I'm gonna have to fucking wait tho bc there's a con this weekend, and then one of them is going on a family trip for a week, and then I have surgery the week after

And I hate that this is bc my friend got her first bf and went off the rails, and the other friend has given up on making any attempt to talk to her about it again after my bff has started getting back on the rails somewhat and needs some nudges back

I really want to talk to them and be like "I love y'all, but I am not gonna keep doing this any longer bc I no longer feel comfortable hanging out with either of you rn. Go talk it out or literally go to couples/family therapy"

And try to make multiple plans w me while telling me not to tell the other person what's going on and I'm literally living thru my parents separation again and the emotions I feel whenever I go to visit my parents (bc my parents ended up not divorcing)