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Kaleb Charles Horton, 1988 - 2025
This is the full version of the obituary published in the Los Angeles Times on October 7, 2025.
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I have posted the full version of Kaleb’s obituary to my substack. More remembrance of him to come.
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Videoing them is only to make clips for social media to advertise the podcast
*banging a metal pot with a wooden spoon very loudly*
people want to LISTEN to podcasts!!!!!!!!!!!!
*hitting you on the forehead with the spoon*
STOP PIVOTING TO VIDEO
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people want to LISTEN to podcasts!!!!!!!!!!!!
*hitting you on the forehead with the spoon*
STOP PIVOTING TO VIDEO
www.westwoodone.com/blog/2025/11...
November 22, 2025 at 4:46 AM
Videoing them is only to make clips for social media to advertise the podcast
A baby with his mom and younger brothers and cousin. The actual baby brother was not here. Debbie, Gabe, Kaleb, their cousin Brett, and Daniel. Daniel is doing the thumbs up Kaleb did in every photo he took with a celebrity.
November 22, 2025 at 4:26 AM
A baby with his mom and younger brothers and cousin. The actual baby brother was not here. Debbie, Gabe, Kaleb, their cousin Brett, and Daniel. Daniel is doing the thumbs up Kaleb did in every photo he took with a celebrity.
I’m choosing complete and total self-absorption in my grief. Nothing else matters. Life will generally be worse or harder but it only makes the mountain I’m on rockier. It won’t make a new mountain.
Lots of people choosing either tepid idealism or wised-up social media Leninism. Not me though
November 22, 2025 at 4:13 AM
I’m choosing complete and total self-absorption in my grief. Nothing else matters. Life will generally be worse or harder but it only makes the mountain I’m on rockier. It won’t make a new mountain.
A friend gave me a grief book today. On page 17 it says, “We consent to the grief we will experience when we agree to love someone.”
I DONT. I DIDNT CONSENT TO HIM DYING AT 37.
I DONT. I DIDNT CONSENT TO HIM DYING AT 37.
November 21, 2025 at 12:59 AM
A friend gave me a grief book today. On page 17 it says, “We consent to the grief we will experience when we agree to love someone.”
I DONT. I DIDNT CONSENT TO HIM DYING AT 37.
I DONT. I DIDNT CONSENT TO HIM DYING AT 37.
My family makes a dirty rice with lobster. It’s as essential for us as turkey. It’s caused literal fights as sometimes family members will try to take more than their “fair share” in leftovers.
Would like your most idiosyncratic Thanksgiving opinion (positive). Is there a side that is essential for you that's off most people's radar?
November 20, 2025 at 5:48 PM
My family makes a dirty rice with lobster. It’s as essential for us as turkey. It’s caused literal fights as sometimes family members will try to take more than their “fair share” in leftovers.
I got a spark of excitement today. That’s weird to feel. We are doing all new table schema for our business software at work and I’m working out the change management for the interim API builds as the deprecate the old schema. It’s stressful but gun.
November 19, 2025 at 3:05 AM
I got a spark of excitement today. That’s weird to feel. We are doing all new table schema for our business software at work and I’m working out the change management for the interim API builds as the deprecate the old schema. It’s stressful but gun.
One thing about America has been proven today. You can still sleep your way to the top.
November 18, 2025 at 2:32 AM
One thing about America has been proven today. You can still sleep your way to the top.
I had to take unpaid leave because my grief was too intense to work. Well, work accidentally paid me. It’s beyond irritating that not only do I not have income, I have to contact them to take the money back because they are incompetent.
November 17, 2025 at 6:10 PM
I had to take unpaid leave because my grief was too intense to work. Well, work accidentally paid me. It’s beyond irritating that not only do I not have income, I have to contact them to take the money back because they are incompetent.
Would anyone be interested in these old copies of Jacobin Magazine? Issues 15/16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, and 24.
November 17, 2025 at 5:16 PM
Would anyone be interested in these old copies of Jacobin Magazine? Issues 15/16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, and 24.
Before, if I was wide awake this late I would have Kaleb to talk to. Now, I have close friends, but all are in the Land of Nod and sick of my shit.
November 17, 2025 at 6:32 AM
Before, if I was wide awake this late I would have Kaleb to talk to. Now, I have close friends, but all are in the Land of Nod and sick of my shit.
Kaleb was supposed to be with my family this Thanksgiving. Instead, I’ll be with his. I’m making them my family’s special side dish: Cajun dirty rice with lobster. 🦞
My aunt just gave me the secret family recipe.
My aunt just gave me the secret family recipe.
November 16, 2025 at 5:07 PM
Kaleb was supposed to be with my family this Thanksgiving. Instead, I’ll be with his. I’m making them my family’s special side dish: Cajun dirty rice with lobster. 🦞
My aunt just gave me the secret family recipe.
My aunt just gave me the secret family recipe.
I am lucky to have lost so much. I think about how what I had wasn’t enough, and how cruel it was to take him from me so soon, before we could act on our plans, but I had him. I was his and he was mine.
November 16, 2025 at 5:28 AM
I am lucky to have lost so much. I think about how what I had wasn’t enough, and how cruel it was to take him from me so soon, before we could act on our plans, but I had him. I was his and he was mine.
Everyone is reading Lonesome Dove. Would you be interested in a book-club like discussion by chapter? Or reading along even if you don’t participate in discussion? I’m thinking of hosting this! Unfortunately I cannot do polls here, but if I get good feedback I’ll post more info.
November 14, 2025 at 3:33 AM
Everyone is reading Lonesome Dove. Would you be interested in a book-club like discussion by chapter? Or reading along even if you don’t participate in discussion? I’m thinking of hosting this! Unfortunately I cannot do polls here, but if I get good feedback I’ll post more info.
Just a reminder that I have nothing to live for
November 13, 2025 at 5:19 AM
Just a reminder that I have nothing to live for
I miss our walks. We’d stroll and mosey and meander and smoke a cigarette. Last photo is his garden, with little decorations that had been his grandparents.
November 12, 2025 at 1:20 AM
I miss our walks. We’d stroll and mosey and meander and smoke a cigarette. Last photo is his garden, with little decorations that had been his grandparents.
I returned to work today. It feels like a betrayal, to be functional enough to work and not cry for hours throughout the day. I know it’s not, but I hate living my life without him.
November 10, 2025 at 10:42 PM
I returned to work today. It feels like a betrayal, to be functional enough to work and not cry for hours throughout the day. I know it’s not, but I hate living my life without him.
Can you believe this guy (not a Bruce Dern) fucking DIED? Insanely rude of him to do. Just up and gone. How dare he.
November 10, 2025 at 5:07 AM
Can you believe this guy (not a Bruce Dern) fucking DIED? Insanely rude of him to do. Just up and gone. How dare he.
Bozo Texino. Kaleb always said if he ever got a tattoo, it would be this.
November 9, 2025 at 8:53 PM
Bozo Texino. Kaleb always said if he ever got a tattoo, it would be this.
My friend just said she shared with her coworker about Kaleb and what happened and her coworker offered to connect me with a medium. Ok. No thank you!
November 9, 2025 at 6:42 PM
My friend just said she shared with her coworker about Kaleb and what happened and her coworker offered to connect me with a medium. Ok. No thank you!
Saw an old friend tonight who lives hours away and who never got to meet Kaleb. She just hugged me and let me cry.
November 9, 2025 at 3:45 AM
Saw an old friend tonight who lives hours away and who never got to meet Kaleb. She just hugged me and let me cry.
Locket for Kaleb’s photo and hair came in. I had it engraved with just K, not KCH.
November 8, 2025 at 2:44 AM
Locket for Kaleb’s photo and hair came in. I had it engraved with just K, not KCH.
I miss my angel so much. Everyone keeps telling me he’s with me, but he’s not! He’s not here to talk to or hold. I carry him in my heart but the pain of missing him is still overwhelming.
November 7, 2025 at 5:06 AM
I miss my angel so much. Everyone keeps telling me he’s with me, but he’s not! He’s not here to talk to or hold. I carry him in my heart but the pain of missing him is still overwhelming.