Alysabeth 🍄
@alysabeth.bsky.social
Exposing patterns of narcissistic abuse and the healing process for survivors.
The key tool in a narcissist's kit is isolation.
Let's talk about it and take that away.
🏳️🌈 Lesbian
🧠 ND
🎨 Artist
🔥 Narcissistic Abuse, CPTSD, & Chronic Illness Survivor
The key tool in a narcissist's kit is isolation.
Let's talk about it and take that away.
🏳️🌈 Lesbian
🧠 ND
🎨 Artist
🔥 Narcissistic Abuse, CPTSD, & Chronic Illness Survivor
Reposted by Alysabeth 🍄
For years
whenever we were overwhelmed
by how much we had to do
my sister and I would joke
that perhaps
society would collapse
before we’d have to do it all,
but today when I said this
instead of laughing
she just said:
I don’t think that’s funny anymore.
whenever we were overwhelmed
by how much we had to do
my sister and I would joke
that perhaps
society would collapse
before we’d have to do it all,
but today when I said this
instead of laughing
she just said:
I don’t think that’s funny anymore.
September 17, 2025 at 11:19 PM
For years
whenever we were overwhelmed
by how much we had to do
my sister and I would joke
that perhaps
society would collapse
before we’d have to do it all,
but today when I said this
instead of laughing
she just said:
I don’t think that’s funny anymore.
whenever we were overwhelmed
by how much we had to do
my sister and I would joke
that perhaps
society would collapse
before we’d have to do it all,
but today when I said this
instead of laughing
she just said:
I don’t think that’s funny anymore.
"the biological imperative to survive and not hurt ourselves is so strong that if we hate ourselves enough we stab the world instead of ourselves"
- Gregory Maguire
- Gregory Maguire
August 31, 2025 at 2:04 PM
"the biological imperative to survive and not hurt ourselves is so strong that if we hate ourselves enough we stab the world instead of ourselves"
- Gregory Maguire
- Gregory Maguire
Reposted by Alysabeth 🍄
CPTSD recovery levels up when we realize we don't have to prove sh*t to anyone-- especially not those who wouldn't take our experience seriously anyway.
August 1, 2025 at 6:23 PM
CPTSD recovery levels up when we realize we don't have to prove sh*t to anyone-- especially not those who wouldn't take our experience seriously anyway.
I can't emphasize enough how important it is to have supportive friends to share with.
We all need a sounding board, reality check, and validation - especially if we are navigating a complicated relationship.
If you don't have someone you can trust, I highly recommend
www.inner.world
We all need a sounding board, reality check, and validation - especially if we are navigating a complicated relationship.
If you don't have someone you can trust, I highly recommend
www.inner.world
As an Innercircle member, you will join a group of other Innercirclers with similar interests and challenges. Together, you'll have meetings, learn tools, and work together to navigate your path to healing.
www.inner.world
July 29, 2025 at 9:55 PM
I can't emphasize enough how important it is to have supportive friends to share with.
We all need a sounding board, reality check, and validation - especially if we are navigating a complicated relationship.
If you don't have someone you can trust, I highly recommend
www.inner.world
We all need a sounding board, reality check, and validation - especially if we are navigating a complicated relationship.
If you don't have someone you can trust, I highly recommend
www.inner.world
A couple years ago when I first went no contact with my parents
(aka: set boundaries and sided with a sibling they were exceptionally abusive to - and they decided it made more sense to never speak to me again),
my mom re-posted a long, passive-aggressive post to FB on: "I'm still your mom"
(aka: set boundaries and sided with a sibling they were exceptionally abusive to - and they decided it made more sense to never speak to me again),
my mom re-posted a long, passive-aggressive post to FB on: "I'm still your mom"
July 23, 2025 at 8:07 PM
A couple years ago when I first went no contact with my parents
(aka: set boundaries and sided with a sibling they were exceptionally abusive to - and they decided it made more sense to never speak to me again),
my mom re-posted a long, passive-aggressive post to FB on: "I'm still your mom"
(aka: set boundaries and sided with a sibling they were exceptionally abusive to - and they decided it made more sense to never speak to me again),
my mom re-posted a long, passive-aggressive post to FB on: "I'm still your mom"
Healing is not consistent at all.
I was doing really well, and feeling like it was time to open up about what I'd experienced and what I've learned.
I'm glad I did and I still plan to continue.
But, the last week has been exceptionally hard on my mental health.
Anxiety attacks, panic attacks...
I was doing really well, and feeling like it was time to open up about what I'd experienced and what I've learned.
I'm glad I did and I still plan to continue.
But, the last week has been exceptionally hard on my mental health.
Anxiety attacks, panic attacks...
July 19, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Healing is not consistent at all.
I was doing really well, and feeling like it was time to open up about what I'd experienced and what I've learned.
I'm glad I did and I still plan to continue.
But, the last week has been exceptionally hard on my mental health.
Anxiety attacks, panic attacks...
I was doing really well, and feeling like it was time to open up about what I'd experienced and what I've learned.
I'm glad I did and I still plan to continue.
But, the last week has been exceptionally hard on my mental health.
Anxiety attacks, panic attacks...
Christian fundamentalists want the equivalent of Sharia law in the US
The religion is one of abuse, coercive control and domination
They've raised their children in the hopes that we will continue to kiss the ring
So many of us refuse
We are deconstructing
First ourselves, next their power
The religion is one of abuse, coercive control and domination
They've raised their children in the hopes that we will continue to kiss the ring
So many of us refuse
We are deconstructing
First ourselves, next their power
If you grew up in a household with an evangelical right-wing parent, as I did, you already know that the dismantling of the U.S. Department of Education, like the reversal of Roe v. Wade, is the culmination of a 50-year project.
July 15, 2025 at 12:05 PM
Christian fundamentalists want the equivalent of Sharia law in the US
The religion is one of abuse, coercive control and domination
They've raised their children in the hopes that we will continue to kiss the ring
So many of us refuse
We are deconstructing
First ourselves, next their power
The religion is one of abuse, coercive control and domination
They've raised their children in the hopes that we will continue to kiss the ring
So many of us refuse
We are deconstructing
First ourselves, next their power
Growing up with emotionally immature parents does not set you up for success in future relationships.
You've learned communication from them. You've modeled your behavior after theirs. It's not only required for survival as a child, it's human nature.
You've learned communication from them. You've modeled your behavior after theirs. It's not only required for survival as a child, it's human nature.
July 12, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Growing up with emotionally immature parents does not set you up for success in future relationships.
You've learned communication from them. You've modeled your behavior after theirs. It's not only required for survival as a child, it's human nature.
You've learned communication from them. You've modeled your behavior after theirs. It's not only required for survival as a child, it's human nature.
I spent years thinking that if I could just figure out the right words my parents would have to see the damage they were doing
I had (have) conversation after conversation in my head and in my dreams to try and make them understand
I realize now they do understand
They don't care enough to change
I had (have) conversation after conversation in my head and in my dreams to try and make them understand
I realize now they do understand
They don't care enough to change
Narcissists know why you left.
They know why you're upset.
They know why you won't speak to them.
They know that they hurt you.
Trying to explain things to them only gives them an opportunity to twist your words, confuse you and bring you back under control.
They know why you're upset.
They know why you won't speak to them.
They know that they hurt you.
Trying to explain things to them only gives them an opportunity to twist your words, confuse you and bring you back under control.
July 10, 2025 at 2:45 PM
I spent years thinking that if I could just figure out the right words my parents would have to see the damage they were doing
I had (have) conversation after conversation in my head and in my dreams to try and make them understand
I realize now they do understand
They don't care enough to change
I had (have) conversation after conversation in my head and in my dreams to try and make them understand
I realize now they do understand
They don't care enough to change
Have you found yourself making excuse after excuse for an abusive person in your life?
The purpose of antagonistic and abusive behaviors are defense mechanisms.
The purpose of antagonistic and abusive behaviors are defense mechanisms.
July 7, 2025 at 11:38 AM
Have you found yourself making excuse after excuse for an abusive person in your life?
The purpose of antagonistic and abusive behaviors are defense mechanisms.
The purpose of antagonistic and abusive behaviors are defense mechanisms.
An abusive relationship will ALWAYS change you far more than it will ever change them.
Don't stay for who they could be. Be realistic with who they are right now.
That's exactly who they will be in the future.
Don't stay for who they could be. Be realistic with who they are right now.
That's exactly who they will be in the future.
July 6, 2025 at 2:29 PM
An abusive relationship will ALWAYS change you far more than it will ever change them.
Don't stay for who they could be. Be realistic with who they are right now.
That's exactly who they will be in the future.
Don't stay for who they could be. Be realistic with who they are right now.
That's exactly who they will be in the future.
Christian religions, especially fundamentalism, prime people for abusive relationships, cults, and blindly following evil people that do not align with their values.
Here's why:
Here's why:
July 4, 2025 at 6:04 PM
Christian religions, especially fundamentalism, prime people for abusive relationships, cults, and blindly following evil people that do not align with their values.
Here's why:
Here's why:
“People hear that spanking is bad, so they stop doing that and become more verbally abusive,” said (Martin) Teicher. “It turns out, that may be worse.”
hms.harvard.edu/news/cutting...
hms.harvard.edu/news/cutting...
July 3, 2025 at 1:10 PM
“People hear that spanking is bad, so they stop doing that and become more verbally abusive,” said (Martin) Teicher. “It turns out, that may be worse.”
hms.harvard.edu/news/cutting...
hms.harvard.edu/news/cutting...
"It would be the best of all worlds if there was no religion in it."
- John Adams
Yes, THAT John Adams.
And I couldn't agree more.
If you can show me a religion that doesn't coerce by fear, ask for blind faith, or make promises you only receive after death - I might change my stance.
- John Adams
Yes, THAT John Adams.
And I couldn't agree more.
If you can show me a religion that doesn't coerce by fear, ask for blind faith, or make promises you only receive after death - I might change my stance.
July 3, 2025 at 1:01 AM
"It would be the best of all worlds if there was no religion in it."
- John Adams
Yes, THAT John Adams.
And I couldn't agree more.
If you can show me a religion that doesn't coerce by fear, ask for blind faith, or make promises you only receive after death - I might change my stance.
- John Adams
Yes, THAT John Adams.
And I couldn't agree more.
If you can show me a religion that doesn't coerce by fear, ask for blind faith, or make promises you only receive after death - I might change my stance.
If you are at all concerned about what's going on in the US lately, please listen to this podcast:
open.spotify.com/episode/5gRT...
She is incredibly smart and has an insider's view on Project 2025.
open.spotify.com/episode/5gRT...
She is incredibly smart and has an insider's view on Project 2025.
1. Intro & What do we do now?
Flipping Tables · Episode
open.spotify.com
July 3, 2025 at 12:39 AM
If you are at all concerned about what's going on in the US lately, please listen to this podcast:
open.spotify.com/episode/5gRT...
She is incredibly smart and has an insider's view on Project 2025.
open.spotify.com/episode/5gRT...
She is incredibly smart and has an insider's view on Project 2025.
Part 1 of healing from prolonged narcissistic abuse is reconnecting with who you are.
Abuse victims often disconnect from their body, and have severely reduced interoception (awareness of feelings within the body, and the space and positioning of the body).
Abuse victims often disconnect from their body, and have severely reduced interoception (awareness of feelings within the body, and the space and positioning of the body).
July 1, 2025 at 2:25 PM
Part 1 of healing from prolonged narcissistic abuse is reconnecting with who you are.
Abuse victims often disconnect from their body, and have severely reduced interoception (awareness of feelings within the body, and the space and positioning of the body).
Abuse victims often disconnect from their body, and have severely reduced interoception (awareness of feelings within the body, and the space and positioning of the body).
Some people want to be parents.
And some people just want to have kids.
There's a big difference.
And some people just want to have kids.
There's a big difference.
A great analogy. If you want to mould your child like a build a bear, you don’t want a child. You want to control someone’s life.
That means you are incapable of being a healthy parent. Become a warden, sure, but not a parent.
That means you are incapable of being a healthy parent. Become a warden, sure, but not a parent.
July 1, 2025 at 2:40 AM
Some people want to be parents.
And some people just want to have kids.
There's a big difference.
And some people just want to have kids.
There's a big difference.
One common denominator of narcissistic personalities is that they live in a separate reality.
The only way you keep a relationship with this kind of person is to agree to and live in their reality.
Do this long enough, and eventually you are indoctrinated into it and no longer believe your own.
The only way you keep a relationship with this kind of person is to agree to and live in their reality.
Do this long enough, and eventually you are indoctrinated into it and no longer believe your own.
June 30, 2025 at 12:48 PM
One common denominator of narcissistic personalities is that they live in a separate reality.
The only way you keep a relationship with this kind of person is to agree to and live in their reality.
Do this long enough, and eventually you are indoctrinated into it and no longer believe your own.
The only way you keep a relationship with this kind of person is to agree to and live in their reality.
Do this long enough, and eventually you are indoctrinated into it and no longer believe your own.
Hot take / tough truth
If you do not feel safe with your parents, your kids are not safe with them either.
I'm well aware that it is a privilege to be able to go no contact.
If you are in a situation where you can't go no contact, but feel it is necessary, please work towards it for their sakes.
If you do not feel safe with your parents, your kids are not safe with them either.
I'm well aware that it is a privilege to be able to go no contact.
If you are in a situation where you can't go no contact, but feel it is necessary, please work towards it for their sakes.
June 28, 2025 at 2:16 PM
Hot take / tough truth
If you do not feel safe with your parents, your kids are not safe with them either.
I'm well aware that it is a privilege to be able to go no contact.
If you are in a situation where you can't go no contact, but feel it is necessary, please work towards it for their sakes.
If you do not feel safe with your parents, your kids are not safe with them either.
I'm well aware that it is a privilege to be able to go no contact.
If you are in a situation where you can't go no contact, but feel it is necessary, please work towards it for their sakes.
If you find yourself having more conversations with them in your head than in person, and are contemplating writing a long letter or text to express your feelings without interruption -
- chances are high you are in a toxic relationship, and are being gaslit.
- chances are high you are in a toxic relationship, and are being gaslit.
June 28, 2025 at 1:25 PM
If you find yourself having more conversations with them in your head than in person, and are contemplating writing a long letter or text to express your feelings without interruption -
- chances are high you are in a toxic relationship, and are being gaslit.
- chances are high you are in a toxic relationship, and are being gaslit.
"I would d!e for you"
"I would have given you the world if I could"
But they won't live for you.
They won't change their abusive behavior.
They won't deliver a sincere apology.
They won't stop hurting you every chance they get.
It's manipulation
Not a promise
Definitely not love.
"I would have given you the world if I could"
But they won't live for you.
They won't change their abusive behavior.
They won't deliver a sincere apology.
They won't stop hurting you every chance they get.
It's manipulation
Not a promise
Definitely not love.
June 27, 2025 at 12:56 PM
"I would d!e for you"
"I would have given you the world if I could"
But they won't live for you.
They won't change their abusive behavior.
They won't deliver a sincere apology.
They won't stop hurting you every chance they get.
It's manipulation
Not a promise
Definitely not love.
"I would have given you the world if I could"
But they won't live for you.
They won't change their abusive behavior.
They won't deliver a sincere apology.
They won't stop hurting you every chance they get.
It's manipulation
Not a promise
Definitely not love.
Guilt.
Another handy tool in the narcissist's kit.
If you're racked with guilt about setting boundaries in a relationship, please sit with that for a while and trace the root of that guilt back.
Where did it originate?
Why?
Do you agree that it's yours?
Is this truly your responsibility?
Another handy tool in the narcissist's kit.
If you're racked with guilt about setting boundaries in a relationship, please sit with that for a while and trace the root of that guilt back.
Where did it originate?
Why?
Do you agree that it's yours?
Is this truly your responsibility?
Narcissists worked hard to keep me distracted—from their failures, their lies, their behavior. If I stayed busy blaming myself, I wouldn’t notice how broken they really were.
June 26, 2025 at 12:59 PM
Guilt.
Another handy tool in the narcissist's kit.
If you're racked with guilt about setting boundaries in a relationship, please sit with that for a while and trace the root of that guilt back.
Where did it originate?
Why?
Do you agree that it's yours?
Is this truly your responsibility?
Another handy tool in the narcissist's kit.
If you're racked with guilt about setting boundaries in a relationship, please sit with that for a while and trace the root of that guilt back.
Where did it originate?
Why?
Do you agree that it's yours?
Is this truly your responsibility?
Some days feel so much
heavier
than others.
heavier
than others.
June 25, 2025 at 6:22 PM
Some days feel so much
heavier
than others.
heavier
than others.
"Sorry you feel that way"
Is a narcissistic apology.
Cut and dry.
Don't ever do it.
Don't ever accept it.
Is a narcissistic apology.
Cut and dry.
Don't ever do it.
Don't ever accept it.
June 24, 2025 at 1:45 PM
"Sorry you feel that way"
Is a narcissistic apology.
Cut and dry.
Don't ever do it.
Don't ever accept it.
Is a narcissistic apology.
Cut and dry.
Don't ever do it.
Don't ever accept it.
Critical thinking takes authority away from power.
I don't think it's a coincidence that during this age of enlightenment, we are now inundated with AI that is working so hard to make sure that the facts are hard to confirm.
It's a crucial step in coercive control to make us question the truth.
I don't think it's a coincidence that during this age of enlightenment, we are now inundated with AI that is working so hard to make sure that the facts are hard to confirm.
It's a crucial step in coercive control to make us question the truth.
Real talk:
I think critical thinking is something humanity is just now evolving to put to use.
This is why more people than ever are leaving religion, leaving their abusers, choosing to find happiness.
A bunch of humans are still not at the level of others and maybe they’ll stay where they are.
I think critical thinking is something humanity is just now evolving to put to use.
This is why more people than ever are leaving religion, leaving their abusers, choosing to find happiness.
A bunch of humans are still not at the level of others and maybe they’ll stay where they are.
June 23, 2025 at 12:00 PM
Critical thinking takes authority away from power.
I don't think it's a coincidence that during this age of enlightenment, we are now inundated with AI that is working so hard to make sure that the facts are hard to confirm.
It's a crucial step in coercive control to make us question the truth.
I don't think it's a coincidence that during this age of enlightenment, we are now inundated with AI that is working so hard to make sure that the facts are hard to confirm.
It's a crucial step in coercive control to make us question the truth.