Xavier Frye LSC, CHT, NLP, EFT, TT
@lionslighthtc.bsky.social
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You're exhausted because you glorify hardship, thinking that suffering is a badge of honor, that doing it alone makes you powerful, and that struggling proves your worth.
November 16, 2025 at 3:02 PM
You're exhausted because you glorify hardship, thinking that suffering is a badge of honor, that doing it alone makes you powerful, and that struggling proves your worth.
You feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fixing someone else's mess. You call yourself a people pleaser, but no one is actually pleased — least of all you. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll wait. 😘
November 16, 2025 at 2:32 AM
You feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fixing someone else's mess. You call yourself a people pleaser, but no one is actually pleased — least of all you. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll wait. 😘
You say "it's fine" even when it's not. You smooth every rough edge so no one feels uncomfortable — except you. You call it "keeping the peace," but you're really just keeping people comfortable at your own expense.
November 15, 2025 at 3:03 PM
You say "it's fine" even when it's not. You smooth every rough edge so no one feels uncomfortable — except you. You call it "keeping the peace," but you're really just keeping people comfortable at your own expense.
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
November 15, 2025 at 2:32 AM
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
Most people aren't healing. They're rehearsing pain with better vocabulary. Awareness of your problem is only part of the solution.🫠🫠🫠
November 14, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Most people aren't healing. They're rehearsing pain with better vocabulary. Awareness of your problem is only part of the solution.🫠🫠🫠
Comfort is the most seductive cage there is.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
November 14, 2025 at 2:32 AM
Comfort is the most seductive cage there is.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
Calm feels dangerous when your nervous system grew up on alarms. If your history taught you that love arrives with whiplash, that peace is just the pause before impact, then stillness won’t feel safe.
November 13, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Calm feels dangerous when your nervous system grew up on alarms. If your history taught you that love arrives with whiplash, that peace is just the pause before impact, then stillness won’t feel safe.
You're not sabotaging yourself. You’re protecting yourself.
November 13, 2025 at 2:32 AM
You're not sabotaging yourself. You’re protecting yourself.
Projection is how the mind dodges accountability without breaking a sweat. You feel something you can’t tolerate, so you staple it to someone else and call it “their issue.” You can only do this for so long until trust corrodes, intimacy dies, and people start walking away.
November 12, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Projection is how the mind dodges accountability without breaking a sweat. You feel something you can’t tolerate, so you staple it to someone else and call it “their issue.” You can only do this for so long until trust corrodes, intimacy dies, and people start walking away.
Boundaries and walls are not the same thing. Boundaries define the rules of engagement and what respect looks like. Walls sever the connection altogether. Both can sound like no, but they carry different intent.
November 12, 2025 at 2:32 AM
Boundaries and walls are not the same thing. Boundaries define the rules of engagement and what respect looks like. Walls sever the connection altogether. Both can sound like no, but they carry different intent.
Photo by Joao Tzanno on UnsplashBeing numb to your emotions doesn’t mean you’re “calm.” It means you’re disconnected from your emotions.
You learned early that feeling made you look weak and hurt too much, so you shut them off.
November 11, 2025 at 2:31 AM
Photo by Joao Tzanno on UnsplashBeing numb to your emotions doesn’t mean you’re “calm.” It means you’re disconnected from your emotions.
You learned early that feeling made you look weak and hurt too much, so you shut them off.
People wait for readiness like it’s a train they can hear coming. It isn’t. It’s a story the mind tells to stall the body.
November 10, 2025 at 3:03 PM
People wait for readiness like it’s a train they can hear coming. It isn’t. It’s a story the mind tells to stall the body.
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
November 10, 2025 at 2:31 AM
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
Everyone wants transformation, until it starts feeling like death. And it does feel like death—because it is. Not the death of your body, but of the identity that kept you alive when you didn’t know who you were yet.
November 9, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Everyone wants transformation, until it starts feeling like death. And it does feel like death—because it is. Not the death of your body, but of the identity that kept you alive when you didn’t know who you were yet.
#thework has been turned into a lifestyle. A lot of the “spiritualists” claiming they’re about that life have just turned it into an aesthetic — soft colors, buzzwords, new-age affirmations, and curated playlists. It’s been merchandised, sanitized, and stripped of its teeth.
November 9, 2025 at 2:31 AM
#thework has been turned into a lifestyle. A lot of the “spiritualists” claiming they’re about that life have just turned it into an aesthetic — soft colors, buzzwords, new-age affirmations, and curated playlists. It’s been merchandised, sanitized, and stripped of its teeth.
You're exhausted because you glorify hardship, thinking that suffering is a badge of honor, that doing it alone makes you powerful, and that struggling proves your worth.
October 31, 2025 at 3:02 PM
You're exhausted because you glorify hardship, thinking that suffering is a badge of honor, that doing it alone makes you powerful, and that struggling proves your worth.
You feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fixing someone else's mess. You call yourself a people pleaser, but no one is actually pleased — least of all you. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll wait. 😘
October 31, 2025 at 2:31 AM
You feel drained from constantly giving to people who don't give back. You're always fixing someone else's mess. You call yourself a people pleaser, but no one is actually pleased — least of all you. Tell me I'm wrong. I'll wait. 😘
You say "it's fine" even when it's not. You smooth every rough edge so no one feels uncomfortable — except you. You call it "keeping the peace," but you're really just keeping people comfortable at your own expense.
October 30, 2025 at 3:02 PM
You say "it's fine" even when it's not. You smooth every rough edge so no one feels uncomfortable — except you. You call it "keeping the peace," but you're really just keeping people comfortable at your own expense.
Real change never shows up with fireworks. It’s quiet. Subtle. It happens in the moment you choose to pause instead of reacting, breathe instead of defending, and walk away instead of trying to prove yourself.
October 30, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Real change never shows up with fireworks. It’s quiet. Subtle. It happens in the moment you choose to pause instead of reacting, breathe instead of defending, and walk away instead of trying to prove yourself.
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
October 30, 2025 at 2:30 AM
You listen so closely to everyone else’s problems, you forget what silence sounds like. You pour advice into people who never actually change. You call it being supportive, but you’re really avoiding your own discomfort by fixing theirs. How's that working for you?
Most people aren't healing. They're rehearsing pain with better vocabulary. Awareness of your problem is only part of the solution.🫠🫠🫠
October 29, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Most people aren't healing. They're rehearsing pain with better vocabulary. Awareness of your problem is only part of the solution.🫠🫠🫠
Everyone says they want change, but what they really want is comfort with better lighting. They want the relief without the reordering.
October 29, 2025 at 2:31 PM
Everyone says they want change, but what they really want is comfort with better lighting. They want the relief without the reordering.
Comfort is the most seductive cage there is.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
October 29, 2025 at 2:30 AM
Comfort is the most seductive cage there is.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
It doesn’t hurt, so you don’t question it.
It doesn’t demand, so you call it peace.
It doesn’t change, so you mistake it for stability.
Calm feels dangerous when your nervous system grew up on alarms. If your history taught you that love arrives with whiplash, that peace is just the pause before impact, then stillness won’t feel safe.
October 28, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Calm feels dangerous when your nervous system grew up on alarms. If your history taught you that love arrives with whiplash, that peace is just the pause before impact, then stillness won’t feel safe.
People always ask what kind of results my process produces. Here’s what it looks like in real life:
October 28, 2025 at 2:31 PM
People always ask what kind of results my process produces. Here’s what it looks like in real life: