Vic Caldarola
@menswork.bsky.social
I am the founder and lead facilitator for the Shine a Light Men's Project, a mindfulness-based men's discussion group. Most of my non-fiction essays are about men's issues, gender debates, or meditation.
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Vic Caldarola
@menswork.bsky.social
· Jul 26
‘Shine a Light’ Origins, Now a Men’s Project
A phrase with many origins, now shining a light on men’s issues.
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What makes a men's group work? We are announcing a new mindfulness-based discussion group for men. This is how it works: medium.com/modernidenti...
The End of the Line for Men:
Whatever role you thought you had…is now irrelevant. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Whatever role you thought you had…is now irrelevant. substack.com/home/post/p-...
The End of the Line for Men
Whatever role you thought you had…is now irrelevant
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February 7, 2026 at 9:16 PM
The End of the Line for Men:
Whatever role you thought you had…is now irrelevant. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Whatever role you thought you had…is now irrelevant. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Monks Walk for Peace brings tears, joy and hope to millions of Americans. www.youtube.com/watch?v=2SGy...
February 1, 2026 at 4:39 PM
Monks Walk for Peace brings tears, joy and hope to millions of Americans. www.youtube.com/watch?v=2SGy...
The New Misogyny and Violent Extremism in America. Men are in charge with shockingly regressive tactics. Read about it, make up your own mind: msmagazine.com/2026/01/24/c...
February 1, 2026 at 3:39 PM
The New Misogyny and Violent Extremism in America. Men are in charge with shockingly regressive tactics. Read about it, make up your own mind: msmagazine.com/2026/01/24/c...
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us at Meetup, or contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net
January 29, 2026 at 6:33 PM
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us at Meetup, or contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net
Food for thought. medium.com/publishous/d...
Do We Need Men in 2026?
No, we don’t. And you should be happy about it.
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January 28, 2026 at 4:16 PM
Food for thought. medium.com/publishous/d...
Do you want honesty from friends with no BS? Join a men's group. substack.com/@goodmenproj...
January 28, 2026 at 3:34 PM
Do you want honesty from friends with no BS? Join a men's group. substack.com/@goodmenproj...
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net/
January 22, 2026 at 3:31 PM
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net/
Are you ready to begin ignoring gender? Watch this amazing video interview between Richard Reeves and Gloria Steinem: www.youtube.com/watch?v=leYh...
Is there hope for gender equality? A conversation with Richard V. Reeves and Gloria Steinem
YouTube video by American Institute for Boys and Men
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January 20, 2026 at 6:39 PM
Are you ready to begin ignoring gender? Watch this amazing video interview between Richard Reeves and Gloria Steinem: www.youtube.com/watch?v=leYh...
Are you "man enough?" Do you find you are stuck in the endless cycle of "manliness?" Check this out: goodmenproject.substack.com/p/theres-no-...
There's No Such Thing as 'Man Enough' - So Stop Performing
Let's just get this out of the way: there's no medal for being the manliest man in the room.
goodmenproject.substack.com
January 19, 2026 at 3:48 PM
Are you "man enough?" Do you find you are stuck in the endless cycle of "manliness?" Check this out: goodmenproject.substack.com/p/theres-no-...
An extraordinary discussion on PBS regarding male friendship. Essayist Sam Graham-Felsen and American Institute for Boys and Men CEO Richard Reeves join John Yang to discuss why some men seem to struggle with maintaining social connections. www.pbs.org/newshour/sho...
January 15, 2026 at 9:04 PM
An extraordinary discussion on PBS regarding male friendship. Essayist Sam Graham-Felsen and American Institute for Boys and Men CEO Richard Reeves join John Yang to discuss why some men seem to struggle with maintaining social connections. www.pbs.org/newshour/sho...
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us online today! Contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net/
January 15, 2026 at 3:15 PM
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us online today! Contact us at the project website: www.shinealightmensproject.net/
What can we say about men's fantasies? Some are aspirational, others deadly. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/why-mens-f...
Why Men’s Fantasies are so Full of Promise and Yet Detached From Reality
From the whimsical to the exotic and beyond, this is sure to be a wild ride
victorcaldarola.substack.com
January 10, 2026 at 11:02 PM
What can we say about men's fantasies? Some are aspirational, others deadly. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/why-mens-f...
Here is the final episode of Einstein's Odyssey. I am certain there is more to say about loving relationships. Please comment and let us know what you think. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/einsteins-...
Einstein's Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 8
Building a loving relationship that lasts
victorcaldarola.substack.com
January 9, 2026 at 2:12 PM
Here is the final episode of Einstein's Odyssey. I am certain there is more to say about loving relationships. Please comment and let us know what you think. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/einsteins-...
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us online today!
January 7, 2026 at 3:15 PM
The Spring 2026 season of the Men's Mindfulness Group has begun. Attendance is limited. Join us online today!
The book that built an empire of patriarchy, but was supposed to be about relationships between men and women. medium.com/the-virago/h...
How the Most Popular Relationship Book of All Time Fueled Divorce
This book sold over 15 million copies — and its author had no real credentials
medium.com
January 2, 2026 at 4:14 PM
The book that built an empire of patriarchy, but was supposed to be about relationships between men and women. medium.com/the-virago/h...
Often we wonder how to respond to conflict, what to say, how to react. Here is a solution: gmpdating.substack.com/p/the-bigges...
The Biggest Relationship Mistake No One Admits Out Loud
Real love isn’t perfect. It’s two humans learning how to handle the mess together.
gmpdating.substack.com
January 2, 2026 at 4:05 PM
Often we wonder how to respond to conflict, what to say, how to react. Here is a solution: gmpdating.substack.com/p/the-bigges...
Part Seven of the eight part series. If you are thinking about commitment with your beloved, then this is for you. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/einsteins-...
Einstein's Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 7
Achieving mature intimacy
victorcaldarola.substack.com
December 29, 2025 at 7:13 PM
Part Seven of the eight part series. If you are thinking about commitment with your beloved, then this is for you. victorcaldarola.substack.com/p/einsteins-...
For the women out there: Are you sure you want your man to open up emotionally? What if you don't appreciate what he says? itskellyjackson.substack.com/p/women-want...
Women Want Men to Open Up—But Here's What Happens When They Do
What modern relationships misunderstand about male vulnerability
itskellyjackson.substack.com
December 23, 2025 at 8:19 PM
For the women out there: Are you sure you want your man to open up emotionally? What if you don't appreciate what he says? itskellyjackson.substack.com/p/women-want...
Emotional intelligence: men versus women. Heard this one before? Not like this. substack.com/home/post/p-...
why women are more emotionally intelligent than men
i’ve always believed that women aren’t born more emotionally intelligent than men, they’re simply raised that way.
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December 23, 2025 at 8:17 PM
Emotional intelligence: men versus women. Heard this one before? Not like this. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Part Six of the eight part series. If you are thinking about commitment with your beloved, then this is for you. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Einstein's Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 6
Moving toward commitment
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December 23, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Part Six of the eight part series. If you are thinking about commitment with your beloved, then this is for you. substack.com/home/post/p-...
Life and death are close companions. But why do we die? substack.com/home/post/p-...
Why Do We Die?
Considering life as a fatal condition
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December 23, 2025 at 8:13 PM
Life and death are close companions. But why do we die? substack.com/home/post/p-...
Part Five of the eight part series. If you are seriously thinking about commitment with your beloved, this is for you. medium.com/modernidenti...
Einstein’s Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 5
Preliminary commitment tools.
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December 17, 2025 at 8:57 PM
Part Five of the eight part series. If you are seriously thinking about commitment with your beloved, this is for you. medium.com/modernidenti...
Part Four of the eight part series. Please post reactions and other thoughts in the comments. medium.com/modernidenti...
Einstein’s Odyssey and the Search for Your Beloved, Episode 4
Courageously embracing change and preparing for commitment.
medium.com
December 9, 2025 at 6:24 PM
Part Four of the eight part series. Please post reactions and other thoughts in the comments. medium.com/modernidenti...
What's wrong with boys and young men? Galloway has become a must-read. Better still, order the book: medium.com/@profgallowa...
Notes on Being a Man
Donald Trump pulled off a stunning political comeback because of … young men. While the Democrats ignored this demographic, the far right…
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December 7, 2025 at 8:36 PM
What's wrong with boys and young men? Galloway has become a must-read. Better still, order the book: medium.com/@profgallowa...