"This breakdown of an absolutist, us-versus-them mindset that ‘othered’ Arab Palestinians is exactly what some veterans pinpoint as the catalyst of moral injury related to IDF disaffiliation."

"‘But eventually, that defence breaks down, leaving soldiers with psychological collapse, identity conflict, and political disillusionment,' says Eruyar."

"Dr. Seyda Eruyar, a trauma psychologist and Turkish professor, posited hat some soldiers may initially cope with the guilt of killing civilians by dehumanizing them, an action that could allow them to emotionally detach from their actions."

"Yet reports indicate that only 25 percent of detained Gazans have been militants, and 83 percent of the more than 67,000 slain Gazans were civilians."

"Over 99% of amputations are performed in substandard conditions, and most could have been avoided with standard care.

There’s hardly any anesthesia, antiseptic, sterilization solutions, surgical tools, or biomedical devices."

"Narcissists want bystanders and associates to take sides based on loyalty, not contextualization, critical thinking, or perspective-taking."

"They feel betrayed by anyone who filters their embellishments and exaggerations through healthy skepticism, anyone who attempts to humanize or empathize with their targets, or anyone whose perspective-taking points out their own insecurities, projections, and manipulation/victimization tactics."

"The greater the mob, the more convinced they are that they're innocent, despite their unconscionable psychological abuse, bullying, and manipulation.

"This self-deception can explain why narcissists are big on loyalty (e.g., creating an echo chamber of enablers that does not burst their bubble)."

"Narcissists engage in relational aggression not just to appear blameless, but also to convince themselves that they are blameless.

They interpret social power as a form of social proof that justifies their aggressive and harmful self-righteousness."

"By victim-playing to a new lover who is eager to prove their emotional intelligence and capacity to be a safe space, the narcissist manipulates them into feeling that sharing enemies is a necessary rite of passage or sacrifice for the relationship to solidify."

"They know that the beginning of relationships can feel tentative, probationary, and fraught with baggage in terms of trust issues.

Thus, new partners—even if they are not otherwise gullible—can be unknowingly groomed to resent the narcissist's ex-partner/former supply."

7) shifting goalposts ("you fulfilled every single thing, so let's extend the final step/change course...again")

8) undefined communication channels or timetables ("you're unaccountable if you reach out...and if not")

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5) favoritism ("X and Y both did the same/similar things, but show absolutely no mercy on X––be relentless")

6) no checks and balances ("there's no such thing as taking it too far if you're the wronged party")

These 8 pitfalls are:

1) absolutist thinking ("they're all good/bad" + moral absolutism)

2) cynical/defeatist thinking ("they'll never change")

3) masochism/schadenfreude ("scapegoat them")

4) exile ("strip away the community they need to heal")