single. I know we’ve been socialized into believing that pairing off is the goal, but I think more and more people are recognizing the magic of being with yourself first and foremost.

I still have so much love in my life. From family and friends and my community.

Pay attention to who uses these excuses and pay attention to who we decide to hold accountable. It all starts and ends with the same thing.

Hate is a choice. Choosing to keep being harmful is a choice. Failing to step into accountability for harm is a choice. Not learning from the mistakes we make is a choice.

We create an ableist narrative that neurodivergent fields can’t control themselves or they can’t learn new behaviour. We create an ableist narrative that neurodivergent folks are harmful by nature and can’t critically think about social dynamics.

These things simply are not true.

When we try and use neurodivergency or autism to excuse behaviour, we perpetuate a false narrative - an ableist narrative - that neurodivergent folks cause harm because they are careless and don’t know better.

Neurodivergent folks understand when they cause harm - and the fear of causing harm is what many folks go to therapy to make sure they avoid. The individuals I see using this excuse for the harm they cause are people who have access to every tool possible to avoid spreading hate and harm.