Safe & Together Institute
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The Safe & Together Institute provides domestic abuse–informed training and consulting to improve the safety and well-being of families.
The Safe & Together Institute provides domestic abuse–informed training and consulting to improve the safety and well-being of families.
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Hi! 👋 We're the Safe & Together Institute, and we're on a mission to inspire, inform & advance domestic abuse–informed change across the globe.
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Follow us + visit safeandtogetherinstitute.com to learn more about the training and tools we provide #domesticviolence and #childwelfare professionals.
Assessing harm requires more than incident-based thinking.
Our Multiple Pathways to Harm course provides a framework for understanding how perpetrator behaviors affect child safety and family functioning across multiple domains.
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Our Multiple Pathways to Harm course provides a framework for understanding how perpetrator behaviors affect child safety and family functioning across multiple domains.
Explore our full library:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/online-courses
January 22, 2026 at 7:13 PM
Assessing harm requires more than incident-based thinking.
Our Multiple Pathways to Harm course provides a framework for understanding how perpetrator behaviors affect child safety and family functioning across multiple domains.
Explore our full library:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/online-courses
Our Multiple Pathways to Harm course provides a framework for understanding how perpetrator behaviors affect child safety and family functioning across multiple domains.
Explore our full library:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/online-courses
Childhood exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment.
In this episode, Professor Daryl Higgins shares findings from a study of 8,500 Australians—showing long-term health outcomes, gendered impacts, and why domestic abuse–informed systems matter.
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In this episode, Professor Daryl Higgins shares findings from a study of 8,500 Australians—showing long-term health outcomes, gendered impacts, and why domestic abuse–informed systems matter.
Listen tinyurl.com/2bxu2z3f
Season 5 Episode 7: Childhood Domestic Violence Exposure Is “Pivotal”: An Interview with Professor Daryl Higgins — Safe & Together Institute
About This Episode The recent groundbreaking population-based study of child maltreatment in Australia found exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment. In this interview...
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January 19, 2026 at 3:27 PM
Childhood exposure to domestic violence is the most common form of maltreatment.
In this episode, Professor Daryl Higgins shares findings from a study of 8,500 Australians—showing long-term health outcomes, gendered impacts, and why domestic abuse–informed systems matter.
Listen tinyurl.com/2bxu2z3f
In this episode, Professor Daryl Higgins shares findings from a study of 8,500 Australians—showing long-term health outcomes, gendered impacts, and why domestic abuse–informed systems matter.
Listen tinyurl.com/2bxu2z3f
What if healing was the method, not the afterthought?
Season 7 Episode 1 of Partnered with a Survivor explores love, accountability, and transformative justice with Nneka MacGregor.
Listen now: tinyurl.com/2p7aaavc
#TransformativeJustice #Accountability #Prevention
Season 7 Episode 1 of Partnered with a Survivor explores love, accountability, and transformative justice with Nneka MacGregor.
Listen now: tinyurl.com/2p7aaavc
#TransformativeJustice #Accountability #Prevention
Season 7 Episode 1: No, You Can’t Arrest Your Way to Healing and Healthy Relationships with Nneka MacGregor — Safe & Together Institute
We are starting our 7th season and asking the question: “What if love wasn’t the soft side of this work, but the method that makes healing possible?” We chat again with Nneka MacGregor—co-founder and...
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January 14, 2026 at 1:28 AM
What if healing was the method, not the afterthought?
Season 7 Episode 1 of Partnered with a Survivor explores love, accountability, and transformative justice with Nneka MacGregor.
Listen now: tinyurl.com/2p7aaavc
#TransformativeJustice #Accountability #Prevention
Season 7 Episode 1 of Partnered with a Survivor explores love, accountability, and transformative justice with Nneka MacGregor.
Listen now: tinyurl.com/2p7aaavc
#TransformativeJustice #Accountability #Prevention
A new year is a chance to strengthen supervision.
The Supervisors & Managers Training Bundle supports supervisors and managers across systems in guiding domestic abuse-informed, perpetrator pattern-based practice, with clear relevance for child protection work.
Learn more: tinyurl.com/88wnbhj7
The Supervisors & Managers Training Bundle supports supervisors and managers across systems in guiding domestic abuse-informed, perpetrator pattern-based practice, with clear relevance for child protection work.
Learn more: tinyurl.com/88wnbhj7
Training Bundles — Safe & Together Institute
Our cost-effective training bundles help expand your domestic abuse–informed practice knowledge while saving you money.
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January 12, 2026 at 9:55 PM
A new year is a chance to strengthen supervision.
The Supervisors & Managers Training Bundle supports supervisors and managers across systems in guiding domestic abuse-informed, perpetrator pattern-based practice, with clear relevance for child protection work.
Learn more: tinyurl.com/88wnbhj7
The Supervisors & Managers Training Bundle supports supervisors and managers across systems in guiding domestic abuse-informed, perpetrator pattern-based practice, with clear relevance for child protection work.
Learn more: tinyurl.com/88wnbhj7
What does accountability with men look like without shame or silence?
S6E22 of Partnered with a Survivor features Kenneth Braswell on fear, fatherhood, and change that keeps families safe.
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S6E22 of Partnered with a Survivor features Kenneth Braswell on fear, fatherhood, and change that keeps families safe.
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January 9, 2026 at 6:23 PM
What does accountability with men look like without shame or silence?
S6E22 of Partnered with a Survivor features Kenneth Braswell on fear, fatherhood, and change that keeps families safe.
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S6E22 of Partnered with a Survivor features Kenneth Braswell on fear, fatherhood, and change that keeps families safe.
🎧 tinyurl.com/62vtx7bf
Child sexual abuse is often missed because it doesn’t look like what systems expect. When harm is disguised as care, discipline, or authority, perpetrators remain hidden.
This blog explores how pattern-based practice helps us name harm and protect children.
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This blog explores how pattern-based practice helps us name harm and protect children.
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January 7, 2026 at 2:29 PM
Child sexual abuse is often missed because it doesn’t look like what systems expect. When harm is disguised as care, discipline, or authority, perpetrators remain hidden.
This blog explores how pattern-based practice helps us name harm and protect children.
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This blog explores how pattern-based practice helps us name harm and protect children.
tinyurl.com/2swzvp5v
Join us next week for Ask the Expert webinars with Safe & Together Institute Regional Managers.
Each session offers a practical introduction to the Safe & Together Model plus live Q&A on domestic abuse–informed practice.
Learn more and register:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events
Each session offers a practical introduction to the Safe & Together Model plus live Q&A on domestic abuse–informed practice.
Learn more and register:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events
Events — Safe & Together Institute
From global conferences to webinars and regional events, you can find Safe & Together anywhere.. Turbocharge your agency’s or your community’s domestic abuse–informed systems transformation by diving ...
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January 5, 2026 at 11:36 PM
Join us next week for Ask the Expert webinars with Safe & Together Institute Regional Managers.
Each session offers a practical introduction to the Safe & Together Model plus live Q&A on domestic abuse–informed practice.
Learn more and register:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events
Each session offers a practical introduction to the Safe & Together Model plus live Q&A on domestic abuse–informed practice.
Learn more and register:
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events
David reflects on 40 years of practice in S6E23 of Partnered with a Survivor—exploring vocation, accountability, and what it means to build safer systems without minimizing harm.
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January 4, 2026 at 9:29 PM
David reflects on 40 years of practice in S6E23 of Partnered with a Survivor—exploring vocation, accountability, and what it means to build safer systems without minimizing harm.
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A strong year starts when you take charge of your professional practice.
Safe & Together: An Introduction to the Model supports child safety by partnering with survivors and addressing perpetrator behavior as parenting behavior.
Explore our full online library:
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Safe & Together: An Introduction to the Model supports child safety by partnering with survivors and addressing perpetrator behavior as parenting behavior.
Explore our full online library:
tinyurl.com/48vzkvnu
January 2, 2026 at 6:47 PM
A strong year starts when you take charge of your professional practice.
Safe & Together: An Introduction to the Model supports child safety by partnering with survivors and addressing perpetrator behavior as parenting behavior.
Explore our full online library:
tinyurl.com/48vzkvnu
Safe & Together: An Introduction to the Model supports child safety by partnering with survivors and addressing perpetrator behavior as parenting behavior.
Explore our full online library:
tinyurl.com/48vzkvnu
New report: Westchester County, NY shows how the Safe & Together Model™ drives real system-level change in child welfare responses to domestic violence, improving practice alignment, accountability, and safety for children and families.
Read more: tinyurl.com/mhpbrrx8
Read more: tinyurl.com/mhpbrrx8
Westchester County Implementation of the Safe & Together Model — Safe & Together Institute
This report showcases Westchester County as a leading example of how the Safe & Together Model ™ drives real, system-level change in child welfare responses to domestic violence. Through comprehe...
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December 30, 2025 at 8:00 PM
New report: Westchester County, NY shows how the Safe & Together Model™ drives real system-level change in child welfare responses to domestic violence, improving practice alignment, accountability, and safety for children and families.
Read more: tinyurl.com/mhpbrrx8
Read more: tinyurl.com/mhpbrrx8
Survivors aren’t “failing to protect”—they’re protecting in the face of danger.
It’s time to recognize their strengths and shift how systems respond.
Read our research briefing: tinyurl.com/bdbvy9cz
#SurvivorStrengths #SafeAndTogether
It’s time to recognize their strengths and shift how systems respond.
Read our research briefing: tinyurl.com/bdbvy9cz
#SurvivorStrengths #SafeAndTogether
Domestic Violence Survivors’ Parenting Strengths — Safe & Together Institute
Focusing on the impact of domestic violence on children, in many ways, has been synonymous with a “failure to protect” approach to mothers who are domestic violence survivors. This approach can come w...
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December 29, 2025 at 7:42 PM
Survivors aren’t “failing to protect”—they’re protecting in the face of danger.
It’s time to recognize their strengths and shift how systems respond.
Read our research briefing: tinyurl.com/bdbvy9cz
#SurvivorStrengths #SafeAndTogether
It’s time to recognize their strengths and shift how systems respond.
Read our research briefing: tinyurl.com/bdbvy9cz
#SurvivorStrengths #SafeAndTogether
What does coercive control do to childhood—and to the stories boys learn about becoming men?
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
Season 6 Episode 21: David Challen on How Growing Up with Coercive Control Warps Childhood and Manhood — Safe & Together Institute
We sit with survivor, campaigner, and author David Challen to trace the shape of coercive control through a child’s eyes: a mother’s world shrinking, a father’s rules governing every room, and a son t...
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December 23, 2025 at 8:41 PM
What does coercive control do to childhood—and to the stories boys learn about becoming men?
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
In this episode, David Challen explores how control and isolation shape identity, mental health, and accountability—and what real repair takes.
Listen: tinyurl.com/auk8vve6
⏰ Early bird ends 1 Jan! Join us in Sydney, 17–19 March 2026, for the Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. #SafeAndTogether #DVInformed #ChildSafety
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December 19, 2025 at 5:46 PM
⏰ Early bird ends 1 Jan! Join us in Sydney, 17–19 March 2026, for the Asia Pacific Coercive Control & Children Conference. #SafeAndTogether #DVInformed #ChildSafety
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Can we talk honestly about male violence without shaming and without avoiding accountability?
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
Season 6 Episode 20: Shame, Love & the Truth About Male Violence — Safe & Together Institute
The conversation opens with end-of-the-year reflections and personal milestones—international book releases, masterclasses, collaborations, and community work—and quickly moves to a timely, thorny que...
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December 18, 2025 at 4:39 PM
Can we talk honestly about male violence without shaming and without avoiding accountability?
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
This podcast explores how truth, compassion, and responsibility can coexist, why pattern-based practice matters, and what truly increases child safety and survivor well-being.
Listen: tinyurl.com/4wmjsmkz
What does men’s health reveal about preventing partner violence?
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Season 6 Episode 19: Inside Ten To Men: What Male Health Reveals About Partner Violence — Safe & Together Institute
A stadium’s worth of men—every year. That’s the scale of new IPV use suggested by Ten To Men, Australia’s landmark longitudinal study of male health. We sit down with Karlee O’Donnell, a researcher wi...
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December 12, 2025 at 7:17 PM
What does men’s health reveal about preventing partner violence?
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Our latest pod breaks down Ten To Men data on caregiving, mental health, and IPV risk—and what professionals can do earlier.
Listen: tinyurl.com/2ptrbpwe
Safety. Dignity. Connection.
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
December 10, 2025 at 5:40 PM
Safety. Dignity. Connection.
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
On #HumanRightsDay, we’re reminding systems that domestic abuse is a human rights issue — not a relationship issue. #SafeAndTogether
A woman calls for help after being strangled. He shows a scratch; she leaves in handcuffs. How do we fix systems that mirror the control survivors are escaping?
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
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Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
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December 8, 2025 at 5:35 PM
A woman calls for help after being strangled. He shows a scratch; she leaves in handcuffs. How do we fix systems that mirror the control survivors are escaping?
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
🎧 tinyurl.com/ynvwwedp
Lisa Young Larance joins David & Ruth to discuss her new book “Broken” and what pattern-based practice looks like.
🎧 tinyurl.com/ynvwwedp
In rural communities, proximity can create blind spots. Long drives, limited cell service, and "everyone knows everyone" become tools of control—not just geography. Effective practice requires systematic perpetrator pattern documentation.
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#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
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#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
Close Enough to Miss It: Understanding Proximity and Power in Rural Responses to Domestic Abuse — Safe & Together Institute
By Leah Vejzovic, LMSW, North America Regional Manager, Safe & Together Institute When people picture rural life, they often imagine safety—open spaces, familiar neighbors, and a slow...
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December 6, 2025 at 7:49 PM
In rural communities, proximity can create blind spots. Long drives, limited cell service, and "everyone knows everyone" become tools of control—not just geography. Effective practice requires systematic perpetrator pattern documentation.
tinyurl.com/56ujrc7r
#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
tinyurl.com/56ujrc7r
#SafeAndTogether #ChildWelfare
True child safety starts with listening to survivors. 💜
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
December 4, 2025 at 5:15 PM
True child safety starts with listening to survivors. 💜
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
When professionals partner with survivors—instead of pushing them away—families stay safer and systems get stronger.
Build your skills in partnering with survivors: tinyurl.com/yz2wfwu7
#SafeAndTogether #SurvivorVoices
🌺 It takes a village to strengthen families.
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
December 3, 2025 at 10:28 PM
🌺 It takes a village to strengthen families.
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Join Dr. Inez Fainga'a-Manu Sione & Shane Senituli at the 2026 #SafeAndTogether Asia Pacific Conference. #TwoWaysStrong #Pasifika
Learn more & register: tinyurl.com/bdhvpj7h
Kids pay the price when we blame mothers & ignore fathers’ violence. Safe & Together shifts focus to perpetrator patterns, not survivor “failures.” safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/rethinking-childrens-best-interests
November 29, 2025 at 1:50 PM
Kids pay the price when we blame mothers & ignore fathers’ violence. Safe & Together shifts focus to perpetrator patterns, not survivor “failures.” safeandtogetherinstitute.com/blog/rethinking-childrens-best-interests
NRC interviews David Mandel on why systems must center perpetrators’ behavior—not mothers’ responses—to keep children safe. A powerful read for practitioners.
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NRC: His approach to domestic violence is used in more than ten countries: ‘Don’t hold mothers responsible for the father’s actions.’ — Safe & Together Institute
By Christel Don (Translated from Dutch) It began 35 years ago with a remarkable discovery. David Mandel was working as a therapist with men who abused their partners. Every session was about the vi...
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November 29, 2025 at 12:08 AM
NRC interviews David Mandel on why systems must center perpetrators’ behavior—not mothers’ responses—to keep children safe. A powerful read for practitioners.
🔗 tinyurl.com/2cehnejz
🔗 tinyurl.com/2cehnejz
Early bird ends 10 Dec!
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference — Safe & Together Institute
Our 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference is officially scheduled for 10–11 February 2026 and will be delivered virtually via Zoom Events!
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November 27, 2025 at 12:43 AM
Early bird ends 10 Dec!
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
Join the 2026 European Coercive Control & Children Conference online 10–11 Feb to strengthen child-centered, domestic abuse–informed systems. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/events/2026-...
💜 On #EndViolenceAgainstWomen Day, remember: violence often hides as coercive control. Our toolkit helps professionals expose patterns, support survivors & hold perpetrators accountable. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/UCC
November 26, 2025 at 12:25 AM
💜 On #EndViolenceAgainstWomen Day, remember: violence often hides as coercive control. Our toolkit helps professionals expose patterns, support survivors & hold perpetrators accountable. safeandtogetherinstitute.com/UCC
Effective DV practice requires holding two truths: most perpetrators are men & most survivors are women/children (the pattern) AND each case needs behavioral assessment regardless of gender (the practice). This is the gender paradox. tinyurl.com/yprkywwa
Why We Need to Talk About Gender in Domestic Violence — Safe & Together Institute
By Jackie Wruck, Asia Pacific Regional Manager, Safe & Together Institute When we talk about domestic and family violence, we need to be honest about a difficult truth: Most perpetrators ...
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November 24, 2025 at 9:24 PM
Effective DV practice requires holding two truths: most perpetrators are men & most survivors are women/children (the pattern) AND each case needs behavioral assessment regardless of gender (the practice). This is the gender paradox. tinyurl.com/yprkywwa