Joar
@joar.bsky.social
Father, husband, and MMO Gamer. Currently playing FFXIV, Guild Wars 2, World of Warcraft and Elder Scrolls Online, not necessarily in that order. Need moar coffee!
I’d help, but she generally refuses to let me do anything other than review texts and e-mails that she’s sending. She refused to even include me in text groups of the various volunteers. So that’s my personal insanity this Thanksgiving!
November 26, 2025 at 10:39 PM
I’d help, but she generally refuses to let me do anything other than review texts and e-mails that she’s sending. She refused to even include me in text groups of the various volunteers. So that’s my personal insanity this Thanksgiving!
My wife is going to work herself into the hospital because no one is stepping up to help organize a very large meet that we host in about 10 days - 1,000 athletes and probably 1,800 spectators. Not a great situation to be in for someone with an autoimmune condition.
November 26, 2025 at 10:37 PM
My wife is going to work herself into the hospital because no one is stepping up to help organize a very large meet that we host in about 10 days - 1,000 athletes and probably 1,800 spectators. Not a great situation to be in for someone with an autoimmune condition.
Our high school swim team is a parent-led, parent-run and parent-funded organization. The school literally doesn’t even pay the coaches - we have to. The problem with volunteer situations like this is it often falls on just a couple of people to step up and lead if no one else is willing to.
November 26, 2025 at 10:36 PM
Our high school swim team is a parent-led, parent-run and parent-funded organization. The school literally doesn’t even pay the coaches - we have to. The problem with volunteer situations like this is it often falls on just a couple of people to step up and lead if no one else is willing to.
Adventures in decluttering! musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/26/t...
The Quiet Work of Moving On
There is nothing quiet about decluttering, at least not at first. It starts with the obvious things: the closets that have not been opened in a year, the drawer full of takeout menus you never use,…
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November 26, 2025 at 12:57 PM
Adventures in decluttering! musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/26/t...
A new weekly blog post about supporting your kids: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/19/w...
What It Means To Support Someone Else’s Dream
There is a moment in parenting when you realize that your job is starting to change. It sneaks up on you slowly. One day, you are shuttling your kids to practices and reminding them about homework,…
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November 19, 2025 at 4:47 PM
A new weekly blog post about supporting your kids: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/19/w...
A new personal weekly blog post, where I get a bit whiny about volunteering: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/11/w...
When Volunteering Becomes a Second Job
There’s a certain irony in volunteering. You start out wanting to help. You sign up for something small, maybe to lend a hand at a fundraiser or organize a team dinner. Before long, you’re buried i…
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November 11, 2025 at 2:00 PM
A new personal weekly blog post, where I get a bit whiny about volunteering: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/11/w...
Rich Friend: my polling place wouldn’t even let me vote for Cuomo. Total election fraud.
Me: you live in Connecticut, dipshit
Me: you live in Connecticut, dipshit
November 5, 2025 at 2:42 AM
Rich Friend: my polling place wouldn’t even let me vote for Cuomo. Total election fraud.
Me: you live in Connecticut, dipshit
Me: you live in Connecticut, dipshit
A personal blog update: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/04/z...
Zooming Out: What This Year Has Taught Me About Priorities
If you had told me a year ago how much would change, I’m not sure I would have believed you. Jobs, plans, routines, even assumptions about what the next few years would look like have all shifted i…
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November 4, 2025 at 1:16 PM
A personal blog update: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/11/04/z...
I feel like “don’t be a dick” could be a perfectly fine foreign policy doctrine.
October 29, 2025 at 4:28 AM
I feel like “don’t be a dick” could be a perfectly fine foreign policy doctrine.
I mean, the IQ test was super easy and AOC would never pass it. Except, that’s not an elephant, it’s a rhinoceros, and that’s not a giraffe, it’s a camel, but I’m sure question #25 probably went fine.
October 29, 2025 at 4:27 AM
I mean, the IQ test was super easy and AOC would never pass it. Except, that’s not an elephant, it’s a rhinoceros, and that’s not a giraffe, it’s a camel, but I’m sure question #25 probably went fine.
My heart goes out to the people of Jamaica. Please stay safe.
October 29, 2025 at 4:26 AM
My heart goes out to the people of Jamaica. Please stay safe.
Note that very little of it actually works in the real world, but as long as we can get AI to generate content pumping how awesome AI is, maybe no one will notice.
October 23, 2025 at 4:34 PM
Note that very little of it actually works in the real world, but as long as we can get AI to generate content pumping how awesome AI is, maybe no one will notice.
I love all the AI-generated "insight" about how to use "Gen-AI" to make everything fully autonomous and streamlined and buzzword this, buzzword that.
October 23, 2025 at 4:33 PM
I love all the AI-generated "insight" about how to use "Gen-AI" to make everything fully autonomous and streamlined and buzzword this, buzzword that.
FIguring things out without work, my blog update for the week: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/10/22/u...
Unmooring from Work: Identity After a Job Loss
When your job ends, it’s strange how quiet everything gets. For years, your days are built around the rhythm of meetings, deadlines, and the steady flow of people and tasks that fill the calendar. …
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October 22, 2025 at 2:25 PM
FIguring things out without work, my blog update for the week: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/10/22/u...
Some significant life events in the Lloyd household lately, a blog update: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/10/15/w...
When the Ground Shifts: Learning to Stay Flexible
Life has a funny way of testing how tightly we cling to our plans. I’ve always believed in having a direction, a loose map at least, but lately it feels like the universe has been reminding me that…
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October 15, 2025 at 6:02 PM
Some significant life events in the Lloyd household lately, a blog update: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/10/15/w...
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Wait did they seriously schedule the rapture on Rosh Hashanah
September 22, 2025 at 4:57 AM
Wait did they seriously schedule the rapture on Rosh Hashanah
Decided to bang out the personal blog post a day earlier this time: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/22/r...
Redefining Retirement
For most of my life, the word “retirement” carried a simple image. You worked until a certain age, collected a gold watch and a farewell dinner, and then stepped into a quieter life of golf courses…
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September 22, 2025 at 4:50 PM
Decided to bang out the personal blog post a day earlier this time: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/22/r...
I'm continuing the trend of doing a personal blog post update each week: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/17/t...
The Geography of Change
We like to think of change as a matter of time, stages of life, seasons, milestones marked on a calendar. But I’ve come to realize that change is just as much about geography. Where we are, and whe…
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September 17, 2025 at 2:47 PM
I'm continuing the trend of doing a personal blog post update each week: musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/17/t...
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in 2019 i wrote a piece that was like "uhhh world of warcraft has a world-ending threat every year in its timeline? pretty improbable lol!!!" and I would just like to say: I'm sorry for that particular take. History has humbled me there
September 12, 2025 at 3:52 AM
in 2019 i wrote a piece that was like "uhhh world of warcraft has a world-ending threat every year in its timeline? pretty improbable lol!!!" and I would just like to say: I'm sorry for that particular take. History has humbled me there
Did not have this on my bingo card for today. Wow.
Breaking news: 40 years after they concealed Iran-Contra evidence together, Oliver North married his former secretary, Fawn Hall.
The quiet Virginia wedding marks a new chapter in one of the 1980s' biggest political scandals. https://wapo.st/46ceGTX
The quiet Virginia wedding marks a new chapter in one of the 1980s' biggest political scandals. https://wapo.st/46ceGTX
September 9, 2025 at 7:43 PM
Did not have this on my bingo card for today. Wow.
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DON’T BE UPSET DAT SOMEONE HAS CHOSEN YOUS FOR DEY ENEMY.
BE HONORED DAT YOUS STAND FOR SOMETHING DEY FEAR.
WHEN BAD PEEPLES ANGRY AT US, WE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.
BE HONORED DAT YOUS STAND FOR SOMETHING DEY FEAR.
WHEN BAD PEEPLES ANGRY AT US, WE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.
September 5, 2025 at 4:13 PM
DON’T BE UPSET DAT SOMEONE HAS CHOSEN YOUS FOR DEY ENEMY.
BE HONORED DAT YOUS STAND FOR SOMETHING DEY FEAR.
WHEN BAD PEEPLES ANGRY AT US, WE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.
BE HONORED DAT YOUS STAND FOR SOMETHING DEY FEAR.
WHEN BAD PEEPLES ANGRY AT US, WE MUST BE DOING SOMETHING RIGHT.
Yeah, this Substack post may be the perfect reflection of my feelings about my career at this point: thestillwandering.substack.com/p/the-death-...
The death of the corporate job.
Last week, I had coffee with someone who works at a big consulting firm.
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September 9, 2025 at 7:08 PM
Yeah, this Substack post may be the perfect reflection of my feelings about my career at this point: thestillwandering.substack.com/p/the-death-...
I’m not the biggest fan of water polo as a thing for my youngest to be doing, but it does make for some cool action shots.
September 9, 2025 at 5:35 PM
I’m not the biggest fan of water polo as a thing for my youngest to be doing, but it does make for some cool action shots.
I decided to dust off my very old and seldom-used personal blog and start writing some stuff there. musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/09/w...
When Is It Time to Leave the Table
There’s a moment in every long card game when you realize you’re no longer playing to win — you’re playing not to lose. The chips in front of you may look fine, but the energy, the excitement, and …
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September 9, 2025 at 1:29 PM
I decided to dust off my very old and seldom-used personal blog and start writing some stuff there. musingsoverpintsandcoffee.wordpress.com/2025/09/09/w...
Maybe it's just me, but whenever I get one of these fundraising spam e-mails from Blue Vision, my first reaction is always that it's something about our insurance for glasses and contact lenses.
May 28, 2025 at 1:52 PM
Maybe it's just me, but whenever I get one of these fundraising spam e-mails from Blue Vision, my first reaction is always that it's something about our insurance for glasses and contact lenses.