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Those who only strive to please others will never be pleased with themselves.
December 11, 2025 at 5:39 PM
Those who only strive to please others will never be pleased with themselves.
For me, the "I can't do it" problem is usually more of an "I'm not good enough" problem. I'm actually "capable" of doing most things at some level. However, self judgment about not being good enough has resulted in just giving up many times. Believing the judgment of others can have the same effect
December 11, 2025 at 4:58 PM
For me, the "I can't do it" problem is usually more of an "I'm not good enough" problem. I'm actually "capable" of doing most things at some level. However, self judgment about not being good enough has resulted in just giving up many times. Believing the judgment of others can have the same effect
Justification is when I rearrange a bunch of information in my mind to support a conclusion that I have already determined to be "right." Sometimes, I'm amazed at how I can make crazy seem so logical.
Grateful for the friends who love me enough to call me on it.
Grateful for the friends who love me enough to call me on it.
December 9, 2025 at 3:52 PM
Justification is when I rearrange a bunch of information in my mind to support a conclusion that I have already determined to be "right." Sometimes, I'm amazed at how I can make crazy seem so logical.
Grateful for the friends who love me enough to call me on it.
Grateful for the friends who love me enough to call me on it.
Everything is in a constant state of transformation.
The lamp, the chair, the tree, the mountain, the earth, the sun, the universe
me.
Everything. Right now. Constantly.
My awareness of the rate of the transformation is limited by my perception of time.
The lamp, the chair, the tree, the mountain, the earth, the sun, the universe
me.
Everything. Right now. Constantly.
My awareness of the rate of the transformation is limited by my perception of time.
December 6, 2025 at 6:12 PM
Everything is in a constant state of transformation.
The lamp, the chair, the tree, the mountain, the earth, the sun, the universe
me.
Everything. Right now. Constantly.
My awareness of the rate of the transformation is limited by my perception of time.
The lamp, the chair, the tree, the mountain, the earth, the sun, the universe
me.
Everything. Right now. Constantly.
My awareness of the rate of the transformation is limited by my perception of time.
My latest rabbit hole is the role of "operational definitions" in relationship conflict. A phrase like, "You don't love me" could be an indicator of differing operational definitions of love. Is my "love" just like yours? If we listed descriptive behaviors, would they be the same? How flexible am I?
December 5, 2025 at 4:26 PM
My latest rabbit hole is the role of "operational definitions" in relationship conflict. A phrase like, "You don't love me" could be an indicator of differing operational definitions of love. Is my "love" just like yours? If we listed descriptive behaviors, would they be the same? How flexible am I?
Change on the outside CAN change the inside (possible).
Change on the inside ALWAYS changes the outside (inevitable).
Change on the inside ALWAYS changes the outside (inevitable).
December 3, 2025 at 4:21 PM
Change on the outside CAN change the inside (possible).
Change on the inside ALWAYS changes the outside (inevitable).
Change on the inside ALWAYS changes the outside (inevitable).
Desperation is often the doorway to a new perspective.
Being open minded is a lot less painful.
Being open minded is a lot less painful.
December 3, 2025 at 3:55 PM
Desperation is often the doorway to a new perspective.
Being open minded is a lot less painful.
Being open minded is a lot less painful.
The thirsty person will go forth to get water.
The hungry person will go forth and get food.
The person exposed to the elements will go forth and get shelter.
Why then does the lonely person isloate?
How great must be the fear of others to do the exact opposite of what the soul requires?
The hungry person will go forth and get food.
The person exposed to the elements will go forth and get shelter.
Why then does the lonely person isloate?
How great must be the fear of others to do the exact opposite of what the soul requires?
December 1, 2025 at 8:01 PM
The thirsty person will go forth to get water.
The hungry person will go forth and get food.
The person exposed to the elements will go forth and get shelter.
Why then does the lonely person isloate?
How great must be the fear of others to do the exact opposite of what the soul requires?
The hungry person will go forth and get food.
The person exposed to the elements will go forth and get shelter.
Why then does the lonely person isloate?
How great must be the fear of others to do the exact opposite of what the soul requires?
Those who never cross the line don't get very far.
BTW...we draw virtually all the lines ourselves.
BTW...we draw virtually all the lines ourselves.
December 1, 2025 at 7:17 PM
Those who never cross the line don't get very far.
BTW...we draw virtually all the lines ourselves.
BTW...we draw virtually all the lines ourselves.
I'm always talking to myself. Feelings are form of communication from my inner self. Sometimes I'm not a good listener. Somtimes I don't understand what I hear (feel). Sometimes I don't like what I hear (feel). Sometimes I just ignore what I hear (feel).
December 1, 2025 at 4:46 PM
I'm always talking to myself. Feelings are form of communication from my inner self. Sometimes I'm not a good listener. Somtimes I don't understand what I hear (feel). Sometimes I don't like what I hear (feel). Sometimes I just ignore what I hear (feel).
Waking up with gratitude for just being alive is a good start to your day!
December 1, 2025 at 4:28 PM
Waking up with gratitude for just being alive is a good start to your day!
Generosity given with an expectation of something in return is not generosity.
Giving with an expected return is transactional thinking. If my expectation is unfulfilled, I will feel disappointment, frustration or anger. Then I will know my generosity was never a gift. It had strings attached.
Giving with an expected return is transactional thinking. If my expectation is unfulfilled, I will feel disappointment, frustration or anger. Then I will know my generosity was never a gift. It had strings attached.
December 1, 2025 at 4:03 PM
Generosity given with an expectation of something in return is not generosity.
Giving with an expected return is transactional thinking. If my expectation is unfulfilled, I will feel disappointment, frustration or anger. Then I will know my generosity was never a gift. It had strings attached.
Giving with an expected return is transactional thinking. If my expectation is unfulfilled, I will feel disappointment, frustration or anger. Then I will know my generosity was never a gift. It had strings attached.
Seeking from others that which I believe I lack has always been the source of my emotional vulnerability. What have I been seeking? Answers can be revealed in the history of my relationships. Especially in those that "failed". There can be value in failing if I am willing to look, learn and accept.
November 30, 2025 at 5:19 PM
Seeking from others that which I believe I lack has always been the source of my emotional vulnerability. What have I been seeking? Answers can be revealed in the history of my relationships. Especially in those that "failed". There can be value in failing if I am willing to look, learn and accept.
Confusion is the unconscious recognition that I have numerous options. In any moment, the options are infinite. As I grew older, I began to categorize my past experiences into good/bad, right/wrong. I began projecting my fears and expectations into various possibilities. Action can bring clarity.
November 29, 2025 at 4:15 PM
Confusion is the unconscious recognition that I have numerous options. In any moment, the options are infinite. As I grew older, I began to categorize my past experiences into good/bad, right/wrong. I began projecting my fears and expectations into various possibilities. Action can bring clarity.
I'm in my 70s. Reflecting on the past, I've had seemingly good days and bad. Most of them somewhere in between. There were some times I felt I could not go on, but I have. I never knew what tomorrow would bring and I still don't. I must be stronger and more resilient than I thought.
You are too.
You are too.
November 25, 2025 at 7:42 PM
I'm in my 70s. Reflecting on the past, I've had seemingly good days and bad. Most of them somewhere in between. There were some times I felt I could not go on, but I have. I never knew what tomorrow would bring and I still don't. I must be stronger and more resilient than I thought.
You are too.
You are too.
The defining characteristic of "self" awareness is the illusion of separation. The leaf is the tree even if it believes it is only a leaf.
November 25, 2025 at 4:20 PM
The defining characteristic of "self" awareness is the illusion of separation. The leaf is the tree even if it believes it is only a leaf.
Interaction is inherent in my life and I have been influenced by many people and experiences. Ultimately though, the standards set for me, are set by me and I am my own judge. There is freedom in taking responsibility for myself.
November 23, 2025 at 4:10 PM
Interaction is inherent in my life and I have been influenced by many people and experiences. Ultimately though, the standards set for me, are set by me and I am my own judge. There is freedom in taking responsibility for myself.
The expression, "They took their last breath," is not accurate. Our final breath is always "given." Our first breath is "taken". In between is a lifetime of relative balance. In. Out. Inseparable, interdependent take and give often without conscious thought. Breathing can teach a lot about living.
November 22, 2025 at 4:55 PM
The expression, "They took their last breath," is not accurate. Our final breath is always "given." Our first breath is "taken". In between is a lifetime of relative balance. In. Out. Inseparable, interdependent take and give often without conscious thought. Breathing can teach a lot about living.
Billions and billions of internal and external "bits" of sensory input are continuously feeding into my brain. It is organized, stored and is instantaneously being called up to frame my perception, thinking and behavior. Even my heartbeat and breathing. We are amazing! AI has a long way to go.
November 21, 2025 at 4:14 PM
Billions and billions of internal and external "bits" of sensory input are continuously feeding into my brain. It is organized, stored and is instantaneously being called up to frame my perception, thinking and behavior. Even my heartbeat and breathing. We are amazing! AI has a long way to go.
"I love my white cabinets."
The cabinets are dirty. I have to keep cleaning the cabinets!
"I hate my white cabinets."
Note to self: The cabinets have not changed. Only your perception and attitude about the cabinets have changed.
Kind of like most things.
The cabinets are dirty. I have to keep cleaning the cabinets!
"I hate my white cabinets."
Note to self: The cabinets have not changed. Only your perception and attitude about the cabinets have changed.
Kind of like most things.
November 20, 2025 at 6:20 PM
"I love my white cabinets."
The cabinets are dirty. I have to keep cleaning the cabinets!
"I hate my white cabinets."
Note to self: The cabinets have not changed. Only your perception and attitude about the cabinets have changed.
Kind of like most things.
The cabinets are dirty. I have to keep cleaning the cabinets!
"I hate my white cabinets."
Note to self: The cabinets have not changed. Only your perception and attitude about the cabinets have changed.
Kind of like most things.
Seems like whenever I'm not wishing that things would change, I'm wishing they wouldn't.
November 18, 2025 at 6:23 PM
Seems like whenever I'm not wishing that things would change, I'm wishing they wouldn't.
Some AI platforms now include a disclaimer explaining that the information should not be relied upon without verification because it may be inaccurate including errors and biases. Considered transparency to build trust, it is more about limiting liability.
Can I get one of those?
Can I get one of those?
November 18, 2025 at 5:19 PM
Some AI platforms now include a disclaimer explaining that the information should not be relied upon without verification because it may be inaccurate including errors and biases. Considered transparency to build trust, it is more about limiting liability.
Can I get one of those?
Can I get one of those?
Most of my fears are imaginary. There doesn't need to be a "real" monster under the bed for me to be genuinely afraid of the monster under the bed. My body doesn't care, it reacts in the same way. Feelings don't require reality. They make their own.
November 16, 2025 at 5:36 PM
Most of my fears are imaginary. There doesn't need to be a "real" monster under the bed for me to be genuinely afraid of the monster under the bed. My body doesn't care, it reacts in the same way. Feelings don't require reality. They make their own.
Desire is never truly satisfied, for that is the nature of desire.
November 15, 2025 at 4:08 PM
Desire is never truly satisfied, for that is the nature of desire.
I am limited by the individuation of my own self identity.
November 14, 2025 at 5:11 PM
I am limited by the individuation of my own self identity.