Fleur Bickford
@nurturinghealing.bsky.social
Canadian RN, IBCLC and Educator with a focus on early childhood development, perinatal mental health, the nervous system, trauma and the process of healing. Fierce advocate of inclusion and kindness!
Our nervous systems are not meant to cope with the current situation. Reactions like anger & rage, numbness or apathy, or feeling stuck and not knowing what to do are biologically normal ways that our bodies try to protect us. Be gentle with yourself, and be intentional with finding moments of joy.
July 8, 2025 at 1:58 PM
Our nervous systems are not meant to cope with the current situation. Reactions like anger & rage, numbness or apathy, or feeling stuck and not knowing what to do are biologically normal ways that our bodies try to protect us. Be gentle with yourself, and be intentional with finding moments of joy.
Be gentle with yourself. What we are living through is not normal! We can't expect to function/cope the way we used to. Give yourself permission to do less.
March 18, 2025 at 2:54 AM
Be gentle with yourself. What we are living through is not normal! We can't expect to function/cope the way we used to. Give yourself permission to do less.
The world is a challenging place, especially right now. If all you're managing to do is survive, it's enough. Celebrate making it through the day and focus on the next small step forward. Sending love!
March 12, 2025 at 6:36 AM
The world is a challenging place, especially right now. If all you're managing to do is survive, it's enough. Celebrate making it through the day and focus on the next small step forward. Sending love!
So important. ❤️
For children with trauma, every interaction is them asking...
“Are we OK?”
Answer that question first, then respond to the behaviour.
“Are we OK?”
Answer that question first, then respond to the behaviour.
March 5, 2025 at 6:04 PM
So important. ❤️
With everything going on in the world, it's easy to feel like joy & pleasure are wrong. Like having fun somehow means you don't care about what others are going through. Nothing could be further from the truth. Joy, love, playfulness, fun etc are a crucial part of healing both ourselves & our world.
March 3, 2025 at 12:12 AM
With everything going on in the world, it's easy to feel like joy & pleasure are wrong. Like having fun somehow means you don't care about what others are going through. Nothing could be further from the truth. Joy, love, playfulness, fun etc are a crucial part of healing both ourselves & our world.
It's easy to feel helpless right now or that anything you can do isn't enough to change anything so why bother, but your actions DO matter. Remember, small positive actions from a large number of people adds up to a big positive change.
February 24, 2025 at 12:34 AM
It's easy to feel helpless right now or that anything you can do isn't enough to change anything so why bother, but your actions DO matter. Remember, small positive actions from a large number of people adds up to a big positive change.
If you're feeling overwhelmed by world news, you're certainly not alone. Remember to take care of yourself by limiting your exposure to social media and the news, focusing on the things that are within your control and taking the time for rest and self care.
February 23, 2025 at 11:02 PM
If you're feeling overwhelmed by world news, you're certainly not alone. Remember to take care of yourself by limiting your exposure to social media and the news, focusing on the things that are within your control and taking the time for rest and self care.
New Year resolutions often fail because big changes can feel threatening to your nervous system. Try focusing on smaller changes that you can build on to create good habits. If there's something you want to change, start by working on it 5-10 mins a day and build up as you're able.
January 3, 2025 at 4:41 AM
New Year resolutions often fail because big changes can feel threatening to your nervous system. Try focusing on smaller changes that you can build on to create good habits. If there's something you want to change, start by working on it 5-10 mins a day and build up as you're able.
Happy Holidays! Sending love to all, especially those for whom the holidays are a challenging time. ❤️
December 24, 2024 at 11:21 PM
Happy Holidays! Sending love to all, especially those for whom the holidays are a challenging time. ❤️
Being a "people pleaser" is not an identity. It's a trauma response. It's not who you are, it's what you've learned to do to protect yourself. With support, it can be unlearned to help you find your authentic self. #trauma #mentalhealth
December 9, 2024 at 12:18 AM
Being a "people pleaser" is not an identity. It's a trauma response. It's not who you are, it's what you've learned to do to protect yourself. With support, it can be unlearned to help you find your authentic self. #trauma #mentalhealth
If you're feeling like you have too many balls in the air and are overwhelmed, drop the balls that will bounce (housework, unnecessary outings, kids' activities etc.). You can pick them up again later. It's important to prioritize your #mentalhealth
December 7, 2024 at 12:21 PM
If you're feeling like you have too many balls in the air and are overwhelmed, drop the balls that will bounce (housework, unnecessary outings, kids' activities etc.). You can pick them up again later. It's important to prioritize your #mentalhealth
It's important to recognize the difference between emotions, thoughts and behaviors when talking about #mentalhealth. We don't have control over our emotions, but we do have control over our thoughts and actions. Learning how to shift our thoughts & actions is a crucial part of #healing
December 6, 2024 at 11:10 AM
It's important to recognize the difference between emotions, thoughts and behaviors when talking about #mentalhealth. We don't have control over our emotions, but we do have control over our thoughts and actions. Learning how to shift our thoughts & actions is a crucial part of #healing
Curiosity is a wonderful tool on the path to #healing. Getting curious about our feelings helps us create the space to move through them. #mentalhealth
December 4, 2024 at 4:30 AM
Curiosity is a wonderful tool on the path to #healing. Getting curious about our feelings helps us create the space to move through them. #mentalhealth
Bluesky is a good example of what we need in society as a whole. Science, collaboration, community building, friendly and respectful discussion and disagreement and shuttering of hate and conspiracy theories.
December 3, 2024 at 3:14 PM
Bluesky is a good example of what we need in society as a whole. Science, collaboration, community building, friendly and respectful discussion and disagreement and shuttering of hate and conspiracy theories.
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For anyone who might need a reminder, you are beautiful and worthy just as you are.
November 30, 2024 at 4:29 PM
For anyone who might need a reminder, you are beautiful and worthy just as you are.
Individual resilience is not something we should be working towards. Rather, the goal should be a healthy society where resilience is not a necessity. #trauma #mentalhealth
November 26, 2024 at 11:36 PM
Individual resilience is not something we should be working towards. Rather, the goal should be a healthy society where resilience is not a necessity. #trauma #mentalhealth
An important thing to understand about our nervous systems is that they don't like change. We prefer what is familiar, even if it is unhealthy, because it is predictable (and therefore easier to respond to keep us safe). This is why sudden big changes can hinder rather than help in healing.
November 26, 2024 at 12:18 AM
An important thing to understand about our nervous systems is that they don't like change. We prefer what is familiar, even if it is unhealthy, because it is predictable (and therefore easier to respond to keep us safe). This is why sudden big changes can hinder rather than help in healing.
Emotions are not positive or negative. All emotions are important signals about what is going on in our body and our environment. So called "negative" emotions let us know when a boundary has been crossed, our reality doesn't match our goals, we've been witness to an injustice etc. (1/3)
November 21, 2024 at 12:37 AM
Emotions are not positive or negative. All emotions are important signals about what is going on in our body and our environment. So called "negative" emotions let us know when a boundary has been crossed, our reality doesn't match our goals, we've been witness to an injustice etc. (1/3)
It's OK to love your baby but hate the way they came into the world. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Difficult birth experiences need to be acknowledged & processed. You're grieving the loss of your birth as you pictured it. #birthtrauma #mentalhealth
November 20, 2024 at 5:32 PM
It's OK to love your baby but hate the way they came into the world. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Difficult birth experiences need to be acknowledged & processed. You're grieving the loss of your birth as you pictured it. #birthtrauma #mentalhealth
So important! #mentalhealth
I cannot stress enough how important it is right now to do silly, frivolous things that serve no other purpose than to make you happy.
November 20, 2024 at 2:49 PM
So important! #mentalhealth
For years I had an amazing family doctor and I still miss her care. One of my favourite things about her was her willingness to say "I don't know but I'll find out" when she didn't know the answer to one of my questions. #MedSky #traumainformedcare
November 20, 2024 at 2:21 PM
For years I had an amazing family doctor and I still miss her care. One of my favourite things about her was her willingness to say "I don't know but I'll find out" when she didn't know the answer to one of my questions. #MedSky #traumainformedcare
Trauma informed care has nothing to do with knowing what trauma someone has been through. It is understanding the responses that trauma can cause and creating a safe environment, and being a safe person, so that those responses are not triggered. #MedSky
November 17, 2024 at 3:37 PM
Trauma informed care has nothing to do with knowing what trauma someone has been through. It is understanding the responses that trauma can cause and creating a safe environment, and being a safe person, so that those responses are not triggered. #MedSky