Spen Dominant
@spendominant.bsky.social
45m Experienced RL London Dominant, non-toxic & anti-drama.
Online or in-person control & fantasy spaces curated for submissives. Visibly 18+ or blocked. DMs open
Consent is everything. All bigots and misogynists will be blocked
Online or in-person control & fantasy spaces curated for submissives. Visibly 18+ or blocked. DMs open
Consent is everything. All bigots and misogynists will be blocked
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Spen Dominant
@spendominant.bsky.social
· Oct 23
The legendary 'safeword thread' from Twitter
This comes around a lot. So here are my thoughts
Safewords are essential for all
If we are in a scene, I will put you in stress/hazard situations with defined parameters
If I am not confident you will inform me if you need 'pulling out' I won't even begin
This comes around a lot. So here are my thoughts
Safewords are essential for all
If we are in a scene, I will put you in stress/hazard situations with defined parameters
If I am not confident you will inform me if you need 'pulling out' I won't even begin
Big shout out to Amazon for putting devious sexual equipment in my 'would you like to buy again' when I was discussing a very very innocent purchase with a colleague
One less person has any illusions about me now I guess 🤷
One less person has any illusions about me now I guess 🤷
November 14, 2025 at 2:35 PM
Big shout out to Amazon for putting devious sexual equipment in my 'would you like to buy again' when I was discussing a very very innocent purchase with a colleague
One less person has any illusions about me now I guess 🤷
One less person has any illusions about me now I guess 🤷
Let's spend the weekend so mutally obsessed that people worry about us
November 14, 2025 at 2:06 PM
Let's spend the weekend so mutally obsessed that people worry about us
Let's shatter together and build something beautiful from our shards
November 12, 2025 at 11:31 AM
Let's shatter together and build something beautiful from our shards
Fingers aren't the 'first tools' you use because they are for beginners
They are the first because with enough practice, they can take you to God tier
They are the first because with enough practice, they can take you to God tier
October 14, 2025 at 1:07 PM
Fingers aren't the 'first tools' you use because they are for beginners
They are the first because with enough practice, they can take you to God tier
They are the first because with enough practice, they can take you to God tier
Working from home is not my preference
I become wildly aware of my 'empty lap' syndrome
I become wildly aware of my 'empty lap' syndrome
October 14, 2025 at 10:24 AM
Working from home is not my preference
I become wildly aware of my 'empty lap' syndrome
I become wildly aware of my 'empty lap' syndrome
Most subs would never reveal the title of their current spicy book
What if I spanked your ass with it until you bruised
What if I only let you cum by humping against it
What if I then made you read the disheveled tome in public
Face going red
Heart pounding
No... I meant out loud
Little pervert
What if I spanked your ass with it until you bruised
What if I only let you cum by humping against it
What if I then made you read the disheveled tome in public
Face going red
Heart pounding
No... I meant out loud
Little pervert
October 12, 2025 at 7:33 PM
Most subs would never reveal the title of their current spicy book
What if I spanked your ass with it until you bruised
What if I only let you cum by humping against it
What if I then made you read the disheveled tome in public
Face going red
Heart pounding
No... I meant out loud
Little pervert
What if I spanked your ass with it until you bruised
What if I only let you cum by humping against it
What if I then made you read the disheveled tome in public
Face going red
Heart pounding
No... I meant out loud
Little pervert
Non sexual fingering
Just lifting your skirt, pulling your panties to the side and idly using your pussy as a plaything
Doesn't matter what we're doing
Waiting at a store queue
Watching TV
You on phone to friends
Open up little girl, my fingers are bored and you're there to be used
So...
Just lifting your skirt, pulling your panties to the side and idly using your pussy as a plaything
Doesn't matter what we're doing
Waiting at a store queue
Watching TV
You on phone to friends
Open up little girl, my fingers are bored and you're there to be used
So...
October 7, 2025 at 9:37 AM
Non sexual fingering
Just lifting your skirt, pulling your panties to the side and idly using your pussy as a plaything
Doesn't matter what we're doing
Waiting at a store queue
Watching TV
You on phone to friends
Open up little girl, my fingers are bored and you're there to be used
So...
Just lifting your skirt, pulling your panties to the side and idly using your pussy as a plaything
Doesn't matter what we're doing
Waiting at a store queue
Watching TV
You on phone to friends
Open up little girl, my fingers are bored and you're there to be used
So...
When you ask me how Monday went, and I say 'its been rough/busy'
Such a complicated flash of emotions across your face
Sympathetic: because I had a challenging day.
Pleased: that you can soothe it.
...and a little flash of feral: that I might just be taking a little of that day out on your body.
Such a complicated flash of emotions across your face
Sympathetic: because I had a challenging day.
Pleased: that you can soothe it.
...and a little flash of feral: that I might just be taking a little of that day out on your body.
October 6, 2025 at 12:08 PM
When you ask me how Monday went, and I say 'its been rough/busy'
Such a complicated flash of emotions across your face
Sympathetic: because I had a challenging day.
Pleased: that you can soothe it.
...and a little flash of feral: that I might just be taking a little of that day out on your body.
Such a complicated flash of emotions across your face
Sympathetic: because I had a challenging day.
Pleased: that you can soothe it.
...and a little flash of feral: that I might just be taking a little of that day out on your body.
Making you beg for each step of your use
Mocking you for begging
You want to be thrown to the bed and tied.
Ask properly
Pathetic how wet you get for this
Rope? You know what I want to hear.
Beg for it all
Rough hands on you?
Your holes used?
Better beg well because your throat will be full soon
Mocking you for begging
You want to be thrown to the bed and tied.
Ask properly
Pathetic how wet you get for this
Rope? You know what I want to hear.
Beg for it all
Rough hands on you?
Your holes used?
Better beg well because your throat will be full soon
October 2, 2025 at 9:43 AM
Making you beg for each step of your use
Mocking you for begging
You want to be thrown to the bed and tied.
Ask properly
Pathetic how wet you get for this
Rope? You know what I want to hear.
Beg for it all
Rough hands on you?
Your holes used?
Better beg well because your throat will be full soon
Mocking you for begging
You want to be thrown to the bed and tied.
Ask properly
Pathetic how wet you get for this
Rope? You know what I want to hear.
Beg for it all
Rough hands on you?
Your holes used?
Better beg well because your throat will be full soon
Have you ever tried to keep your eyes open when you cum little one?
From now on I will hold your head, force your eyes to lock on mine as I stimulate you.
I'll condition you to associate eye contact with orgasmic pleasure
I want you to shiver at just a look, get wet by a glance
Cum from eye contact
From now on I will hold your head, force your eyes to lock on mine as I stimulate you.
I'll condition you to associate eye contact with orgasmic pleasure
I want you to shiver at just a look, get wet by a glance
Cum from eye contact
October 1, 2025 at 8:13 PM
Have you ever tried to keep your eyes open when you cum little one?
From now on I will hold your head, force your eyes to lock on mine as I stimulate you.
I'll condition you to associate eye contact with orgasmic pleasure
I want you to shiver at just a look, get wet by a glance
Cum from eye contact
From now on I will hold your head, force your eyes to lock on mine as I stimulate you.
I'll condition you to associate eye contact with orgasmic pleasure
I want you to shiver at just a look, get wet by a glance
Cum from eye contact
I know the reasons you test my patience brat
You want my fingers to bruise your wrist as I drag you across the room
Throw you over my knee
Barehand spank your butt until it's red and pained
Finger that pussy until you squirm before ramming my cock in you and using you roughly
Its 'our thing'
You want my fingers to bruise your wrist as I drag you across the room
Throw you over my knee
Barehand spank your butt until it's red and pained
Finger that pussy until you squirm before ramming my cock in you and using you roughly
Its 'our thing'
October 1, 2025 at 9:12 AM
I know the reasons you test my patience brat
You want my fingers to bruise your wrist as I drag you across the room
Throw you over my knee
Barehand spank your butt until it's red and pained
Finger that pussy until you squirm before ramming my cock in you and using you roughly
Its 'our thing'
You want my fingers to bruise your wrist as I drag you across the room
Throw you over my knee
Barehand spank your butt until it's red and pained
Finger that pussy until you squirm before ramming my cock in you and using you roughly
Its 'our thing'
Kind eyes or cruel eyes.
You get either as needed
Either way, they see what you need inside and reflect that energy back
better than you know yourself sometimes
Because it's my business to know
and I take this work seriously
You get either as needed
Either way, they see what you need inside and reflect that energy back
better than you know yourself sometimes
Because it's my business to know
and I take this work seriously
September 30, 2025 at 9:54 AM
Kind eyes or cruel eyes.
You get either as needed
Either way, they see what you need inside and reflect that energy back
better than you know yourself sometimes
Because it's my business to know
and I take this work seriously
You get either as needed
Either way, they see what you need inside and reflect that energy back
better than you know yourself sometimes
Because it's my business to know
and I take this work seriously
Sit on my knee, my girl
One hand on your throat, gentle squeezing
One hand manipulates your parts.
Fingers on your clit, gentle.
Fingers inside you. Moving slow
-Don't dare get wet little one, the slightest squirm, moan or twitch of arousal and I will slap the slut out of your pretty little face
One hand on your throat, gentle squeezing
One hand manipulates your parts.
Fingers on your clit, gentle.
Fingers inside you. Moving slow
-Don't dare get wet little one, the slightest squirm, moan or twitch of arousal and I will slap the slut out of your pretty little face
September 29, 2025 at 9:58 AM
Sit on my knee, my girl
One hand on your throat, gentle squeezing
One hand manipulates your parts.
Fingers on your clit, gentle.
Fingers inside you. Moving slow
-Don't dare get wet little one, the slightest squirm, moan or twitch of arousal and I will slap the slut out of your pretty little face
One hand on your throat, gentle squeezing
One hand manipulates your parts.
Fingers on your clit, gentle.
Fingers inside you. Moving slow
-Don't dare get wet little one, the slightest squirm, moan or twitch of arousal and I will slap the slut out of your pretty little face
So while I've neen away I took to writing some poetry to keep myself occupied...bunch of acrostic sonnets (I know I know 😁)
Part of this has been a cycle of D/s inspired sonnets. Might share them here if anyone has any interest
Part of this has been a cycle of D/s inspired sonnets. Might share them here if anyone has any interest
September 15, 2025 at 1:57 PM
So while I've neen away I took to writing some poetry to keep myself occupied...bunch of acrostic sonnets (I know I know 😁)
Part of this has been a cycle of D/s inspired sonnets. Might share them here if anyone has any interest
Part of this has been a cycle of D/s inspired sonnets. Might share them here if anyone has any interest
Hello there, sweeties, darlings, d and s types, girls, boys those between or neither.
I hope you are all doing well.
Been gone awhile, I hope you've all been good while I was away...
I hope you are all doing well.
Been gone awhile, I hope you've all been good while I was away...
September 9, 2025 at 7:43 PM
Hello there, sweeties, darlings, d and s types, girls, boys those between or neither.
I hope you are all doing well.
Been gone awhile, I hope you've all been good while I was away...
I hope you are all doing well.
Been gone awhile, I hope you've all been good while I was away...
Hey all... Still exist, but not been on here a while. All for good reasons. Sending hugs out to those that want!
May 13, 2025 at 10:39 AM
Hey all... Still exist, but not been on here a while. All for good reasons. Sending hugs out to those that want!
It feels so much more comfortable down there doesn't it?
Like home
Safe and protected
Where you have always belonged.
So, what do you want to happen next little one.
Use your words
Like home
Safe and protected
Where you have always belonged.
So, what do you want to happen next little one.
Use your words
April 8, 2025 at 11:18 AM
It feels so much more comfortable down there doesn't it?
Like home
Safe and protected
Where you have always belonged.
So, what do you want to happen next little one.
Use your words
Like home
Safe and protected
Where you have always belonged.
So, what do you want to happen next little one.
Use your words
As an avid feminist, who works in equality and diversity and campaigns for more women in academia..
I can lecture you on exactly how much you are debasing yourself by kneeling and throatfucking yourself on my cock, plugged butt in the air, red with spank marks
All women are not whores
You are
I can lecture you on exactly how much you are debasing yourself by kneeling and throatfucking yourself on my cock, plugged butt in the air, red with spank marks
All women are not whores
You are
April 8, 2025 at 9:53 AM
As an avid feminist, who works in equality and diversity and campaigns for more women in academia..
I can lecture you on exactly how much you are debasing yourself by kneeling and throatfucking yourself on my cock, plugged butt in the air, red with spank marks
All women are not whores
You are
I can lecture you on exactly how much you are debasing yourself by kneeling and throatfucking yourself on my cock, plugged butt in the air, red with spank marks
All women are not whores
You are
There is no such thing as an unwanted or an unneeded person
Not a thing
In the history of our species, and the species we came from
Every little part has been necessary to get us where we are
So
Since this is a thing that has never EVER existed, answer me this
Why would you be the first?
(hug)
Not a thing
In the history of our species, and the species we came from
Every little part has been necessary to get us where we are
So
Since this is a thing that has never EVER existed, answer me this
Why would you be the first?
(hug)
April 7, 2025 at 11:43 AM
There is no such thing as an unwanted or an unneeded person
Not a thing
In the history of our species, and the species we came from
Every little part has been necessary to get us where we are
So
Since this is a thing that has never EVER existed, answer me this
Why would you be the first?
(hug)
Not a thing
In the history of our species, and the species we came from
Every little part has been necessary to get us where we are
So
Since this is a thing that has never EVER existed, answer me this
Why would you be the first?
(hug)
Eyes on mine while you mouth-worship my cock, little toyslut
Every flicker away is another hour of edging & orgasm denial
I saw that little smirk flicker across your face
Don't test me
You will be writhing & begging to be allowed to cum soon enough
And I'll just laugh
So...
Eyes
On
Mine
Every flicker away is another hour of edging & orgasm denial
I saw that little smirk flicker across your face
Don't test me
You will be writhing & begging to be allowed to cum soon enough
And I'll just laugh
So...
Eyes
On
Mine
April 7, 2025 at 10:45 AM
Eyes on mine while you mouth-worship my cock, little toyslut
Every flicker away is another hour of edging & orgasm denial
I saw that little smirk flicker across your face
Don't test me
You will be writhing & begging to be allowed to cum soon enough
And I'll just laugh
So...
Eyes
On
Mine
Every flicker away is another hour of edging & orgasm denial
I saw that little smirk flicker across your face
Don't test me
You will be writhing & begging to be allowed to cum soon enough
And I'll just laugh
So...
Eyes
On
Mine
Hush princess
It's 'selfish time'
You serve so well
Now it's your turn
Take my hand, touch my knuckle to your lips
Kiss, lick, suck
Every motion I duplicate on your clit
Guide me
How fast, how soft... where when
The rhythm that takes you to the stars
Control my tongue with yours
You deserve this
It's 'selfish time'
You serve so well
Now it's your turn
Take my hand, touch my knuckle to your lips
Kiss, lick, suck
Every motion I duplicate on your clit
Guide me
How fast, how soft... where when
The rhythm that takes you to the stars
Control my tongue with yours
You deserve this
April 2, 2025 at 1:00 PM
Hush princess
It's 'selfish time'
You serve so well
Now it's your turn
Take my hand, touch my knuckle to your lips
Kiss, lick, suck
Every motion I duplicate on your clit
Guide me
How fast, how soft... where when
The rhythm that takes you to the stars
Control my tongue with yours
You deserve this
It's 'selfish time'
You serve so well
Now it's your turn
Take my hand, touch my knuckle to your lips
Kiss, lick, suck
Every motion I duplicate on your clit
Guide me
How fast, how soft... where when
The rhythm that takes you to the stars
Control my tongue with yours
You deserve this
Unclothed
Crouched in a ball, legs locked together
Arms behind
Confined perfectly in those custom-made straps
O-ring in your mouth
You can just about reach your pussy/butt to hold yourself open
Carry handles on your back for easy transport
You are now a portable sextoy
An object
Transportable holes
Crouched in a ball, legs locked together
Arms behind
Confined perfectly in those custom-made straps
O-ring in your mouth
You can just about reach your pussy/butt to hold yourself open
Carry handles on your back for easy transport
You are now a portable sextoy
An object
Transportable holes
April 2, 2025 at 10:00 AM
Unclothed
Crouched in a ball, legs locked together
Arms behind
Confined perfectly in those custom-made straps
O-ring in your mouth
You can just about reach your pussy/butt to hold yourself open
Carry handles on your back for easy transport
You are now a portable sextoy
An object
Transportable holes
Crouched in a ball, legs locked together
Arms behind
Confined perfectly in those custom-made straps
O-ring in your mouth
You can just about reach your pussy/butt to hold yourself open
Carry handles on your back for easy transport
You are now a portable sextoy
An object
Transportable holes
Popping in to wish all a happy trans day of visibility to my transfam
I know that 'visibility' has been a double edge for some, but do know that there are many many of us who do see, and fight, and will not back down.
Love to you
I know that 'visibility' has been a double edge for some, but do know that there are many many of us who do see, and fight, and will not back down.
Love to you
March 31, 2025 at 12:26 PM
Popping in to wish all a happy trans day of visibility to my transfam
I know that 'visibility' has been a double edge for some, but do know that there are many many of us who do see, and fight, and will not back down.
Love to you
I know that 'visibility' has been a double edge for some, but do know that there are many many of us who do see, and fight, and will not back down.
Love to you
Look into these eyes
Do I look like I'm joking?
Do what you are told
Do I look like I'm joking?
Do what you are told
March 21, 2025 at 12:57 PM
Look into these eyes
Do I look like I'm joking?
Do what you are told
Do I look like I'm joking?
Do what you are told
PSA
Stay kind
Stay silly
Stay fun
Stay shining
Cry heartily when you need to
Hug at every opportunity
Nap
Compliment others
Accept and believe compliments
Don't worry about being normal or weird, everybody is a bit of both
Laugh loud
Orgasm
Take up space unashamedly
Life is yours
You are awesome
Stay kind
Stay silly
Stay fun
Stay shining
Cry heartily when you need to
Hug at every opportunity
Nap
Compliment others
Accept and believe compliments
Don't worry about being normal or weird, everybody is a bit of both
Laugh loud
Orgasm
Take up space unashamedly
Life is yours
You are awesome
March 19, 2025 at 12:44 PM
PSA
Stay kind
Stay silly
Stay fun
Stay shining
Cry heartily when you need to
Hug at every opportunity
Nap
Compliment others
Accept and believe compliments
Don't worry about being normal or weird, everybody is a bit of both
Laugh loud
Orgasm
Take up space unashamedly
Life is yours
You are awesome
Stay kind
Stay silly
Stay fun
Stay shining
Cry heartily when you need to
Hug at every opportunity
Nap
Compliment others
Accept and believe compliments
Don't worry about being normal or weird, everybody is a bit of both
Laugh loud
Orgasm
Take up space unashamedly
Life is yours
You are awesome