Laura Deitchler
@lauradeitchler.bsky.social
Mother, lover, writer, dating expert, fashionista, critical thinker, educator. Trying to manifest a loving presence in the universe, despite all of the encouragement to do otherwise.
www.blackbirddating.com
www.blackbirddating.com
I originally posted this in 2017. Since then, my family has undergone more blue holidays. Holidays aren't always what we hope them to be. Sometimes it's all we can do to get through them. #blueholidays #holidays
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/12/03/blue-holidays-when-you-feel-more-oy-than-joy/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/12/03/blue-holidays-when-you-feel-more-oy-than-joy/
December 3, 2025 at 4:03 PM
I originally posted this in 2017. Since then, my family has undergone more blue holidays. Holidays aren't always what we hope them to be. Sometimes it's all we can do to get through them. #blueholidays #holidays
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/12/03/blue-holidays-when-you-feel-more-oy-than-joy/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/12/03/blue-holidays-when-you-feel-more-oy-than-joy/
In a world of bots, filters, and fake news, authenticity is that much more precious. In this post, I guide you through ways to discern whether or not someone is authentic from their dating profile.
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/19/looking-at-dating-profiles-discerning-authenticity/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/19/looking-at-dating-profiles-discerning-authenticity/
November 19, 2025 at 4:02 PM
In a world of bots, filters, and fake news, authenticity is that much more precious. In this post, I guide you through ways to discern whether or not someone is authentic from their dating profile.
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/19/looking-at-dating-profiles-discerning-authenticity/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/19/looking-at-dating-profiles-discerning-authenticity/
Dating and finding right relationship is hard enough. Dealing with deception and fake profiles makes it even more difficult. Some tips on watching out for phonies. #fakeprofiles #Match #dating="/hashtag/datingplatforms" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link">#datingplatforms #dating #datingadvice
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/08/a-match-com-update-fake-profiles/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/08/a-match-com-update-fake-profiles/
November 9, 2025 at 2:49 AM
Dating and finding right relationship is hard enough. Dealing with deception and fake profiles makes it even more difficult. Some tips on watching out for phonies. #fakeprofiles #Match #dating="/hashtag/datingplatforms" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link">#datingplatforms #dating #datingadvice
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/08/a-match-com-update-fake-profiles/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/11/08/a-match-com-update-fake-profiles/
How someone communicates can tell you a lot about them. That's true even for dating profiles. You can use the communication clues in a dating profile to help discern whether or not the person is worth further…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/29/looking-at-dating-profiles-communication-clues/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/29/looking-at-dating-profiles-communication-clues/
October 29, 2025 at 3:04 PM
How someone communicates can tell you a lot about them. That's true even for dating profiles. You can use the communication clues in a dating profile to help discern whether or not the person is worth further…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/29/looking-at-dating-profiles-communication-clues/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/29/looking-at-dating-profiles-communication-clues/
Online dating can be overwhelming, but if you learn to look at the information in dating profiles carefully, you can discern whether or not someone is worth further investigation. #dating…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/08/looking-at-dating-profiles-information-summary-look-fors/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/08/looking-at-dating-profiles-information-summary-look-fors/
October 8, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Online dating can be overwhelming, but if you learn to look at the information in dating profiles carefully, you can discern whether or not someone is worth further investigation. #dating…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/08/looking-at-dating-profiles-information-summary-look-fors/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/10/08/looking-at-dating-profiles-information-summary-look-fors/
A reader recently asked for my assessment of different dating platforms, so here we go! If you've ever wondered the difference between dating platforms, then stay tuned...in this first post of the series I give an overview…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/09/24/a-review-of-dating-platforms-match/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/09/24/a-review-of-dating-platforms-match/
September 24, 2025 at 3:01 PM
A reader recently asked for my assessment of different dating platforms, so here we go! If you've ever wondered the difference between dating platforms, then stay tuned...in this first post of the series I give an overview…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/09/24/a-review-of-dating-platforms-match/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/09/24/a-review-of-dating-platforms-match/
Hello beloveds! What do you want to let go of in your life and what/who do you want to welcome in? Any day can be the day you revolutionize your life, even today!
Any Day can be The Day
You don't need to wait for a New Year to revolutionize your life. Any day that you need change in your life, you can invite it in.
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September 3, 2025 at 3:05 PM
Hello beloveds! What do you want to let go of in your life and what/who do you want to welcome in? Any day can be the day you revolutionize your life, even today!
That first spark of interest with a new romantic connection is exciting, but as you're getting to know someone remember that you don't know what you don't know about them. Pay attention so that you can get to know who…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/08/20/manage-your-expectations-in-the-beginning/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/08/20/manage-your-expectations-in-the-beginning/
August 20, 2025 at 3:02 PM
That first spark of interest with a new romantic connection is exciting, but as you're getting to know someone remember that you don't know what you don't know about them. Pay attention so that you can get to know who…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/08/20/manage-your-expectations-in-the-beginning/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/08/20/manage-your-expectations-in-the-beginning/
Profile pictures are usually the initial tool we use to assess a potential romantic interest, but there's so much more information you can gather from a photo than just how attractive someone is. Tale a closer look at…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/07/30/looking-at-dating-profiles-photographs/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/07/30/looking-at-dating-profiles-photographs/
July 30, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Profile pictures are usually the initial tool we use to assess a potential romantic interest, but there's so much more information you can gather from a photo than just how attractive someone is. Tale a closer look at…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/07/30/looking-at-dating-profiles-photographs/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/07/30/looking-at-dating-profiles-photographs/
We all have lived relationship histories. Let's examine how to use those histories to make better dating/relationship choices going forward. #dating #relationship #redflags #relationshipdynamics #payattention #zoomout #replacementbehaviors #relationshipvalues #lessonslearned
#relationshipautopsy
#relationshipautopsy
Relationship Mistakes: Apply What You’ve Learned
Ever caught yourself making the same relationship mistakes even when you know better? Interrupt the cycle by applying what you've learned.
blackbirddating.com
July 16, 2025 at 3:03 PM
We all have lived relationship histories. Let's examine how to use those histories to make better dating/relationship choices going forward. #dating #relationship #redflags #relationshipdynamics #payattention #zoomout #replacementbehaviors #relationshipvalues #lessonslearned
#relationshipautopsy
#relationshipautopsy
Despite our best efforts, sometimes relationships just don't work out. When this happens, it can be helpful to do a Relationship Autopsy to better understand why. #breakups #relationships #dating #relationshipautopsy #zoomout…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/06/25/doing-a-relationship-autopsy/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/06/25/doing-a-relationship-autopsy/
June 25, 2025 at 3:07 PM
Despite our best efforts, sometimes relationships just don't work out. When this happens, it can be helpful to do a Relationship Autopsy to better understand why. #breakups #relationships #dating #relationshipautopsy #zoomout…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/06/25/doing-a-relationship-autopsy/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/06/25/doing-a-relationship-autopsy/
When analyzing why a recent relationship dynamic wasn't working for me, I realized that fun and laughter were a missing element. In this post, I examine the importance of fun and laughter in a romantic connection. #dating #relationships #senseofhumor #chemistry #laughter #fun #relationshipvalues
Relationship Values: Fun
Fun is a compelling part of a romantic relationship, and it doesn't always require adventure, but it does require a quality connection.
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June 11, 2025 at 3:04 PM
When analyzing why a recent relationship dynamic wasn't working for me, I realized that fun and laughter were a missing element. In this post, I examine the importance of fun and laughter in a romantic connection. #dating #relationships #senseofhumor #chemistry #laughter #fun #relationshipvalues
Have you considered whether or not an intimate relationship without commitment might be a tenable option? Here I offer some think-abouts. #dating #relationship #FWB #situationship #romanticinterlude #connection #communication…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/05/21/q-a-intimacy-without-commitment/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/05/21/q-a-intimacy-without-commitment/
May 21, 2025 at 3:02 PM
Have you considered whether or not an intimate relationship without commitment might be a tenable option? Here I offer some think-abouts. #dating #relationship #FWB #situationship #romanticinterlude #connection #communication…
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/05/21/q-a-intimacy-without-commitment/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/05/21/q-a-intimacy-without-commitment/
Had a great Mother’s Day at Fontenelle Forest with my son Jude! #TreeRush #Mother’sDay
May 12, 2025 at 12:37 PM
Had a great Mother’s Day at Fontenelle Forest with my son Jude! #TreeRush #Mother’sDay
Are you dissatisfied with how things are going in your dating life? It might be time to try a different strategy to match your current phase. In this post, I explore just that! #phases #dating="/hashtag/datingstrategies" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link">#datingstrategies #dating #datingplatforms #change #feelingstuck
Shifting Dating Strategies to Match Your Phase
If you're feeling dissatisfied with your dating experience, consider shifting your dating strategy to match your current phase.
blackbirddating.com
May 7, 2025 at 3:03 PM
Are you dissatisfied with how things are going in your dating life? It might be time to try a different strategy to match your current phase. In this post, I explore just that! #phases #dating="/hashtag/datingstrategies" class="hover:underline text-blue-600 dark:text-sky-400 no-card-link">#datingstrategies #dating #datingplatforms #change #feelingstuck
Not sure who you're looking for? My latest post will guide you in discerning who you seek. Good luck out there! #dating #discernment #relationship #relationshipvalues
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/04/16/discerning-who-youre-looking-for/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/04/16/discerning-who-youre-looking-for/
April 16, 2025 at 3:01 PM
Not sure who you're looking for? My latest post will guide you in discerning who you seek. Good luck out there! #dating #discernment #relationship #relationshipvalues
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/04/16/discerning-who-youre-looking-for/
http://blackbirddating.com/2025/04/16/discerning-who-youre-looking-for/
In this post, I invite you to revisit your checklist of desirables in a romantic partner, to ensure you're using it as an effective guide rather than ruling out good possibilities. #dating #discernment #checklist #relationship
Use that Checklist as a Guide, not a Rulebook
A mental checklist of wants in a romantic partner can be a helpful guide, but used rigidly, it may hinder you from finding relationship.
blackbirddating.com
April 2, 2025 at 3:03 PM
In this post, I invite you to revisit your checklist of desirables in a romantic partner, to ensure you're using it as an effective guide rather than ruling out good possibilities. #dating #discernment #checklist #relationship
Happy New Year, beloveds! Why not invite possibility into your life this year? In this post, I invite you to empower yourself with the possibility of why-not.
Why Not?
Starting from a place of why-not rather than a place of why is starting from a place of possibility rather than a place of limitations.
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March 12, 2025 at 3:14 PM
Happy New Year, beloveds! Why not invite possibility into your life this year? In this post, I invite you to empower yourself with the possibility of why-not.
Determining if and how to respond to someone you're not romantically interested in can be tricky. In this post, I offer some think abouts to guide your response.
Q & A: How do I Respond When I’m Not Interested?
Determining if and how you respond to someone you're not romantically interested in can be tricky. Here are some think abouts.
blackbirddating.com
February 26, 2025 at 4:01 PM
Determining if and how to respond to someone you're not romantically interested in can be tricky. In this post, I offer some think abouts to guide your response.
Valentine's Day is made for Lovers. If you have a lover, this day caters to you. If you're single, you can still make this day work for you!
Valentine’s Day: A Day for Lovers
Valentine's Day is made for Lovers. If you have a lover, this day caters to you. If you're single, you can still make this day work for you!
blackbirddating.com
February 4, 2025 at 4:00 PM
Valentine's Day is made for Lovers. If you have a lover, this day caters to you. If you're single, you can still make this day work for you!
Momentum plays an important role in the discernment and success of relationships. In this post, I explore how you can be more intentional and aware of the Momentum in your relationships.
The Role of Momentum
Momentum plays an important role in the discernment and success of relationships and romantic connections.
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January 22, 2025 at 4:13 PM
Momentum plays an important role in the discernment and success of relationships. In this post, I explore how you can be more intentional and aware of the Momentum in your relationships.
As we strive toward more in our lives, the challenge is to balance that with gratitude for what we already have.
Seeking Gratitude in Here on the Way to There
As we strive toward more in our lives, the challenge is to balance that with gratitude for what we already have.
blackbirddating.com
January 8, 2025 at 4:03 PM
As we strive toward more in our lives, the challenge is to balance that with gratitude for what we already have.
My latest post:
There's a lot of dishonesty in the world of online dating. Be better; be authentic. #dating #relationships #authenticity blackbirddiaryblog.wordpress.com/2024/02/21/d...
There's a lot of dishonesty in the world of online dating. Be better; be authentic. #dating #relationships #authenticity blackbirddiaryblog.wordpress.com/2024/02/21/d...
Dating Profile Do: Be Authentic
Deception of any kind is a weak footing to start a relationship with. Honesty is the foundation of trust, and trust is an important foundation for a solid relationship. Be your authentic self, to find...
blackbirddiaryblog.wordpress.com
February 25, 2024 at 3:11 PM
My latest post:
There's a lot of dishonesty in the world of online dating. Be better; be authentic. #dating #relationships #authenticity blackbirddiaryblog.wordpress.com/2024/02/21/d...
There's a lot of dishonesty in the world of online dating. Be better; be authentic. #dating #relationships #authenticity blackbirddiaryblog.wordpress.com/2024/02/21/d...
