Leanne Yau
@polyphiliablog.bsky.social
polyamory educator and sex therapist in training, posting about queerness, sex-positivity, and radical relationships
As a former semi-successful fanfiction writer: if you’re not writing fanfiction purely for the love of the game, kindly get the fuck off fanfiction sites. Monetising fanfiction is ILLEGAL loser behaviour.
Same goes for anyone who “writes” AI fanfiction. Grifters need to fucking stop.
Same goes for anyone who “writes” AI fanfiction. Grifters need to fucking stop.
February 11, 2026 at 12:51 AM
As a former semi-successful fanfiction writer: if you’re not writing fanfiction purely for the love of the game, kindly get the fuck off fanfiction sites. Monetising fanfiction is ILLEGAL loser behaviour.
Same goes for anyone who “writes” AI fanfiction. Grifters need to fucking stop.
Same goes for anyone who “writes” AI fanfiction. Grifters need to fucking stop.
Just because you're struggling IN polyamory, it doesn't mean you're struggling WITH polyamory. You're allowed to find something challenging without it having to mean anything about who you are or what you want.
February 10, 2026 at 8:13 AM
Just because you're struggling IN polyamory, it doesn't mean you're struggling WITH polyamory. You're allowed to find something challenging without it having to mean anything about who you are or what you want.
I want all the “I want two boyfriends who also kiss each other” girlies to know that polyamorous bisexual men exist and you can absolutely make that a reality right now, but you'd better make sure to unpack your internalised biphobia and mononormativity before you attempt ANY of that 💁🏻♀️
February 10, 2026 at 7:56 AM
I want all the “I want two boyfriends who also kiss each other” girlies to know that polyamorous bisexual men exist and you can absolutely make that a reality right now, but you'd better make sure to unpack your internalised biphobia and mononormativity before you attempt ANY of that 💁🏻♀️
When you're experiencing challenging emotions in polyamory, here are some phrases you can use to defuse the tension and stay in connection, rather than escalating into further conflict:
February 10, 2026 at 7:51 AM
When you're experiencing challenging emotions in polyamory, here are some phrases you can use to defuse the tension and stay in connection, rather than escalating into further conflict:
If your first reaction to your friend telling you that they're struggling in their polyamorous relationship is “maybe you should just go back to monogamy”, you're being a terrible friend. I said what I said.
February 10, 2026 at 7:24 AM
If your first reaction to your friend telling you that they're struggling in their polyamorous relationship is “maybe you should just go back to monogamy”, you're being a terrible friend. I said what I said.
I actually disagree with the advice that you should "go at the pace of the slowest person" when you're opening up a monogamous relationship, because hot take: I think that is an approach that panders to mononormativity.
February 10, 2026 at 7:23 AM
I actually disagree with the advice that you should "go at the pace of the slowest person" when you're opening up a monogamous relationship, because hot take: I think that is an approach that panders to mononormativity.
"How do I stop feeling jealous?" is the wrong question to ask.
When we feel uncomfortable, it's natural to want the feeling to stop, but this can easily slide into suppressing the emotions, which usually leads to them coming back with even more intensity later on. To avoid this, try these instead:
When we feel uncomfortable, it's natural to want the feeling to stop, but this can easily slide into suppressing the emotions, which usually leads to them coming back with even more intensity later on. To avoid this, try these instead:
February 9, 2026 at 2:38 PM
"How do I stop feeling jealous?" is the wrong question to ask.
When we feel uncomfortable, it's natural to want the feeling to stop, but this can easily slide into suppressing the emotions, which usually leads to them coming back with even more intensity later on. To avoid this, try these instead:
When we feel uncomfortable, it's natural to want the feeling to stop, but this can easily slide into suppressing the emotions, which usually leads to them coming back with even more intensity later on. To avoid this, try these instead:
cold take but to me, the entire point of being an influencer is to a) authentically connect with your audience and b) be creative, so if you’re using generative AI to make your content for you, then you are doing neither of those things and are in it purely for the profit 🤷🏻♀️
February 8, 2026 at 3:19 PM
cold take but to me, the entire point of being an influencer is to a) authentically connect with your audience and b) be creative, so if you’re using generative AI to make your content for you, then you are doing neither of those things and are in it purely for the profit 🤷🏻♀️
The best thing you can do for your non-monogamous journey is learn not to take things personally - especially when it comes to what your partner is doing with other people.
February 7, 2026 at 3:51 AM
The best thing you can do for your non-monogamous journey is learn not to take things personally - especially when it comes to what your partner is doing with other people.
Mono-poly relationships are rare, but they can and do work - and, as with any relationship, it highly depends on the people involved.
Here are the 5 traits that I see in functional relationships between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person that set them up for long-term happiness:
Here are the 5 traits that I see in functional relationships between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person that set them up for long-term happiness:
January 28, 2026 at 5:49 PM
Mono-poly relationships are rare, but they can and do work - and, as with any relationship, it highly depends on the people involved.
Here are the 5 traits that I see in functional relationships between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person that set them up for long-term happiness:
Here are the 5 traits that I see in functional relationships between a monogamous person and a polyamorous person that set them up for long-term happiness:
I've started a new series about KINK on my Patreon, where every month, I talk about one of my many sexual fantasies: what they are, what makes them hot, where they might come from, and how I turn fantasy into reality with my partners. Here's a preview: www.patreon.com/posts/nsfw-i...
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January 21, 2026 at 5:46 PM
I've started a new series about KINK on my Patreon, where every month, I talk about one of my many sexual fantasies: what they are, what makes them hot, where they might come from, and how I turn fantasy into reality with my partners. Here's a preview: www.patreon.com/posts/nsfw-i...
You can’t say you want to be polyamorous and then flake on dates whenever you feel like it, have zero consideration for your partners’ feelings and needs, get defensive when they try to communicate with you, and bail as soon as things start to feel inconvenient or uncomfortable. I said what I said 🤷🏻♀️
January 19, 2026 at 7:05 AM
You can’t say you want to be polyamorous and then flake on dates whenever you feel like it, have zero consideration for your partners’ feelings and needs, get defensive when they try to communicate with you, and bail as soon as things start to feel inconvenient or uncomfortable. I said what I said 🤷🏻♀️
a real text that my 17-year-old non-monogamous ass sent in 2016 to my partner:
January 18, 2026 at 8:28 AM
a real text that my 17-year-old non-monogamous ass sent in 2016 to my partner:
We all need to get better at recognising and boycotting AI generated content and content “creators” because if I see yet another bunch of short sentences like “No A. No B. Everything is C” followed by “it’s not X, it’s Y” with a bunch of em dashes and generic language I am going to fucking scream.
January 18, 2026 at 5:28 AM
We all need to get better at recognising and boycotting AI generated content and content “creators” because if I see yet another bunch of short sentences like “No A. No B. Everything is C” followed by “it’s not X, it’s Y” with a bunch of em dashes and generic language I am going to fucking scream.
This is WILD - I just found screenshots of my first ever dating app profile from 2016 while looking for photos to post for a throwback! I made this in October, so I had turned 18 three months before (😱), and I was in my first non-monogamous relationship of 8 months. Would you have swiped right? 🤣
January 16, 2026 at 6:37 PM
This is WILD - I just found screenshots of my first ever dating app profile from 2016 while looking for photos to post for a throwback! I made this in October, so I had turned 18 three months before (😱), and I was in my first non-monogamous relationship of 8 months. Would you have swiped right? 🤣
Dan and Phil reacting to Heated Rivalry was my crossover of the century. I am living in the best timeline. My year has been made.
January 16, 2026 at 5:27 AM
Dan and Phil reacting to Heated Rivalry was my crossover of the century. I am living in the best timeline. My year has been made.
Mononormativity taught us that your partner having other partners is a "one up" on you, that you're the "weak" one being "taken advantage of", "cucked", and perceived as "losing" to them.
January 16, 2026 at 3:20 AM
Mononormativity taught us that your partner having other partners is a "one up" on you, that you're the "weak" one being "taken advantage of", "cucked", and perceived as "losing" to them.
7 questions to ask yourself if you're looking to transition to a non-sexual, but still romantic, relationship with a partner:
January 14, 2026 at 10:43 AM
7 questions to ask yourself if you're looking to transition to a non-sexual, but still romantic, relationship with a partner:
If you still feel jealous despite having done a ton of research about polyamory, the reason is simple: there's a world of difference between intellectualising and internalising.
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
January 13, 2026 at 9:26 AM
If you still feel jealous despite having done a ton of research about polyamory, the reason is simple: there's a world of difference between intellectualising and internalising.
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
Your brain might have understood something, but your body hasn't yet. Let me explain...
so having a boyfriend is allegedly “embarrassing” now, but what about two? if they kiss, does it cancel out?
January 12, 2026 at 5:45 PM
so having a boyfriend is allegedly “embarrassing” now, but what about two? if they kiss, does it cancel out?
I have a theory that if you are a polyamorous person who grew up with siblings, how you respond to your partner's other partners is directly linked to how you were treated by your parents compared to your other siblings growing up.
January 9, 2026 at 8:35 AM
I have a theory that if you are a polyamorous person who grew up with siblings, how you respond to your partner's other partners is directly linked to how you were treated by your parents compared to your other siblings growing up.
If you’re new to non-monogamy, here are 20 polyamorous reminders to start your year right ✨ let me know which one resonates with you the most…
January 7, 2026 at 7:54 AM
If you’re new to non-monogamy, here are 20 polyamorous reminders to start your year right ✨ let me know which one resonates with you the most…
Your polyamorous life doesn’t have to be sunshine and rainbows 100% of the time to be valid or rewarding. You get to decide what is worth it to you 💛☀️
January 2, 2026 at 5:13 PM
Your polyamorous life doesn’t have to be sunshine and rainbows 100% of the time to be valid or rewarding. You get to decide what is worth it to you 💛☀️
In light of the head of Instagram, Adam Mosseri, posting yesterday that in 2026 "authenticity is becoming infinitely reproducible", this is a friendly reminder that this is an anti-AI account 🤖🚫 and just to be clear: I have NEVER and will NEVER use generative Al to create my content.
January 1, 2026 at 7:47 AM
In light of the head of Instagram, Adam Mosseri, posting yesterday that in 2026 "authenticity is becoming infinitely reproducible", this is a friendly reminder that this is an anti-AI account 🤖🚫 and just to be clear: I have NEVER and will NEVER use generative Al to create my content.
Shoutout to all the people who have decided to try non-monogamy for the first time in 2026 💕
December 29, 2025 at 11:24 AM
Shoutout to all the people who have decided to try non-monogamy for the first time in 2026 💕