Things Doctors Say
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Real stories; use #ThingsDoctorsSay to join the conversation and share your story.
Main account on IG.
Dr: “I won’t send you for allergy testing; you react to so much and it would be a waste of time.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
June 19, 2025 at 6:04 PM
Dr: “I won’t send you for allergy testing; you react to so much and it would be a waste of time.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: *spends 15 mins with the nurse going over my medication allergies*
[later during my appointment]
Dr: “I'm going to prescribe you [medication].”
Me: “l'm allergic to [medication]; it should be in my chart. I thought I told the nurse that earlier.”
Dr: *scoffs* “I don't read your chart.”
Me:......
[later during my appointment]
Dr: “I'm going to prescribe you [medication].”
Me: “l'm allergic to [medication]; it should be in my chart. I thought I told the nurse that earlier.”
Dr: *scoffs* “I don't read your chart.”
Me:......
June 10, 2025 at 5:44 PM
Me: *spends 15 mins with the nurse going over my medication allergies*
[later during my appointment]
Dr: “I'm going to prescribe you [medication].”
Me: “l'm allergic to [medication]; it should be in my chart. I thought I told the nurse that earlier.”
Dr: *scoffs* “I don't read your chart.”
Me:......
[later during my appointment]
Dr: “I'm going to prescribe you [medication].”
Me: “l'm allergic to [medication]; it should be in my chart. I thought I told the nurse that earlier.”
Dr: *scoffs* “I don't read your chart.”
Me:......
Dr: “To be pedantic, we can't assume you had an infection even though your bacteria was positive for one.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma]
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[Medical Trauma]
June 8, 2025 at 5:44 PM
Dr: “To be pedantic, we can't assume you had an infection even though your bacteria was positive for one.”
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[Medical Trauma]
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[Medical Trauma]
Me: [experiencing really bad abdominal pain]
Dr: "Your symptoms are only for pregnant ladies; are you sure you aren't pregnant? You shouldn't even be looking at guys but that must be all you do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: "Your symptoms are only for pregnant ladies; are you sure you aren't pregnant? You shouldn't even be looking at guys but that must be all you do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
June 3, 2025 at 7:51 PM
Me: [experiencing really bad abdominal pain]
Dr: "Your symptoms are only for pregnant ladies; are you sure you aren't pregnant? You shouldn't even be looking at guys but that must be all you do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: "Your symptoms are only for pregnant ladies; are you sure you aren't pregnant? You shouldn't even be looking at guys but that must be all you do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: "I'm experiencing chronic pain." [many conditions run in my family]
Dr: "It's just because you're a teenager; it's probably nothing. Or you've inherited something from your family, but I'm not going to investigate that."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: "It's just because you're a teenager; it's probably nothing. Or you've inherited something from your family, but I'm not going to investigate that."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
June 2, 2025 at 5:44 PM
Me: "I'm experiencing chronic pain." [many conditions run in my family]
Dr: "It's just because you're a teenager; it's probably nothing. Or you've inherited something from your family, but I'm not going to investigate that."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: "It's just because you're a teenager; it's probably nothing. Or you've inherited something from your family, but I'm not going to investigate that."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: "MCAS is just a 'vogue' disease someone got famous from and now everyone thinks they have it. It's the same for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and even POTS, so you fit into this category, no offense."
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
June 1, 2025 at 5:06 PM
Dr: "MCAS is just a 'vogue' disease someone got famous from and now everyone thinks they have it. It's the same for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and even POTS, so you fit into this category, no offense."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: "I've had a never-ending headache for 4 years. I can't drive, read, or see clearly and it makes me throw up."
Dr: "That just happens sometimes and there's nothing we can do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: "That just happens sometimes and there's nothing we can do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
May 30, 2025 at 5:39 PM
Me: "I've had a never-ending headache for 4 years. I can't drive, read, or see clearly and it makes me throw up."
Dr: "That just happens sometimes and there's nothing we can do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: "That just happens sometimes and there's nothing we can do."
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Me: “So how much salt would you recommend?”
Dr [one of the forefront specialists]: “Actually we just made the number up. Now we tell everyone 10.”
Me:................
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[Medical trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr [one of the forefront specialists]: “Actually we just made the number up. Now we tell everyone 10.”
Me:................
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[Medical trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 29, 2025 at 5:26 PM
Me: “So how much salt would you recommend?”
Dr [one of the forefront specialists]: “Actually we just made the number up. Now we tell everyone 10.”
Me:................
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[Medical trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr [one of the forefront specialists]: “Actually we just made the number up. Now we tell everyone 10.”
Me:................
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[Medical trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: [having really painful
penetrative s*x]
Dr: “It is normal to hurt. You need to be a good girlfriend and suck it up.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
penetrative s*x]
Dr: “It is normal to hurt. You need to be a good girlfriend and suck it up.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
May 24, 2025 at 5:38 PM
Me: [having really painful
penetrative s*x]
Dr: “It is normal to hurt. You need to be a good girlfriend and suck it up.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
penetrative s*x]
Dr: “It is normal to hurt. You need to be a good girlfriend and suck it up.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: “Do you want these pills?”
Me: “No.”
My Dad: “They helped you though.”
Me: “Okay then.”
Dr: “She’s an addict!”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: “No.”
My Dad: “They helped you though.”
Me: “Okay then.”
Dr: “She’s an addict!”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 22, 2025 at 7:06 PM
Dr: “Do you want these pills?”
Me: “No.”
My Dad: “They helped you though.”
Me: “Okay then.”
Dr: “She’s an addict!”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: “No.”
My Dad: “They helped you though.”
Me: “Okay then.”
Dr: “She’s an addict!”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: “If I can’t fix you, no one can. This is the end of the road for you.” *proceeds to wrongly diagnose me and then give me the first link Google search print out*
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 21, 2025 at 5:28 PM
Dr: “If I can’t fix you, no one can. This is the end of the road for you.” *proceeds to wrongly diagnose me and then give me the first link Google search print out*
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
[3 years old with clear autism symptoms]
Dr: “She’s a girl. It doesn’t matter how much she meets the diagnostic criteria. She isn’t autistic.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
Dr: “She’s a girl. It doesn’t matter how much she meets the diagnostic criteria. She isn’t autistic.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
May 20, 2025 at 4:43 PM
[3 years old with clear autism symptoms]
Dr: “She’s a girl. It doesn’t matter how much she meets the diagnostic criteria. She isn’t autistic.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
Dr: “She’s a girl. It doesn’t matter how much she meets the diagnostic criteria. She isn’t autistic.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
Dr: “You don’t need an ultrasound because you’re thin enough for me to feel everything.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 17, 2025 at 4:51 PM
Dr: “You don’t need an ultrasound because you’re thin enough for me to feel everything.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: “You’re not depressed, you are just in pain.”
[next week]
Dr: “You are not in pain, you are just depressed.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
[next week]
Dr: “You are not in pain, you are just depressed.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
May 17, 2025 at 4:50 PM
Dr: “You’re not depressed, you are just in pain.”
[next week]
Dr: “You are not in pain, you are just depressed.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
[next week]
Dr: “You are not in pain, you are just depressed.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicPain
Dr: “Well having an official diagnosis on your records isn’t going to cure you.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness #Disability
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness #Disability
May 11, 2025 at 4:41 PM
Dr: “Well having an official diagnosis on your records isn’t going to cure you.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness #Disability
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness #Disability
Me: [asked my primary care for a referral to an infertility clinic]
PCP: “I won’t submit that until you are no longer a wheelchair user because how will you care for an infant from a chair anyways.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Disability
PCP: “I won’t submit that until you are no longer a wheelchair user because how will you care for an infant from a chair anyways.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Disability
May 10, 2025 at 5:13 PM
Me: [asked my primary care for a referral to an infertility clinic]
PCP: “I won’t submit that until you are no longer a wheelchair user because how will you care for an infant from a chair anyways.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Disability
PCP: “I won’t submit that until you are no longer a wheelchair user because how will you care for an infant from a chair anyways.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Disability
Dr: “You can’t be chronically ill. You’re just fat and delusional.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 6, 2025 at 5:24 PM
Dr: “You can’t be chronically ill. You’re just fat and delusional.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: *walks in* “Welcome to the club of women spending millions of dollars to try to figure out what’s wrong with them.” *walks out*
Me:................
[I had cancer]
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[Medical Trauma] #Cancer
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[I had cancer]
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[Medical Trauma] #Cancer
May 5, 2025 at 4:52 PM
Dr: *walks in* “Welcome to the club of women spending millions of dollars to try to figure out what’s wrong with them.” *walks out*
Me:................
[I had cancer]
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[Medical Trauma] #Cancer
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[I had cancer]
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[Medical Trauma] #Cancer
Dr: “It’s probably because you’re too skinny and have lip filler.”
Me:................
[I was in adrenal crisis]
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[I was in adrenal crisis]
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 3, 2025 at 5:07 PM
Dr: “It’s probably because you’re too skinny and have lip filler.”
Me:................
[I was in adrenal crisis]
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[I was in adrenal crisis]
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: *describing my ME/CFS symptoms*
Dr: “I’m pretty sure if you just got a job or something to get you out of the house, you’d feel better.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: “I’m pretty sure if you just got a job or something to get you out of the house, you’d feel better.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
May 2, 2025 at 5:42 PM
Me: *describing my ME/CFS symptoms*
Dr: “I’m pretty sure if you just got a job or something to get you out of the house, you’d feel better.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: “I’m pretty sure if you just got a job or something to get you out of the house, you’d feel better.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: “I don’t want to test for pre-diabetes or PCOS; over-diagnosis just causes anxiety.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
April 26, 2025 at 5:41 PM
Dr: “I don’t want to test for pre-diabetes or PCOS; over-diagnosis just causes anxiety.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Dr: [2013] “I won’t bother diagnosing your autism because it might deny you care if the NHS ever gets privatized.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
April 25, 2025 at 5:37 PM
Dr: [2013] “I won’t bother diagnosing your autism because it might deny you care if the NHS ever gets privatized.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
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[Medical Trauma] #ActuallyAutistic
Dr: “You’re not taking seriously that your biological clock is ticking?”
Me: “But I don’t want kids…”
Dr: “It’s against nature. The sacrifice of ending up in a wheelchair would be repaid by children.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
Me: “But I don’t want kids…”
Dr: “It’s against nature. The sacrifice of ending up in a wheelchair would be repaid by children.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
April 24, 2025 at 5:33 PM
Dr: “You’re not taking seriously that your biological clock is ticking?”
Me: “But I don’t want kids…”
Dr: “It’s against nature. The sacrifice of ending up in a wheelchair would be repaid by children.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
Me: “But I don’t want kids…”
Dr: “It’s against nature. The sacrifice of ending up in a wheelchair would be repaid by children.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
Dr: “Your heart rate is 140. In my practice, I see plenty of young, pretty girls like you with the same issue. Stop worrying about the boy.
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
April 21, 2025 at 5:47 PM
Dr: “Your heart rate is 140. In my practice, I see plenty of young, pretty girls like you with the same issue. Stop worrying about the boy.
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
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[Medical Trauma] #Misogyny
Dr: “We know you have a long-term vitamin D deficiency, but we are going to take you off your vitamin D prescription.”
Me: *gets really ill and weak*
Dr: “Hmm, how strange, your vitamin D is too low.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: *gets really ill and weak*
Dr: “Hmm, how strange, your vitamin D is too low.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
April 20, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Dr: “We know you have a long-term vitamin D deficiency, but we are going to take you off your vitamin D prescription.”
Me: *gets really ill and weak*
Dr: “Hmm, how strange, your vitamin D is too low.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness
Me: *gets really ill and weak*
Dr: “Hmm, how strange, your vitamin D is too low.”
Me:................
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[Medical Trauma] #ChronicIllness