And you pair with someone enduring the same, and you approach each other and the material with such reverence. It's got to be a holy experience

Can you imagine having a massive team of full-time employees whose sole job is to make you the best version of you that you could possibly be

Leo and Kate became lifelong friends after Titanic because big movies just do that ppl. It's make believe, yes, but it's still real stress and beauty, and a unique understanding of knowing what it's like to be those people for millions

I say this as a survivor of gaslighting where I deeply questioned my memory and sanity. If he is invested in correcting this as much as you, that's a good sign it's sign it's not gaslighting. Memory problems are known to increase with stress, especially with ADHD

What I would pay attention to is how hard he insists. You are doing this great thing where you are taking a step back, inspecting and reflecting, reaching for ideas. Is he doing the same? Is he questioning himself? Is he a little frightened, too? ADHD or no, he should want to not hurt you.

a co-op game of strategy should be able to handle someone's request for a brief, one-time very important strategy

I get there are ways to say this with good faith and well meaning, but it feels so antithetical to the concept of being an adventuring party to shut down a conversation someone else wants to have about something that will impact the entire playthrough.

"just play whatever you want" feels like code for "because I'm going to play whatever I want and I don't want to inspect why I didn't think to consider anything outside of what I want"

One vid he assessed that a dog barking at his reflection meant he was " trapped in the sense of sight " and I was like, here we go, teach the dog to use his nose to smell or ears to hear - nope! Hurt the dog while he looks at the mirror 😐

Really opened my eyes to how justice-seeking will cling to something that feels ultimately protective. and for a lot of men that is the status quo. it feels righteous to preserve.

the difference between me and that dude is that I doubt he will do any introspection & empathy like I just did for him

Back in 2020 I was fervently checking news at work and announcing important updates to people who ended up not really caring at all, and then a few years later I met someone who did the same thing - listening to political podcasts, announcing news - but for the opposite views. It deflated me

as long as any man can attach ANY demands or "needs" to his right to stick his dick in someone, get them pregnant, and then claim propertarian ownership rights over what comes out, no one on this planet will ever be free. abolish the family, the name of Fatherhood.

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