Samantha Billingham
@strongerbeginnings.bsky.social
Coercive Control Consultant driving change around coercive control.
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I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, an advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse, a lived experienced speaker and a Coercive Control Consultant.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
Coercive control escalates overtime leading to severe psychological harm. Without early intervention those experiencing it will become increasingly entrapped & isolated.
My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.
My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.
September 24, 2025 at 7:48 AM
Coercive control escalates overtime leading to severe psychological harm. Without early intervention those experiencing it will become increasingly entrapped & isolated.
My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.
My ABC framework enables early detection of red flags, allowing timely support before the abuse intensifies.
Early intervention is critical in addressing coercive control due to its progression and cumulative impact. My ABC framework facilitates early recognition and response by raising awareness and reducing stigma.
A: Appearance
B: Behaviour
C: Conversation
A: Appearance
B: Behaviour
C: Conversation
September 23, 2025 at 9:03 AM
Early intervention is critical in addressing coercive control due to its progression and cumulative impact. My ABC framework facilitates early recognition and response by raising awareness and reducing stigma.
A: Appearance
B: Behaviour
C: Conversation
A: Appearance
B: Behaviour
C: Conversation
Coercive control subtly starts off as care, charm charismatic, making you feel special, making you feel safe, warm and loved.
It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is.
Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.
It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is.
Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.
September 19, 2025 at 12:39 PM
Coercive control subtly starts off as care, charm charismatic, making you feel special, making you feel safe, warm and loved.
It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is.
Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.
It puts you on a pedestal for the whole world to see how lovely the perpetrator is.
Telling a completely different story behind closed doors.
Good morning world 🌎
3 things about coercive control 👇
❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse
❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation
❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners
❌ It's a subtle incidious crime
3 things about coercive control 👇
❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse
❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation
❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners
❌ It's a subtle incidious crime
September 19, 2025 at 6:10 AM
Good morning world 🌎
3 things about coercive control 👇
❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse
❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation
❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners
❌ It's a subtle incidious crime
3 things about coercive control 👇
❌ It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse
❌ It carries on even when the person has left the situation
❌ It is also used against professionals and practitioners
❌ It's a subtle incidious crime
I support @naturewatch.org and their Protect Animals. Protect People Campaign.
The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him.
Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩
naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…
The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him.
Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩
naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…
https://naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…
September 14, 2025 at 4:19 PM
I support @naturewatch.org and their Protect Animals. Protect People Campaign.
The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him.
Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩
naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…
The perpetrator I existed with stabbed our pet bird as a consequence for me - because I went to bed without him.
Perpetrators hurt pets in order to gain power and control 🚩
naturewatch.org/campaigns/prot…
Being safe in an abusive situation is when we are still in the situation seeing exactly what the perpetrator is doing.
Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
September 11, 2025 at 9:34 AM
Being safe in an abusive situation is when we are still in the situation seeing exactly what the perpetrator is doing.
Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
Feeling unsafe in an abusive situation is when we've found the strength & courage to escape & we can't see what's coming next.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
They aren't your abuser/perpetrator.
They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing.
Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing.
Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
September 11, 2025 at 7:56 AM
They aren't your abuser/perpetrator.
They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing.
Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
They are abusers. They are perpetrators. They don't belong to you, you don't own them and you owe them nothing.
Let's change the script. Let's change the narrative. Let's change the language.
#coercivecontrol #domesticabuse
I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, an advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse, a lived experienced speaker and a Coercive Control Consultant.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
September 10, 2025 at 3:41 PM
I'm a survivor of domestic abuse, an advocate for Survivors of Domestic Abuse, a lived experienced speaker and a Coercive Control Consultant.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
Based in the Black Country but travel to have a coffee and conversation creating change around coercive control and its impact.
Do you work in social care, education or law enforcement and want to enhance your understanding and knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact?
I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat!
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…
I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat!
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…
https://bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…
September 3, 2025 at 6:02 PM
Do you work in social care, education or law enforcement and want to enhance your understanding and knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact?
I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat!
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…
I deliver bespoke training packages. Let's chat!
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-i-…
Today I spoke to Justin Brooker, Australian Advocate for Domestic & Family Violence & Coercive Control
I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact
Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others
open.spotify.com/episode/7tAr...
I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact
Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others
open.spotify.com/episode/7tAr...
Episode 57 - Samantha Billingham, Coercive Control Expert & Consultant
open.spotify.com
September 3, 2025 at 1:29 PM
Today I spoke to Justin Brooker, Australian Advocate for Domestic & Family Violence & Coercive Control
I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact
Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others
open.spotify.com/episode/7tAr...
I shared my lived experience & we spoke about coercive control, domestic abuse its impact
Please share, so together we can raise awareness for others
open.spotify.com/episode/7tAr...
If you are a business, company or organisation looking to enhance your understanding of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
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August 28, 2025 at 9:48 AM
If you are a business, company or organisation looking to enhance your understanding of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
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🛑 The Government are testing the UK's emergency alerts system on Sunday 7th September at 3pm.
✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone
👇 Here's how
www.gov.uk/alerts/optin...
✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone
👇 Here's how
www.gov.uk/alerts/optin...
Opting out of emergency alerts
Opting out of emergency alerts
www.gov.uk
August 9, 2025 at 9:25 AM
🛑 The Government are testing the UK's emergency alerts system on Sunday 7th September at 3pm.
✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone
👇 Here's how
www.gov.uk/alerts/optin...
✔️ You can opt out of the emergency alerts if you are experiencing domestic abuse and have a concealed phone
👇 Here's how
www.gov.uk/alerts/optin...
Remember, EVERYONE falls in love with the charming and caring partner and EVERYONE can never believe they are a cold and controlling perpetrator.
#coercivecontrol #awareness #impact
#coercivecontrol #awareness #impact
August 9, 2025 at 8:53 AM
Remember, EVERYONE falls in love with the charming and caring partner and EVERYONE can never believe they are a cold and controlling perpetrator.
#coercivecontrol #awareness #impact
#coercivecontrol #awareness #impact
I need your help please 🙏
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If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
Thank you 😊
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If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
Thank you 😊
August 8, 2025 at 4:57 PM
I need your help please 🙏
Please share this post ❤️
If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
Thank you 😊
Please share this post ❤️
If you are looking to enhance your understanding & knowledge of coercive control, domestic abuse & its impact please email me at samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com to discuss your bespoke training package.
Thank you 😊
Coercive control can manifest through isolation, where the perpetrator restricts the victims access to friends, family and support networks leading to feelings of loneliness and helplessness.
#CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact
#CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact
August 7, 2025 at 5:20 PM
Coercive control can manifest through isolation, where the perpetrator restricts the victims access to friends, family and support networks leading to feelings of loneliness and helplessness.
#CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact
#CoerciveControl #Awareness #impact
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact, in the hope to equip, enhance and empower others.
Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁
Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁
August 4, 2025 at 7:29 PM
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control, domestic abuse and its impact, in the hope to equip, enhance and empower others.
Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁
Thank you and your team @cateccles.bsky.social for your ongoing support 😁
What do you mean it's Monday already 🐔🤣
August 4, 2025 at 9:07 AM
What do you mean it's Monday already 🐔🤣
If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning & it's there at the end . It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact.
youtu.be/LfSJkEfiybg?...
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact.
youtu.be/LfSJkEfiybg?...
Samantha Billingham | Navigating Coercive Control (PODCAST)
YouTube video by Beyond Four Walls - With Jodie Fraser
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August 3, 2025 at 6:30 PM
If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning & it's there at the end . It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact.
youtu.be/LfSJkEfiybg?...
My passion is raising awareness of coercive control & its impact.
youtu.be/LfSJkEfiybg?...
If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning and it's there at the end. It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-...
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-...
July 23, 2025 at 7:09 AM
If we aren't talking about coercive control we aren't talking about domestic abuse, it's there at the beginning and it's there at the end. It's the thread that runs through domestic abuse.
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-...
💻 samantha.strongerbeginnings@gmail.com
www.bailiwickexpress.com/news/listen-...
Remember coercive control & domestic abuse doesn't stop for the summer.
Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays.
Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩
Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays.
Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩
July 17, 2025 at 12:07 PM
Remember coercive control & domestic abuse doesn't stop for the summer.
Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays.
Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩
Think of all the children & young people who will be exposed to & experiencing coercive control & domestic abuse during the holidays.
Summer holidays do not cause domestic abuse 🚩
Most of the people wanting to create change in the domestic abuse sector are people with lived experience of the abhorrent crime.
The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse.
To create real change, the two must come together.
The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse.
To create real change, the two must come together.
July 17, 2025 at 7:19 AM
Most of the people wanting to create change in the domestic abuse sector are people with lived experience of the abhorrent crime.
The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse.
To create real change, the two must come together.
The people with the power to create change don't have lived experience of domestic abuse.
To create real change, the two must come together.
Societies lack of acknowledgement to coercive control will never allow a resolution.
July 17, 2025 at 6:54 AM
Societies lack of acknowledgement to coercive control will never allow a resolution.
Coercive control impacts your future relationships and friendships as you begin to analyze and question everything.
July 16, 2025 at 9:19 PM
Coercive control impacts your future relationships and friendships as you begin to analyze and question everything.