For the record (since a survey just came out, stating 84% of ablebodied people don't know how to talk to disabled people), the correct way to address a disabled person is to say "hello. Nice weather we're having today, isn't it?"

It's not to start commenting on said person's disability

At the same time, it's equally frustrating that the general consensus is that disabled people are not human, that we cannot speak for ourselves or be spoken to, listened to or treated as if we are experts on ourselves - nor, for that matter, that we are perfectly capable of taking care of ourselves

It is a cultural, political, physiological, chemical, and biologic identity. That's why it can be visible or very invisible, fluctuating or constant

It's complex, and that specificity is not often very respected. Which is frustrating to say the least

Disability is a complex identity that doesn't stop at the body. It is specific to our experience interacting with architecture, institutions, economy, history, literature, other people, constructions of knowledge, food and medicine