Ashley Joy
@ashley-joy.bsky.social
26 yr old aroace lesbian - she/they/it - biracial - autistic - schizoaffective disorder
Reimagining partnership as an aromantic person means finding love in community. Friends, chosen family, queerplatonic bonds, and so many other types of connection are important, not because they imitate romance, but because the weight of those relationships stand on their own
December 18, 2025 at 7:47 PM
Reimagining partnership as an aromantic person means finding love in community. Friends, chosen family, queerplatonic bonds, and so many other types of connection are important, not because they imitate romance, but because the weight of those relationships stand on their own
A common conclusion that aphobes come to about why people identify as aromantic or asexual is that we're unattractive, which operates under the assumption that our identities are performative but is often a projection of their own misconseptions surrounding our orientations
December 15, 2025 at 3:23 PM
A common conclusion that aphobes come to about why people identify as aromantic or asexual is that we're unattractive, which operates under the assumption that our identities are performative but is often a projection of their own misconseptions surrounding our orientations
There's no wrong way to be aromantic, asexual, or aspec. Intimacy is such a diverse concept that allows for different meanings and associations based on individual desires and boundaries. All the ways in which we navigate our identities are important, and I think that's beautiful
December 11, 2025 at 7:47 PM
There's no wrong way to be aromantic, asexual, or aspec. Intimacy is such a diverse concept that allows for different meanings and associations based on individual desires and boundaries. All the ways in which we navigate our identities are important, and I think that's beautiful
Aromantic and asexual identities aren't the result of unfulfilled allonormativity. Centering our quality of life around how we interact with attraction and its associates perpetuates that we're incomplete when our orientations and experiences are a part of what makes us whole
December 9, 2025 at 7:58 PM
Aromantic and asexual identities aren't the result of unfulfilled allonormativity. Centering our quality of life around how we interact with attraction and its associates perpetuates that we're incomplete when our orientations and experiences are a part of what makes us whole
Asexual people are often seen as naive because of society's focus on attraction as a sign of maturity. The reality is that many of us learn who we are by reflecting on the ways intimacy is presented to us and understanding where it does or doesn't make sense with our experiences
December 6, 2025 at 7:31 PM
Asexual people are often seen as naive because of society's focus on attraction as a sign of maturity. The reality is that many of us learn who we are by reflecting on the ways intimacy is presented to us and understanding where it does or doesn't make sense with our experiences
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people redefine intimacy by centering personal boundaries over normative expectations. In discovering what closeness means for us, we create space for fulfillment without compromise, rooted in self understanding and care for our identities
December 1, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people redefine intimacy by centering personal boundaries over normative expectations. In discovering what closeness means for us, we create space for fulfillment without compromise, rooted in self understanding and care for our identities
Accessible language surrounding aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities is essential for creating visibility. When people are told they’re broken before having the ability to understand themselves, words become a lifeline that shows their experiences are real, valid, and shared
November 28, 2025 at 12:59 PM
Accessible language surrounding aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities is essential for creating visibility. When people are told they’re broken before having the ability to understand themselves, words become a lifeline that shows their experiences are real, valid, and shared
"You're aromantic? But everyone needs love"
Love isn't just romantic, but also centering someone's worth around how they interact with and articulate the idea of intimacy is incredibly othering. Being aromantic isn't a burden; we're whole, and our orientations are a part of that
Love isn't just romantic, but also centering someone's worth around how they interact with and articulate the idea of intimacy is incredibly othering. Being aromantic isn't a burden; we're whole, and our orientations are a part of that
November 21, 2025 at 1:32 PM
"You're aromantic? But everyone needs love"
Love isn't just romantic, but also centering someone's worth around how they interact with and articulate the idea of intimacy is incredibly othering. Being aromantic isn't a burden; we're whole, and our orientations are a part of that
Love isn't just romantic, but also centering someone's worth around how they interact with and articulate the idea of intimacy is incredibly othering. Being aromantic isn't a burden; we're whole, and our orientations are a part of that
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people also deserve to get what they want out of relationships. In the same way that we understand others' unwavering priorities, the weight of our identities and experiences needs to be respected as well
November 18, 2025 at 3:24 PM
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people also deserve to get what they want out of relationships. In the same way that we understand others' unwavering priorities, the weight of our identities and experiences needs to be respected as well
Aphobia is ingrained in our society because allonormativity places such heavy emphasis on sexual and romantic attraction, subsequently follwed by action, in relation to maturity and fulfillment as well as perpetuating them as inherent to the human experience, which isnt inclusive
November 16, 2025 at 12:49 PM
Aphobia is ingrained in our society because allonormativity places such heavy emphasis on sexual and romantic attraction, subsequently follwed by action, in relation to maturity and fulfillment as well as perpetuating them as inherent to the human experience, which isnt inclusive
Aromantic and asexual joy is so important, yet it's often overlooked because our identities are viewed as inherently isolating or limiting, which ignores how much love, connection, and meaning can exist when you're able to express the weight of it in the same way that you feel it
November 14, 2025 at 12:47 PM
Aromantic and asexual joy is so important, yet it's often overlooked because our identities are viewed as inherently isolating or limiting, which ignores how much love, connection, and meaning can exist when you're able to express the weight of it in the same way that you feel it
Saying queerplatonic partners are "just friends" undervalues both of these types of connection and belittles language accessible to us. Perpetuating the allonormative idea that true love is inherently romantic is harmful to both aromantic people and the community as a whole
November 10, 2025 at 2:51 PM
Saying queerplatonic partners are "just friends" undervalues both of these types of connection and belittles language accessible to us. Perpetuating the allonormative idea that true love is inherently romantic is harmful to both aromantic people and the community as a whole
For me, being aromantic and asexual is just as much of a political identity as it is a personal one. Breaking down normative structures and rejecting the imposition of intimacy, desire, and connection as determined by others is such a huge part of how I navigate the world
November 5, 2025 at 1:03 PM
For me, being aromantic and asexual is just as much of a political identity as it is a personal one. Breaking down normative structures and rejecting the imposition of intimacy, desire, and connection as determined by others is such a huge part of how I navigate the world
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities are necessary queer representation. We deserve as much consideration and uplifting as everyone else in the LGBTQ+ community does and our experiences being shown in media isn't stealing from other identities or queerbaiting
November 3, 2025 at 2:05 PM
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities are necessary queer representation. We deserve as much consideration and uplifting as everyone else in the LGBTQ+ community does and our experiences being shown in media isn't stealing from other identities or queerbaiting
Recognizing aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities as valid means absolutely nothing if you actively refuse to include us in queer spaces and conversations
November 1, 2025 at 2:42 PM
Recognizing aromantic, asexual, and aspec identities as valid means absolutely nothing if you actively refuse to include us in queer spaces and conversations
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people are infantilized because attraction and partnership are viewed as a prerequisite to adulthood. This is harmful and projects that we'll "grow up eventually" but also that we aren't mature enough to consent or have valuable relationships
October 26, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people are infantilized because attraction and partnership are viewed as a prerequisite to adulthood. This is harmful and projects that we'll "grow up eventually" but also that we aren't mature enough to consent or have valuable relationships
The concept of intimacy must transcend traditional ideas of sex and romance. When these attractions are viewed as inherent for a deep connection, it pressures an experience onto people without giving them the tools necessary to evaluate what they actually want for themselves
October 24, 2025 at 1:39 PM
The concept of intimacy must transcend traditional ideas of sex and romance. When these attractions are viewed as inherent for a deep connection, it pressures an experience onto people without giving them the tools necessary to evaluate what they actually want for themselves
Ace Week is a reminder that community is its own form of intimacy. Awareness surrounding asexual and acespec identities is important because it shows presence as an expression of love and that the weight it carries can hold, nurture, and affirm people simply for being themselves
October 21, 2025 at 9:08 PM
Ace Week is a reminder that community is its own form of intimacy. Awareness surrounding asexual and acespec identities is important because it shows presence as an expression of love and that the weight it carries can hold, nurture, and affirm people simply for being themselves
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people know just how healing visibility is. Being told we're broken before we even have the chance to understand our experiences makes finding language and community so important in recognizing that our identities are a part of what makes us whole
October 19, 2025 at 2:08 PM
Aromantic, asexual, and aspec people know just how healing visibility is. Being told we're broken before we even have the chance to understand our experiences makes finding language and community so important in recognizing that our identities are a part of what makes us whole
To disregard the value of aromantic and asexual intimacy, and the nuances that come with it, is to be ignorant to varied social dynamics and perpetuate a hierarchical view of relationships established by harmful frameworks that aren't inclusive to everybody's experiences
October 14, 2025 at 12:38 PM
To disregard the value of aromantic and asexual intimacy, and the nuances that come with it, is to be ignorant to varied social dynamics and perpetuate a hierarchical view of relationships established by harmful frameworks that aren't inclusive to everybody's experiences