AlAnon Andonandon
@alanonandonandon.bsky.social
Looking to capture the absurdity of loving an addict/alcoholic spouse without going insane | parent of amazing kids | professional in my spare time
Now that he’s sober, having a hard time making our marriage more equitable again after years of over functioning due to Buzzband’s active addiction. He wants me to let go of what should be his while I think he needs to step up and take it. Any ideas for this chicken-egg challenge? #AlAnon #sobersky
October 24, 2025 at 3:31 AM
Buzzband gets so frustrated when the dog eats something he’s not supposed to, but he is oblivious to parallels from Friday when I caught him with a beer hours after he received his 90-day chip despite leaving for treatment 8 months ago. But yes, we should expect more from the dog. 🙄 #ODAAT #sobersky
July 24, 2025 at 3:40 AM
Buzzband gets so frustrated when the dog eats something he’s not supposed to, but he is oblivious to parallels from Friday when I caught him with a beer hours after he received his 90-day chip despite leaving for treatment 8 months ago. But yes, we should expect more from the dog. 🙄 #ODAAT #sobersky
Holy shit—I have never felt so seen. I was listening to this on my way home from the airport where I called Buzzband to make sure he remembered to unlock door for me before he returns to his sober house. Came home to find him 💤—and me locked out. #addictspouse
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What Recovery Gets Wrong: The Partner's Side of the Story
Podcast Episode · Till The Wheels Fall Off · 05/21/2025 · 1h 10m
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June 19, 2025 at 3:05 AM
Holy shit—I have never felt so seen. I was listening to this on my way home from the airport where I called Buzzband to make sure he remembered to unlock door for me before he returns to his sober house. Came home to find him 💤—and me locked out. #addictspouse
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Buzzband has been doing great so I schedule a triple date with friends. 75 minutes before they are to arrive & he starts acting off. I delicately broach whether something is wrong, get weird/hostile response and he accuses me of gaslighting him.
May 25, 2025 at 9:51 PM
Buzzband has been doing great so I schedule a triple date with friends. 75 minutes before they are to arrive & he starts acting off. I delicately broach whether something is wrong, get weird/hostile response and he accuses me of gaslighting him.
Buzzband has a new sponsor, is participating in AA stuff, and is coming back on line. But he still conks out each night while we watch tv/movies as a family. Drives us 🍌s. But my daughter’s spot-on impersonation of him snoring is hilarious and lets me know she’s going to be ok. #ODAAT #SoberSky
May 25, 2025 at 4:14 AM
Buzzband had a good day after a rough go yesterday. Until I went to give him something he forgot only to see him with a cigarette—in the car he’s not supposed to be smoking in. And presumably without wearing the patch he was prescribed. B/c why make it easier to quit an addiction? #ODAAT #SoberSky
May 8, 2025 at 4:12 AM
So he appears be abstaining but the last 8 years has skewed his ability to understand what an equitable division of labor in this family actually looks like. Yet he wants a fucking parade if he manages to clear the ridiculously low bar he’s set for himself. Awaiting recalibration. #ODAAT #SoberSky
May 6, 2025 at 3:15 AM
Seeking advice: (a) Go to bed? Or (b) #StanleyCupPlayoff overtime?
April 30, 2025 at 4:42 AM
Seeking advice: (a) Go to bed? Or (b) #StanleyCupPlayoff overtime?
Struggling. Buzzband swore at our daughter. Rather than acknowledging huge mistake, apologizing, and trying to make amends, he—per usual—makes 10+ other bad decisions before trying to fix it. And he hasn’t started to fix it yet. I’m so pissed at him. And this is him “sober.” #ODAAT #SoberSky
April 28, 2025 at 2:14 AM
Found a weird prescription with unknown doc for Buzzband. Asked him about it and he lost his shit. Turns out it was Suboxone to deal w/kratum cravings that he sought out. But he was ashamed that he needed the added help and spent the next full day in shame spiral.🧵
April 17, 2025 at 3:04 AM
Found a weird prescription with unknown doc for Buzzband. Asked him about it and he lost his shit. Turns out it was Suboxone to deal w/kratum cravings that he sought out. But he was ashamed that he needed the added help and spent the next full day in shame spiral.🧵
Had several good days with Buzzband and he started a new job yesterday. Came home tonight and found beer can on the counter. Instead of my usual m.o., I texted him that I found it, knew he was hurting, that he was lovable, and he had people he could call to help. Still sux. #ODAAT #AlAnon #sobersky
April 9, 2025 at 3:48 AM
Buzzband had a good day until about 8pm when he’s turned into a complete a$$. He’s supposed to be back at his sober house but won’t leave. I’m going to bed. #sobersky # ODAAT
April 2, 2025 at 3:59 AM
Buzzband had a good day until about 8pm when he’s turned into a complete a$$. He’s supposed to be back at his sober house but won’t leave. I’m going to bed. #sobersky # ODAAT
March 21, 2025 at 4:02 AM