Anyway…we’re looking into the next month and I just feel so lucky

I will never have the privilege to be able to get through life behaving in such ignorant, clueless ways.

But then this person doesn’t have much in terms of emotional intimacy so I’m not surprised.

All feedback is an attack on their personhood no matter how politely you say it. One can use ‘l feel’ sentences and it’ll still be deflected because they’re incapable of thinking beyond themselves.

The emotional labour of it all fell upon me to let this person know to put down their defenses to give up their perspective and see what things are like for me. Walking a 38-year-old person through empathy like you would walk a child holding their hand

The first time I told my ex, we were friends back then that their ignorance hurt my feelings and the response was “I hope you don’t forget all the other times I didn’t hurt your feelings”

???? What kinda response is that?

Restorative justice for when friends or community members have a conflict. Like I want to make up with my friends after we have a fight.
It is NOT an option when abuse is involved.

I love restorative justice as a concept but I genuinely just can't get over seeing folk use the concept to defend a sexually abusive man from any consequences, insisting that efforts to call out how unsafe he was in activist spaces was racist fueled violence in itself. It's just complicity for some.

Ooooo looks great! I love all the colours especially the neon green in the background

I was told “Riotlinguist will unleash an online mob on you if you called them out” that’s what people think about you.

I took the risk despite it all because with was the right thing to do.

Hope you and Lohse are happy in your echo chamber.

Lohse doesn’t have to deal with me challenging ethical standards or take any accountability for her exploitative since you victimized her already.

Women like me are hard to silence :)
I’ve lived enough of it to have the courage to discern and stand up for myself and other survivors, all alone.

But you keep kiss asses like Lohse around who cater to you so you never have to deal with the consequences of your own actions.
You enable their predatory behaviour and they enable your authority. Like all other authoritarian systems, it works.

Piper and I spent YEARS in a vulnerable space with you and you still believed “Piper is transphobic because of two transfemmes holding hands”

How did you miss it all those years? Where was your discernment?

So you victimize sexual predators, you will as go far to protect your own image and authority than doing the right thing- ethical thing.

Your ethics are so garbage that you never hold one of yours accountable

I like how your only criticism against em is that I am “cis” (I’m not) and “afab” because you can’t possibly respond to your predatory friend having sex with me when I was drunk enough to pass out.

You haven’t acknowledged that yet because it’s inexcusable.

Those days are over.

You will have to pay back for the suffering you created. “I was just trying to do ethical thing”
The ethical thing- following a misogyny parody account of woman’s face on a clown meme.

You’re just a misogynist with feminist lingo

And no your entitlement of demanding peace AFTER you bullied, smeared and abused us, Piper got rape threats isn’t valid.

You get what you do to others.
Your authority is so important, you think you’re always right. That no one will ever stand up to you with how dominate conversations

And it saved me from getting myself stuck in a home with Lohse who was emotionally and sexually exploitative towards me.

If Lohse had violated me in my own home, it would’ve destroyed my safety and no one would’ve believed me anyway.

It all worked out.

Oh yeah Lohse was going to come live with me for months even though I never met her before.

But thanks to Riotlinguist, Lohse lost someone who blindly loved her enough to ignore her poor behaviour and get her out of her abusive parents’ home