Unlikely. You ever plan to do something, and the second someone tells you to do it, you no longer want to do it?

Self-growth is very gradual, and most of the early work is subconscious. People have to discover they're the lowest common denominator on their own before they have the "eureka" moment.

I'd like to add, I don't think bad behavior should be tolerated. But it's important to consider why that behavior presents itself and your options to modify the one thing you control in almost any dynamic... your perspective.

"Never lend someone money if you expect to get paid back."

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Think of it like this, the further you zoom out on life, the more you realize nothing matters. The closer you zoom in on life, the more you realize everything does. Universal objectivity doesn't give a shit about life; but subjective perspective within that fundamental objectivity shapes everything.

Acceptance of circumstance. There is no joy without true acceptance. People are imperfect creatures. The truth is, the average person isn't good or bad. They're just people. When you accept human nature for its underlying factors, you'll find people can't disappoint you anymore.

Ultimately, I think it boils down to perspective vs. perception. People should feel remorse and guilt for bad things they've done... but the "why" is imperative. Human nature makes it far more difficult to say "I brought this on myself" than to point outwards. Pointing outwards requires no effort.

I think that all culminates with a decision on whether or not someone wants to, or is capable of, pushing forward and trying to find joy (I'd argue is very different from happiness) in chaos; which requires a level of humility that's difficult in a world where people are intrinsically self-centric.

With that said, I think the key is the perspective of blame from which that pain is felt. Is it internal or external? Is it "look at all these bad things that happen to me" or is it "I'm reaping what I sowed?"

I think that leads to another decision on acceptance. Instead of oneself, of circumstance

However, I believe it's an evolutionary survival trait to be dissatisfied with circumstance unless you fight to train your brain out of it. I know extremely wealthy people who complain about things less financially fortunate people would kill to have.

I'm no psychologist or psychiatrist, but my anecdotal observations lead me to this:

There's a precursor to this. To begin with, a person has to accept prior fault to feel remorse, guilt, or whatever it may be in order to get to this stage; which isn't an easy thing to do.

This is a gorgeous piece

My money's on Santa having a reinforced underground "toy manufacturing facility" in China or Iran.

Congratulations, Matt! Give the hubby my best for me.

The scent of axe body spray is a good early warning system for me.