Allison Lau
@allisonrlau.bsky.social
Author 📚 Editor 🐒 PhD Scientist
My favorite moments from research weren’t the clean ones or the publishable ones.
They were the ones that quietly dismantled a bad assumption.
They were the ones that quietly dismantled a bad assumption.
January 1, 2026 at 4:54 AM
My favorite moments from research weren’t the clean ones or the publishable ones.
They were the ones that quietly dismantled a bad assumption.
They were the ones that quietly dismantled a bad assumption.
I keep thinking about how grief can live inside logistics.
A ride. A road. A translation error.
And then suddenly: absence.
A ride. A road. A translation error.
And then suddenly: absence.
December 30, 2025 at 3:55 AM
I keep thinking about how grief can live inside logistics.
A ride. A road. A translation error.
And then suddenly: absence.
A ride. A road. A translation error.
And then suddenly: absence.
There’s a quiet horror in realizing you arrived on time—
and still too late.
and still too late.
December 30, 2025 at 2:55 AM
There’s a quiet horror in realizing you arrived on time—
and still too late.
and still too late.
If intimacy doesn’t move the story forward, it doesn’t belong.
But when it does—it’s devastatingly precise.
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But when it does—it’s devastatingly precise.
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December 28, 2025 at 8:11 PM
If intimacy doesn’t move the story forward, it doesn’t belong.
But when it does—it’s devastatingly precise.
#author
#writer
#romcom
#serializedfiction
But when it does—it’s devastatingly precise.
#author
#writer
#romcom
#serializedfiction
December 28, 2025 at 12:20 AM
If the sex scene doesn’t change anyone, it’s just choreography.
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December 27, 2025 at 5:20 PM
If the sex scene doesn’t change anyone, it’s just choreography.
#author
#writer
#romcom
#serializedfiction
#author
#writer
#romcom
#serializedfiction
I used to think identity crises were dramatic.
Now I think they’re invitations—
especially when love forces the question.
Now I think they’re invitations—
especially when love forces the question.
December 25, 2025 at 5:54 AM
I used to think identity crises were dramatic.
Now I think they’re invitations—
especially when love forces the question.
Now I think they’re invitations—
especially when love forces the question.
We talk endlessly about childhood development.
We rarely talk about parental development—
how becoming responsible for a life also remakes your own.
We rarely talk about parental development—
how becoming responsible for a life also remakes your own.
December 25, 2025 at 4:54 AM
We talk endlessly about childhood development.
We rarely talk about parental development—
how becoming responsible for a life also remakes your own.
We rarely talk about parental development—
how becoming responsible for a life also remakes your own.
First touch isn’t romantic.
It’s instinct.
Read Love Letter to Wanderlust now ✈️🐒
It’s instinct.
Read Love Letter to Wanderlust now ✈️🐒
December 23, 2025 at 3:22 PM
First touch isn’t romantic.
It’s instinct.
Read Love Letter to Wanderlust now ✈️🐒
It’s instinct.
Read Love Letter to Wanderlust now ✈️🐒
She almost trusted the doubts.
Then the moment arrived anyway.
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Then the moment arrived anyway.
💌✈️🐒
December 23, 2025 at 3:55 AM
She almost trusted the doubts.
Then the moment arrived anyway.
💌✈️🐒
Then the moment arrived anyway.
💌✈️🐒
Meeting someone in person after weeks of words feels like stepping into a room that already knows your name.
December 23, 2025 at 2:55 AM
Meeting someone in person after weeks of words feels like stepping into a room that already knows your name.
Weeks of messages.
One airport gate.
So many ways this could go wrong.
Chapter 15 is live now.
One airport gate.
So many ways this could go wrong.
Chapter 15 is live now.
December 22, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Weeks of messages.
One airport gate.
So many ways this could go wrong.
Chapter 15 is live now.
One airport gate.
So many ways this could go wrong.
Chapter 15 is live now.
There’s no emoji for the moment you finally see someone in the flesh.
December 22, 2025 at 3:51 PM
There’s no emoji for the moment you finally see someone in the flesh.
Some ideas only need twenty minutes of courage to become real.
After that, they won’t leave you alone.
After that, they won’t leave you alone.
December 21, 2025 at 12:20 AM
Some ideas only need twenty minutes of courage to become real.
After that, they won’t leave you alone.
After that, they won’t leave you alone.
Wait... McDonalds has free wifi, a playplace, and the cheapest coffee I've seen in years.
Is this about to become my go-to coffee shop and maybe even my personality?
Is this about to become my go-to coffee shop and maybe even my personality?
December 20, 2025 at 9:29 PM
Wait... McDonalds has free wifi, a playplace, and the cheapest coffee I've seen in years.
Is this about to become my go-to coffee shop and maybe even my personality?
Is this about to become my go-to coffee shop and maybe even my personality?
I’m increasingly convinced that clarity doesn’t require long explanations.
It requires presence.
It requires presence.
December 20, 2025 at 5:20 PM
I’m increasingly convinced that clarity doesn’t require long explanations.
It requires presence.
It requires presence.
Some realizations feel harsh until you notice how much freedom they return to you.
December 20, 2025 at 4:50 AM
Some realizations feel harsh until you notice how much freedom they return to you.
Planning out this year's Christmas card and just came across this photo of my eldest. She's stunning. I can't handle this.
9 years of Frankie Lau. Our original baby ❤️
9 years of Frankie Lau. Our original baby ❤️
December 19, 2025 at 7:19 PM
Planning out this year's Christmas card and just came across this photo of my eldest. She's stunning. I can't handle this.
9 years of Frankie Lau. Our original baby ❤️
9 years of Frankie Lau. Our original baby ❤️
There’s a grief in realizing no one is coming to save you.
There’s also relief.
Because it means you’re allowed to move.
There’s also relief.
Because it means you’re allowed to move.
December 19, 2025 at 5:27 AM
There’s a grief in realizing no one is coming to save you.
There’s also relief.
Because it means you’re allowed to move.
There’s also relief.
Because it means you’re allowed to move.
Speeding up a meditation podcast to double speed probably isn't what they had in mind.
December 19, 2025 at 4:47 AM
Speeding up a meditation podcast to double speed probably isn't what they had in mind.
I’ve been noticing a broader shift in how we approach our day-to-day and what role "work" plays in our overall life picture.
Going freelance, I’ve adjusted my own mindset by working with clients whose values and mission align with the strengths I know I bring to the table.
Going freelance, I’ve adjusted my own mindset by working with clients whose values and mission align with the strengths I know I bring to the table.
December 19, 2025 at 4:27 AM
I’ve been noticing a broader shift in how we approach our day-to-day and what role "work" plays in our overall life picture.
Going freelance, I’ve adjusted my own mindset by working with clients whose values and mission align with the strengths I know I bring to the table.
Going freelance, I’ve adjusted my own mindset by working with clients whose values and mission align with the strengths I know I bring to the table.
Hi, I’m Allison Lau.
Author, editor, and former PhD behavioral scientist who once tracked monkeys, now writing essays and stories about identity, love, ambition, and reclaiming your own life.
I write my newsletter Monkey Girl—plus a serialized romcom.
Glad you’re here.
Author, editor, and former PhD behavioral scientist who once tracked monkeys, now writing essays and stories about identity, love, ambition, and reclaiming your own life.
I write my newsletter Monkey Girl—plus a serialized romcom.
Glad you’re here.
December 19, 2025 at 12:07 AM
Hi, I’m Allison Lau.
Author, editor, and former PhD behavioral scientist who once tracked monkeys, now writing essays and stories about identity, love, ambition, and reclaiming your own life.
I write my newsletter Monkey Girl—plus a serialized romcom.
Glad you’re here.
Author, editor, and former PhD behavioral scientist who once tracked monkeys, now writing essays and stories about identity, love, ambition, and reclaiming your own life.
I write my newsletter Monkey Girl—plus a serialized romcom.
Glad you’re here.