But because we’re stuck in this weird cycle of social politeness fumbling around 1) the grieving most likely becomes isolated and 2) the people who kept offering help don’t know where they went wrong.

Messy and lonely.

The reason these gut punches are annoying is because I wish there was a way to fully show someone who tells you “I’m here for you, one call away blah blah” what that looks like and what that entails.

The way death culture is in US American culture/society is very “don’t think too hard about it, just enjoy the ride!” This doesn’t sound terrible but it becomes noticeable no one is really dealing with it and it’s not common to know how to talk about it. Because of this I became the grief friend.

It’s also an annoying gut punch when so many people say they’re here for you and to call anytime you need to talk because it’s not true. I don’t say that flippantly. I’ve dealt with death and grief really early in life, and have experienced it continuously like clockwork. My dad helped me navigate.

This is such a flex

Evan 😂

Prime rib, some Filipino desserts.. that’s as far as I got. Maybe green beans