Rox Nicholl
roxnicholl.bsky.social
Rox Nicholl
@roxnicholl.bsky.social
Nerdy Wordy Creativ(ish) Autistic. I am not a dog.
New job seems to be going well. At a previous job had a boss that wld refuse to make teas or coffee at all - this one does that and washing up!
January 17, 2024 at 9:10 PM
Starting a new job tomorrow in volunteer and community development. Super excited and also terrified.

Any tips for an autistic extrovert that was bullied at their last two roles?
January 14, 2024 at 9:39 AM
I have a new job starting soon and am stressed about all of it.

So cleaning is happening.
January 4, 2024 at 6:16 PM
What's the midpoint between overwhelmed and underwhelmed, and does that point mean you are both or neither.

I need a scale of whelmingness.
December 24, 2023 at 7:55 PM
I deliberately made space for all the Big Sad feelings. I even wrote a poem about it. Chatted with The Dude.

Realised it wasn't just the now, but because we have been working on ourselves, we are processing some of the hard things from years gone by. And that's okay.

It's a weird Christmas.
December 24, 2023 at 8:26 AM
I was very much looking forward to a lie in this morning.
But the general seasonal angst combined with the big winds put paid to that.
December 21, 2023 at 8:00 AM
Today I got told I "do banter like Sheldon from Big Bang Theory"
And I was like "okay?"
Which prompted the response "like that!"
December 20, 2023 at 3:15 PM
I have concluded that sometimes Christmas is just hard.
December 19, 2023 at 6:05 PM
If you see flying pigs that will be because I vacuumed the stairs.
December 17, 2023 at 2:38 PM
Two days in a row I have woken up without an anxiety elephant on my chest. Two days of being able to just lie in bed for a few moments just being.

Glorious.
December 17, 2023 at 10:59 AM
I'm pretending to be organised.
I have started setting up my notebook for the new year. It's basically bullet journalling but the bullet journal peeps are a bit heavy sometimes so I'm just calling it my notebook from now on.
December 16, 2023 at 7:59 PM
Today has been a day.
All in all good but so many feelings.
December 15, 2023 at 9:52 PM
My thought for 2024 is "I deserve to be treated as a person of worth, just as I am."
December 13, 2023 at 7:02 PM
Today I talked about how you have that grounding exercise that's like 5 things you can see 4 things you can hear etc and how when I was having an actual panic attack I couldn't remember it and that made everything worse.
December 13, 2023 at 6:59 PM
I feel like I have significantly improved my research for interview skills.
At my last interview I took my notebook in and it helped. (Still didn't get the job but was less anxious)

Onwards and upwards!
December 12, 2023 at 7:24 PM
Feeling almost smug because I have all my groceries for Christmas scheduled and sorted.
December 11, 2023 at 5:17 PM
I'm thinking of having a "Launch Thought" for 2024 instead of a word for the year or New Year's Resolution.

Like, a direction to focus my initial attention rather than something I'm supposed to hold onto for the entire year?
December 11, 2023 at 10:26 AM
I like reading all the bits of people's lives on here but I struggle to work out what I'm supposed to say.
December 10, 2023 at 10:42 AM
I'm about to go and get my hair cut in preparation for a job interview.

Your thoughts and prayers at this trying time would be appreciated.
December 5, 2023 at 10:37 AM
Yesterday the snow on the bare black tree branches as I drove along were so beautiful and a little too distracting.

I may have nearly crashed.
December 2, 2023 at 8:43 AM
My dog is better at housework than I am.
November 30, 2023 at 9:39 PM
If I were to write a poem today it would be about being able to breathe and feeling safe just being in my own skin.
I want to capture the magic of these days, when I have crept out of something bad but I'm not sure where to go next. But there's no rush. There's warm breath, and blankets.
November 24, 2023 at 8:44 PM
Why is it that all my best poems are rage? Why can't I write happy poems?

This is a rhetorical question.

Or maybe I want to know if other people have the same issue?
November 23, 2023 at 9:06 PM
Twice in two days I have had a chance to tell people with differently wired brains that their existence is valid and they will (or have) found their place in the world.
That they deserve to be happy, that being different means you need to advocate for yourself but they matter just as they are.
November 22, 2023 at 10:00 AM
This morning I am giving myself grace.
I'm not telling myself off for not thinking happy thoughts.
I'm looking at the grey, grey sky, and the scratchy tree branches, and letting it be.

But mostly I'm wondering where my other slipper is.
November 20, 2023 at 7:53 AM