I’m one of those people who dream every night. Heck I even remember my dreams when I nap in the afternoon. As far back as I can remember till childhood.

Yes! To be honest with the naked eye it’s quite disappointing. A greyish green smear across the sky. It only looks good on photos.

Not all terfs are transphobes and not all transphobes are terfs.

Don’t let him watch the movie though. Traumatised so many kids.

You look gorgeous now.

I’m out of the loop. What’s going on?

Maybe my way is less draining. I don’t know. I boymode for the whole week and maybe find 2 hrs or so to be me. Sometimes a whole week goes by and I don’t even get that.

Having to change in and out of boymode multiple times a day sounds so hard.

Interesting! I used to paint and I can definitely relate. Being so proud of myself at my early attempts but as I improved they looked childish and clunky.

It’s akin to our transition really.

I used to hate myself instead. Thoughts like “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I be like other people?”

The first person I came out to, I figured was safe, and also since we were not super close, I could risk losing him if it didn't go well. It went ok.

The second person was also someone I thought would be safe. That time (today actually) went much better.

Particularly for me being in an Asian culture where conformity is expected, it’s even harder.

Being transgender goes against every fibre of my being, my fundamental instinct to want to blend in and be invisible. That was the first thing I had to fight.

I default back to old learned male behaviors, and it feels comfortable. That in itself brings dysphoria because damn it, it shouldn't feel comfortable.

And we want people to recognize us as us, how we see ourselves. Living a lie feels wrong.

It’s one of the scariest things we ever have to do in our lives. And yet we crave to do it because staying in the closet is just awful.

I haven’t socially transitioned either so I’m wondering the same thing by the way.

Definitely. I only realised I was trans and ND late in life at 49, but I’m so glad I found a community and friends who fit in that Venn diagram. Like @heyitsdani.bsky.social