J. Milburn
@jmilburnrp.bsky.social
Mom of 3 and Child Development Specialist
Saying “that’s not what I meant” does not change how what you said made someone feel.
March 7, 2025 at 1:55 PM
Saying “that’s not what I meant” does not change how what you said made someone feel.
When our systems of social support are reactive, instead of proactive, it costs lives.
February 25, 2025 at 1:24 PM
When our systems of social support are reactive, instead of proactive, it costs lives.
IMO
A teen who fears their parent’s reactions is at far greater risk than a teen who feels safe to go to their parents, no matter what happens.
A teen who fears their parent’s reactions is at far greater risk than a teen who feels safe to go to their parents, no matter what happens.
February 20, 2025 at 8:42 PM
IMO
A teen who fears their parent’s reactions is at far greater risk than a teen who feels safe to go to their parents, no matter what happens.
A teen who fears their parent’s reactions is at far greater risk than a teen who feels safe to go to their parents, no matter what happens.
Rights that are privileges:
To have a place in you heart that feels like home is to know what it feels like to belong.
To have a place in you heart that feels like home is to know what it feels like to belong.
January 20, 2025 at 1:44 PM
Rights that are privileges:
To have a place in you heart that feels like home is to know what it feels like to belong.
To have a place in you heart that feels like home is to know what it feels like to belong.
Don’t tell creators to change their content if the only content you interact with is the content you don’t like. If you have not been liking and commenting on their content that you do like, then you are just a hater, not a fan.
January 19, 2025 at 11:20 PM
Don’t tell creators to change their content if the only content you interact with is the content you don’t like. If you have not been liking and commenting on their content that you do like, then you are just a hater, not a fan.
Permissive parenting means your own lack of boundaries puts your child at risk. That is very different from listening to and respecting your child’s perspective.
January 9, 2025 at 10:03 PM
Permissive parenting means your own lack of boundaries puts your child at risk. That is very different from listening to and respecting your child’s perspective.
Responsive Parenting will not “work” if you still see your child as a problem you need to “fix” instead of a relationship you need to nurture.
https://responsiveparentinginspirations.com
January 3, 2025 at 7:21 PM
Responsive Parenting will not “work” if you still see your child as a problem you need to “fix” instead of a relationship you need to nurture.
When you have people in your life who feel genuinely happy when you succeed, you are already rich in ways money can never buy. And if you don’t have people like this in your life, it can be incredibly lonely.
December 30, 2024 at 9:36 PM
When you have people in your life who feel genuinely happy when you succeed, you are already rich in ways money can never buy. And if you don’t have people like this in your life, it can be incredibly lonely.
Sign that your parent might be emotionally immature.
When you create a boundary they respond with the silent treatment. When they do make contact again, they pretend like nothing happened and continue to ignore the boundary.
When you create a boundary they respond with the silent treatment. When they do make contact again, they pretend like nothing happened and continue to ignore the boundary.
December 29, 2024 at 10:18 PM
Sign that your parent might be emotionally immature.
When you create a boundary they respond with the silent treatment. When they do make contact again, they pretend like nothing happened and continue to ignore the boundary.
When you create a boundary they respond with the silent treatment. When they do make contact again, they pretend like nothing happened and continue to ignore the boundary.
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Getting ready for Potty learning with our toddler, glad I bought @jmilburnrp.bsky.social resources on the topic! Responsive parenting comes easy in some ways, harder in others for us, but in the end we are always happy we chose it. She has fantastic resources for everything.
December 14, 2024 at 6:49 PM
Getting ready for Potty learning with our toddler, glad I bought @jmilburnrp.bsky.social resources on the topic! Responsive parenting comes easy in some ways, harder in others for us, but in the end we are always happy we chose it. She has fantastic resources for everything.
If your child is being forced to go to the “Calm Corner” that is a time-out. It teaches suppression, not how to process emotions.
December 14, 2024 at 2:11 AM
If your child is being forced to go to the “Calm Corner” that is a time-out. It teaches suppression, not how to process emotions.
How much a child cries is not an indicator of attachment. How the parent responds to the crying is a better indicator of attachment.
December 11, 2024 at 11:17 PM
How much a child cries is not an indicator of attachment. How the parent responds to the crying is a better indicator of attachment.
If the parenting strategy you are using involves fear that is not “gentle” parenting.
December 5, 2024 at 10:56 PM
If the parenting strategy you are using involves fear that is not “gentle” parenting.
One of the hardest things to do is overcome your conditioning. It comes naturally to parent how we were parented. Those who do break cycles of trauma are creating a psychological roadmap to emotional health and wellness that will have ripple effects that impact multiple generations in the future.
November 27, 2024 at 5:38 PM
One of the hardest things to do is overcome your conditioning. It comes naturally to parent how we were parented. Those who do break cycles of trauma are creating a psychological roadmap to emotional health and wellness that will have ripple effects that impact multiple generations in the future.
The reality of modern day parenting is that a lot of parents will have chronically unmet needs. This undoubtedly takes a toll on your mind and body. Give yourself grace if you aren’t as regulated as you would like to be.
November 26, 2024 at 3:56 PM
The reality of modern day parenting is that a lot of parents will have chronically unmet needs. This undoubtedly takes a toll on your mind and body. Give yourself grace if you aren’t as regulated as you would like to be.