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An Elephant in the Room: How to Talk About S-E-X We start having sex as teens (usually), and normally learn how to do it with one or more partners. Eventually we get together with someone and settle down in a long-term relationship and ...
An Elephant in the Room: How to Talk About S-E-X
Chapter 45 and Part III of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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December 13, 2025 at 3:25 PM
An Elephant in the Room: How to Talk About S-E-X We start having sex as teens (usually), and normally learn how to do it with one or more partners. Eventually we get together with someone and settle down in a long-term relationship and ...
Being Grateful, On Purpose. (An Exercise and a Secret You Gratitude is essentially a mental training. It teaches us to recognize the parts of our relationship that are already working, already loving, already generous. Learn the lesser known secrets of gratitude.
Being Grateful, On Purpose. (An Exercise and a Secret You Should Know)
A Brief Naked Truth
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November 25, 2025 at 11:32 PM
Being Grateful, On Purpose. (An Exercise and a Secret You Gratitude is essentially a mental training. It teaches us to recognize the parts of our relationship that are already working, already loving, already generous. Learn the lesser known secrets of gratitude.
Bring Me Some Higher Love: Cannabis for Intimacy and Connection
Being stuck in our heads during sex and sensuality is a top challenge for all genders. All that thinking and overthinking can undermine our openness to closeness with our partner.
Being stuck in our heads during sex and sensuality is a top challenge for all genders. All that thinking and overthinking can undermine our openness to closeness with our partner.
Bring Me Some Higher Love: Cannabis for Intimacy and Connection
Chapter 43 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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November 22, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Bring Me Some Higher Love: Cannabis for Intimacy and Connection
Being stuck in our heads during sex and sensuality is a top challenge for all genders. All that thinking and overthinking can undermine our openness to closeness with our partner.
Being stuck in our heads during sex and sensuality is a top challenge for all genders. All that thinking and overthinking can undermine our openness to closeness with our partner.
Part of being a good lover is being able to expand beyond our preferences and meet our lovers in their world as well. If you know your partner is turned on by romantic seduction, step into your inner seducer to give them that energy.
Welcome To My Mind: Sharing Fantasies with Your Partner
Chapter 42 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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November 15, 2025 at 4:26 PM
Part of being a good lover is being able to expand beyond our preferences and meet our lovers in their world as well. If you know your partner is turned on by romantic seduction, step into your inner seducer to give them that energy.
STOP! in the Name of Love: Stepping Back from the Ledge of Reactivity
It’s a scary place to be and for many of us, it’s an old familiar feeling born out of a lifetime of experiences where anger became our first and foremost weapon of defense.
It’s a scary place to be and for many of us, it’s an old familiar feeling born out of a lifetime of experiences where anger became our first and foremost weapon of defense.
STOP! in the Name of Love: Stepping Back from the Ledge of Reactivity
Brief Naked Truth
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November 12, 2025 at 8:42 PM
STOP! in the Name of Love: Stepping Back from the Ledge of Reactivity
It’s a scary place to be and for many of us, it’s an old familiar feeling born out of a lifetime of experiences where anger became our first and foremost weapon of defense.
It’s a scary place to be and for many of us, it’s an old familiar feeling born out of a lifetime of experiences where anger became our first and foremost weapon of defense.
Ethical Porn: Beyond the Mainstream
Porn is not an argument to be won, or even a problem to be solved; pornography or erotica is something to be discussed, understood, and (for those who are inclined) integrated into a relationship as a tool to enhance your sex life, rather than damage it.
Porn is not an argument to be won, or even a problem to be solved; pornography or erotica is something to be discussed, understood, and (for those who are inclined) integrated into a relationship as a tool to enhance your sex life, rather than damage it.
Ethical Porn: Beyond the Mainstream
Chapter 41 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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November 8, 2025 at 4:08 PM
Ethical Porn: Beyond the Mainstream
Porn is not an argument to be won, or even a problem to be solved; pornography or erotica is something to be discussed, understood, and (for those who are inclined) integrated into a relationship as a tool to enhance your sex life, rather than damage it.
Porn is not an argument to be won, or even a problem to be solved; pornography or erotica is something to be discussed, understood, and (for those who are inclined) integrated into a relationship as a tool to enhance your sex life, rather than damage it.
Why Venting About Your Partner with Friends Can Feel Good—and Go Wrong
Why Venting About Your Partner with Friends Can Feel Good—and Go Wrong
A Brief Naked Truth
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November 6, 2025 at 2:03 PM
Why Venting About Your Partner with Friends Can Feel Good—and Go Wrong
You Are Not Your Beliefs, Your Thoughts or Your Emotions
Our negative core beliefs are the baggage we drag behind us into every new partnership, and they’re set on wash and repeat until those beliefs are challenged upgraded and rewritten.
Our negative core beliefs are the baggage we drag behind us into every new partnership, and they’re set on wash and repeat until those beliefs are challenged upgraded and rewritten.
You Are Not Your Beliefs, Your Thoughts or Your Emotions
Using Hypnotherapy to update, edit and tweak what we tell ourselves
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October 29, 2025 at 9:53 PM
You Are Not Your Beliefs, Your Thoughts or Your Emotions
Our negative core beliefs are the baggage we drag behind us into every new partnership, and they’re set on wash and repeat until those beliefs are challenged upgraded and rewritten.
Our negative core beliefs are the baggage we drag behind us into every new partnership, and they’re set on wash and repeat until those beliefs are challenged upgraded and rewritten.
You Can’t Argue Someone into Loving You: Solid Advise to Higher-Desire Partners Who Are Pissed
When the higher-desire partner badgers, guilt trips, nags, pouts, barters or begs for sex, they unwittingly turn sex into a commodity to be acquired, an argument to be won.
When the higher-desire partner badgers, guilt trips, nags, pouts, barters or begs for sex, they unwittingly turn sex into a commodity to be acquired, an argument to be won.
You Can’t Argue Someone into Loving You: Solid Advise to Higher-Desire Partners Who Are Pissed
Chapter 39 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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October 25, 2025 at 3:18 PM
You Can’t Argue Someone into Loving You: Solid Advise to Higher-Desire Partners Who Are Pissed
When the higher-desire partner badgers, guilt trips, nags, pouts, barters or begs for sex, they unwittingly turn sex into a commodity to be acquired, an argument to be won.
When the higher-desire partner badgers, guilt trips, nags, pouts, barters or begs for sex, they unwittingly turn sex into a commodity to be acquired, an argument to be won.
Putting the Past Where It Belongs: How Memory Reconsolidation Clear the Blocks to Love.
But there comes a point where new insights stop translating into new experiences. The novelty of new experiences fade and we’re left with ourselves again re-experiencing the same blocks as before.
But there comes a point where new insights stop translating into new experiences. The novelty of new experiences fade and we’re left with ourselves again re-experiencing the same blocks as before.
Putting the Past Where It Belongs: How Memory Reconsolidation Clear the Blocks
A Brief Naked Truth
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October 22, 2025 at 10:49 PM
Putting the Past Where It Belongs: How Memory Reconsolidation Clear the Blocks to Love.
But there comes a point where new insights stop translating into new experiences. The novelty of new experiences fade and we’re left with ourselves again re-experiencing the same blocks as before.
But there comes a point where new insights stop translating into new experiences. The novelty of new experiences fade and we’re left with ourselves again re-experiencing the same blocks as before.
Lay Your Heart on the Table: Ten Tips for Sharing Your Sexual Desires. Think of conversations about sex in terms of a newborn baby: Protect it from harm, hold it tenderly, and nurture it with loving attention.
Lay Your Heart on the Table: Ten Tips for Sharing Your Sexual Desires
Chapter 38 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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October 18, 2025 at 3:06 PM
Lay Your Heart on the Table: Ten Tips for Sharing Your Sexual Desires. Think of conversations about sex in terms of a newborn baby: Protect it from harm, hold it tenderly, and nurture it with loving attention.
Tell Me What You Want: Looking Inside America's Erotic Mind. Aren’t we all curious about what other people think and do when it comes to sex?
Tell Me What You Want: Looking Inside Americas’ Erotic Mind
Chapter 37 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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October 11, 2025 at 4:56 PM
Tell Me What You Want: Looking Inside America's Erotic Mind. Aren’t we all curious about what other people think and do when it comes to sex?
The Art of Sexual Initiation (Part 2): Five Elements of a Welcoming Invitation
Most importantly, planning time for intimacy, interrupts the daily question of ‘is this the day sex will happen?’ This ongoing silent query creates an undercurrent of tension that is pervasive in a couple life together.
Most importantly, planning time for intimacy, interrupts the daily question of ‘is this the day sex will happen?’ This ongoing silent query creates an undercurrent of tension that is pervasive in a couple life together.
The Art of Sexual Initiation (Part 2): Five Elements of a Welcoming Invitation
Chapter 35 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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September 27, 2025 at 2:41 PM
The Art of Sexual Initiation (Part 2): Five Elements of a Welcoming Invitation
Most importantly, planning time for intimacy, interrupts the daily question of ‘is this the day sex will happen?’ This ongoing silent query creates an undercurrent of tension that is pervasive in a couple life together.
Most importantly, planning time for intimacy, interrupts the daily question of ‘is this the day sex will happen?’ This ongoing silent query creates an undercurrent of tension that is pervasive in a couple life together.
Initiating sex is a mixed bag for couples. It comes with ease for some, where just a look or an innuendo sets things in motion, but for most couples, initiating sex is laden with a dynamic that creates feelings of frustration, misunderstanding, and resentment.
The Art of Sexual Initiation (Part 1): Putting Your Ducks in a Row
Chapter 34 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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September 20, 2025 at 2:43 PM
Initiating sex is a mixed bag for couples. It comes with ease for some, where just a look or an innuendo sets things in motion, but for most couples, initiating sex is laden with a dynamic that creates feelings of frustration, misunderstanding, and resentment.
Stoics in Love: Part 1
We’re desperate to bring meaning to our lives and if we can’t find certainty in our outside world, we will look to find it in our inner world.
We’re desperate to bring meaning to our lives and if we can’t find certainty in our outside world, we will look to find it in our inner world.
Stoics in Love: Part 1
A brief naked truth: What if the key to ending conflict wasn’t changing them… but changing you?
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September 10, 2025 at 10:26 PM
Stoics in Love: Part 1
We’re desperate to bring meaning to our lives and if we can’t find certainty in our outside world, we will look to find it in our inner world.
We’re desperate to bring meaning to our lives and if we can’t find certainty in our outside world, we will look to find it in our inner world.
Naked and Afraid: Seven Stress Busters for Your Bedroom
Naked and Afraid: Seven Stress Busters for Your Bedroom
Chapter 32 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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September 6, 2025 at 4:01 PM
Naked and Afraid: Seven Stress Busters for Your Bedroom
Desire: The Missing Link
Desire: The Missing Link
Chapter 31 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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August 30, 2025 at 3:29 PM
Desire: The Missing Link
Neither you, nor your partner, are mind readers. Learning the skill to communicate your needs, to listen to your partner’s needs, to work through misunderstanding, to be vulnerable, to share your feelings are fundamental to a successful relationship. This is adult sex education.
What Brings Sex Coaching Clients to my Virtual Door? The Top 4 Reasons.
A Brief Naked Truth
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August 20, 2025 at 9:41 PM
Neither you, nor your partner, are mind readers. Learning the skill to communicate your needs, to listen to your partner’s needs, to work through misunderstanding, to be vulnerable, to share your feelings are fundamental to a successful relationship. This is adult sex education.
A sexual drought is a form of inertia, and unless some external force acts upon it, it will remain as is.
From Drought to Desire: Seven Steps Out of Inertia
Part 2, Chapter 29 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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August 16, 2025 at 2:02 PM
A sexual drought is a form of inertia, and unless some external force acts upon it, it will remain as is.
Be the Love You’re Seeking: A Radical Experiment
Long-term partners are constantly, consciously and unconsciously, scanning for breaches in connection. We’re sensitive to the most nuanced signals; an awkward silence, a subtle eye roll, a shift in tone, or a change in body language.
Long-term partners are constantly, consciously and unconsciously, scanning for breaches in connection. We’re sensitive to the most nuanced signals; an awkward silence, a subtle eye roll, a shift in tone, or a change in body language.
Be the Love You’re Seeking: A Radical Experiment
A Brief Naked Truth
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August 7, 2025 at 1:54 AM
Be the Love You’re Seeking: A Radical Experiment
Long-term partners are constantly, consciously and unconsciously, scanning for breaches in connection. We’re sensitive to the most nuanced signals; an awkward silence, a subtle eye roll, a shift in tone, or a change in body language.
Long-term partners are constantly, consciously and unconsciously, scanning for breaches in connection. We’re sensitive to the most nuanced signals; an awkward silence, a subtle eye roll, a shift in tone, or a change in body language.
Jealousy: Taming the Beast
In full force, jealousy cuts to our deepest fear of not being loved but, on a very primal level, jealousy is a warning sign that even our physical survival could be threatened if we were to lose our partner to another.
In full force, jealousy cuts to our deepest fear of not being loved but, on a very primal level, jealousy is a warning sign that even our physical survival could be threatened if we were to lose our partner to another.
Jealousy: Taming the Beast
Chapter 27 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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August 2, 2025 at 2:26 PM
Jealousy: Taming the Beast
In full force, jealousy cuts to our deepest fear of not being loved but, on a very primal level, jealousy is a warning sign that even our physical survival could be threatened if we were to lose our partner to another.
In full force, jealousy cuts to our deepest fear of not being loved but, on a very primal level, jealousy is a warning sign that even our physical survival could be threatened if we were to lose our partner to another.
Non-Violent Communication: Eight Steps to Bypass the Pain of Conflict
Human beings have needs, and if our needs aren’t being met, we react; we pull away, fight back, or withdraw. We make so many mistakes in our efforts to get our needs met!
Human beings have needs, and if our needs aren’t being met, we react; we pull away, fight back, or withdraw. We make so many mistakes in our efforts to get our needs met!
Non-Violent Communication: Eight Steps to Bypass the Pain of Conflict
Chapter 24 of the Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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July 19, 2025 at 5:24 PM
Non-Violent Communication: Eight Steps to Bypass the Pain of Conflict
Human beings have needs, and if our needs aren’t being met, we react; we pull away, fight back, or withdraw. We make so many mistakes in our efforts to get our needs met!
Human beings have needs, and if our needs aren’t being met, we react; we pull away, fight back, or withdraw. We make so many mistakes in our efforts to get our needs met!
Empathy: An Act of Generosity
Empathy is perspective taking. It’s the ability to take the perspective of another person. It’s recognizing feelings in other people and then communicating that recognition back to them.”
Empathy is perspective taking. It’s the ability to take the perspective of another person. It’s recognizing feelings in other people and then communicating that recognition back to them.”
Empathy: An Act of Generosity
Chapter 22 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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June 29, 2025 at 4:49 PM
Empathy: An Act of Generosity
Empathy is perspective taking. It’s the ability to take the perspective of another person. It’s recognizing feelings in other people and then communicating that recognition back to them.”
Empathy is perspective taking. It’s the ability to take the perspective of another person. It’s recognizing feelings in other people and then communicating that recognition back to them.”
Saying No, With Love
Most of the conversations around boundaries these days focus on protecting ourselves from narcissists, gas-lighters, or toxic relationships that need to end, but how do we set boundaries with those we love?
Most of the conversations around boundaries these days focus on protecting ourselves from narcissists, gas-lighters, or toxic relationships that need to end, but how do we set boundaries with those we love?
Saying No, With Love
Most of the conversations around boundaries these days focus on protecting ourselves from narcissists, gas-lighters, or toxic relationships that need to end, but how do we set boundaries with those we...
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June 18, 2025 at 10:20 PM
Saying No, With Love
Most of the conversations around boundaries these days focus on protecting ourselves from narcissists, gas-lighters, or toxic relationships that need to end, but how do we set boundaries with those we love?
Most of the conversations around boundaries these days focus on protecting ourselves from narcissists, gas-lighters, or toxic relationships that need to end, but how do we set boundaries with those we love?
Couples who grow from infidelity do so by dropping the victim-villain narrative and leaning into mutual accountability. Not equal blame, but shared understanding.
Infidelity: Ten Steps to Unpacking the Pain
Chapter 20 of The Turned-On Couple, narrated by Corinne Farago
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June 16, 2025 at 6:47 PM
Couples who grow from infidelity do so by dropping the victim-villain narrative and leaning into mutual accountability. Not equal blame, but shared understanding.