Nicole
@nicolep79mia.bsky.social
I see people. Sometimes they notice. Philosophy major in a therapist’s chair. Life’s messy; I sit with it. Hi there!
Some relationships break down because people cannot regulate themselves when their partners share their inner world. Dismissing, defending, minimizing, and avoiding become their dance until it gets old.
September 7, 2025 at 8:52 PM
Some relationships break down because people cannot regulate themselves when their partners share their inner world. Dismissing, defending, minimizing, and avoiding become their dance until it gets old.
I used to rescue people from the messes they made. All it did was keep the cycle alive. Now, I let the cards fall if I wasn’t the one who threw them. Life’s too short, and my energy is too precious to clean up after people who can’t manage their own emotions.
September 5, 2025 at 12:36 AM
I used to rescue people from the messes they made. All it did was keep the cycle alive. Now, I let the cards fall if I wasn’t the one who threw them. Life’s too short, and my energy is too precious to clean up after people who can’t manage their own emotions.
We are not who we think we are.
September 3, 2025 at 5:38 AM
We are not who we think we are.
Empathy is oxygen in a relationship. Without it, you’ll suffocate.
September 3, 2025 at 12:30 AM
Empathy is oxygen in a relationship. Without it, you’ll suffocate.
Sometimes, the best thing to do is rest in what is. Things sometimes suck, and no meaning is necessary. Just like the pain of stubbing your toe on the corner of a couch, the discomfort of the suck will pass. We can say, "This sucks, I don't like it.”
September 2, 2025 at 8:03 PM
Sometimes, the best thing to do is rest in what is. Things sometimes suck, and no meaning is necessary. Just like the pain of stubbing your toe on the corner of a couch, the discomfort of the suck will pass. We can say, "This sucks, I don't like it.”
The song "Always on My Mind" is not romantic. It’s an avoidant apology tour... I couldn’t risk showing love when it mattered.
September 2, 2025 at 5:21 PM
The song "Always on My Mind" is not romantic. It’s an avoidant apology tour... I couldn’t risk showing love when it mattered.
Relationships of all kinds can only work if presence is prioritized. This means staying in relationship when things feel uncomfortable. Healthy people lean in with curiosity and try to repair. If we pull away, opportunities for mutual growth and intimacy are lost.
August 30, 2025 at 1:11 AM
Relationships of all kinds can only work if presence is prioritized. This means staying in relationship when things feel uncomfortable. Healthy people lean in with curiosity and try to repair. If we pull away, opportunities for mutual growth and intimacy are lost.
Avoidance says: “If I never touch the thing I long for, I never have to mourn it.”
August 28, 2025 at 3:04 PM
Avoidance says: “If I never touch the thing I long for, I never have to mourn it.”
Some people want to be loved deeply without having to love deeply in return. When you pair this with someone who feels they need to earn love…I think this is the root of the situationship and someone always ends up feeling depleted.
August 28, 2025 at 2:33 PM
Some people want to be loved deeply without having to love deeply in return. When you pair this with someone who feels they need to earn love…I think this is the root of the situationship and someone always ends up feeling depleted.
When someone’s identity is rooted in being “broken,” peace can feel like a threat. Authenticity without resistance leaves them nowhere to hide. It can feel overwhelming.
August 28, 2025 at 2:26 PM
When someone’s identity is rooted in being “broken,” peace can feel like a threat. Authenticity without resistance leaves them nowhere to hide. It can feel overwhelming.
Sometimes people latch onto the identity of “healing” to prop themselves up, not to change, but feel like they’re doing something. Perpetual self-help becomes a mask, an identity to shield them from sitting with their feelings. It looks like progress, but it’s really avoidance dressed up as growth.
August 25, 2025 at 3:55 AM
Sometimes people latch onto the identity of “healing” to prop themselves up, not to change, but feel like they’re doing something. Perpetual self-help becomes a mask, an identity to shield them from sitting with their feelings. It looks like progress, but it’s really avoidance dressed up as growth.
Last Sunday, I was in pain and needed to use Instacart. The driver placed a note on one of the boxes. Later that week, I ended up having surgery. Life communicates with us if we are open enough to listen; sometimes, love and hope reach us through the kindness of strangers.
August 25, 2025 at 12:04 AM
Last Sunday, I was in pain and needed to use Instacart. The driver placed a note on one of the boxes. Later that week, I ended up having surgery. Life communicates with us if we are open enough to listen; sometimes, love and hope reach us through the kindness of strangers.
What is impermanent must be loved with impermanent expectations.
Otherwise, we suffer twice. Once when it changes and again because we thought it wouldn’t.
Otherwise, we suffer twice. Once when it changes and again because we thought it wouldn’t.
May 5, 2025 at 3:30 AM
What is impermanent must be loved with impermanent expectations.
Otherwise, we suffer twice. Once when it changes and again because we thought it wouldn’t.
Otherwise, we suffer twice. Once when it changes and again because we thought it wouldn’t.
You can't expect someone operating at half-capacity to give you their full presence.
April 13, 2025 at 5:05 PM
You can't expect someone operating at half-capacity to give you their full presence.
I don’t want someone’s performance; I want their presence.
April 13, 2025 at 4:40 PM
I don’t want someone’s performance; I want their presence.
Everyone is exactly where they need to be. It’s not my job to fix, convert, or elevate. It’s my job to meet them there, love them there, and walk my own path with integrity.
April 12, 2025 at 2:17 PM
Everyone is exactly where they need to be. It’s not my job to fix, convert, or elevate. It’s my job to meet them there, love them there, and walk my own path with integrity.
I don’t have expectations; I have a way of being. And if someone can’t meet me there, they remove themselves naturally.
April 7, 2025 at 9:15 PM
I don’t have expectations; I have a way of being. And if someone can’t meet me there, they remove themselves naturally.
Weaponized spirituality is the armor of the afraid.
April 7, 2025 at 4:12 PM
Weaponized spirituality is the armor of the afraid.
Love isn’t about pulling someone close; it’s about letting them become, even if that means stepping back.
March 30, 2025 at 12:26 AM
Love isn’t about pulling someone close; it’s about letting them become, even if that means stepping back.
The ones who carry something deep often have to wander a bit, take the long way, shed what isn’t theirs, and survive things they didn’t deserve. But all of that ripens the path. It makes the eventual clarity feel earned, lived, and real.
March 28, 2025 at 2:45 AM
The ones who carry something deep often have to wander a bit, take the long way, shed what isn’t theirs, and survive things they didn’t deserve. But all of that ripens the path. It makes the eventual clarity feel earned, lived, and real.
People are more than their behavior—they are stories unfolding, shaped by conditions, pain, and potential.
March 27, 2025 at 8:12 PM
People are more than their behavior—they are stories unfolding, shaped by conditions, pain, and potential.
The scared hides in plain sight.
March 27, 2025 at 4:27 AM
The scared hides in plain sight.
Many times, the unexpected becomes the most meaningful part of the path.
March 26, 2025 at 2:42 AM
Many times, the unexpected becomes the most meaningful part of the path.
Love can be complicated and still be real.
Boundaries can exist without withdrawal.
Helping someone doesn’t mean enmeshment.
Growth happens in the middle of the mess, not outside of it.
Boundaries can exist without withdrawal.
Helping someone doesn’t mean enmeshment.
Growth happens in the middle of the mess, not outside of it.
March 25, 2025 at 10:05 PM
Love can be complicated and still be real.
Boundaries can exist without withdrawal.
Helping someone doesn’t mean enmeshment.
Growth happens in the middle of the mess, not outside of it.
Boundaries can exist without withdrawal.
Helping someone doesn’t mean enmeshment.
Growth happens in the middle of the mess, not outside of it.
Real healing doesn't tidy people up—it makes room for them.
March 25, 2025 at 6:02 PM
Real healing doesn't tidy people up—it makes room for them.